ANSWERS: 25
  • If he is going to treat you like that, and you've already discussed it with him, I hate to say it, but I think you should leave him. If he won't admit you are going out, then he doesn't feel that way about you and you deserve not to be pulled along on a string like he has you going now.
  • Take control of your life and ask yourself what YOU want to do. Feel good enough about yourself to know that you deserve better. And never give your power away to someone else.
  • I'm sorry you are going thru this. He is guttless! He doesn't have the maturity to tell you the truth to your face, so he tells other people knowing they will tell you. It's time to get the hint, sense he can't tell you. lose the loser. Start having fun, go out with friends, get busy doing things you enjoy, you'll be surprised how fast you'll be in the swing of things again. Now, call a friend eat pizza and watch a funny movie. Don't waste 1 more second on the guttless WONDER
  • you told him numeorus times,start not returning any of his calls and start going out and seeing others and live your life. don't keep trying to talk to this loser,he is only gonna try and reel you back in to this relationship that is not happening,you deserve better,than this loser. get out there andsoon you will realize there is the right guy out there for you. just be free.
  • Sounds like you already are broken if not broken up. He can't stop YOU from breaking up with him. If all you are is friends, then fine, keep him as friend and move on. Especially if he, friend or boyfriend, won't even talk to you. Say goodbye and look for someone more giving of their self.
  • he is decieving you, telling his friends one thing and telling you another. that is soooo wrong. you need to move on
  • I know exactly what you mean. my boyfriend hasn't talked to me for almost a week and I'm so scared that he might dump me next time I see him because I really don't want him too and I'm sorry I can't be much help and I'm sorry I feel a little bit better for being able to know I'm not the only one who gets this treatment.
  • Break it off. You can't just sit around with someone and never speak and still call them your boyfriend. Number one, he's telling other people one thing and you another thing which brings up the whole issue of trust, number two there's no communication. You can't have a relationship without trust or communication, and it seems as if you're lacking both right now. If you say "I want to break up", he can't say "umm... no". It doesn't work like that. You should be able to be happy, and if that means without him so be it. From the sound of things I think it will make him happier too if not right now, at least in the long run.
  • I think you're both in a situation now where you have an opportunity to learn some important life lessons... Here is my advice... Suggest to him that you think you both need some time to gain perspective, basically say that you would like to try separating for a couple of weeks... Make it clear to him that you have no intention of fooling around, also make this promise to yourself as well... During this time try your hardest not to communicate with him and avoid going to places where you'll bump into him... Hopefully you'll both know more about what you want, it sounds like you've both lost sight of what is important... Just remember that your goal in this relationship is to remain caring, honest, loyal, truth-worthy and compassionate.. one of the hardest things in life is having expectations of people and finding out that they don't meet them... at the end of the day you need to have a clear conscious because all relationships end... if you don't act morally and ethically right.. you will end up beating yourself up about all the things you think you did wrong. If anything it sounds like he has lost sight of all this, this is why I recommended a separation... think of it as tough love.. hopefully he can take some reflection and figure out what is really important to him... have patience... Just don't get too attached... there is a huge difference between attachment and love... attachment only ever ends in suffering (pain, depression, anxiety).... whereas love does not. Good luck ;)
  • If everything you say is accurate he is either trying to get you to break up so he doesn't have to, or he has another girl he is interested in but has not yet closed the deal on going out with her so he is keeping you in a holding pattern until he can either connect with her and dump you or if he fails with her go back to you. My advice would be to dump him and move on, but I'm only going on the information you provided.
  • Show him the road and dump him.....you dont need someone who treats you like that...get out there and find a new gorgeous guy to flaunt under the nose of this looser and let him see what he's missing....Good Luck x
  • First off, you need to break up with him. He doesn't want to break to break up with you because it woudn't be as easy for him to get you to fool around... hate to say it, but he isn't in the least bit interested.
  • He is using "emotional blackmail" just finish with him and give him no choice, it's time for you to move on and find someone who will treat you right, not an immature blackmailer.
  • You're not married and you don't need his permission to break up. If he's not treating you respectfully (and it sounds like he's not), move on. It's a big, big world.
  • Walk away. Never stay with a guy who says one thing to you and another to your friends. Don't settle for a relationship that is not good for you just because it's there and it's safe. Do yourself a favor, make a list of the qualities you want in a man. Then use it - don't settle for less. Might take longer to find the right guy, but you'll be glad you waited.
  • didn't have time to read the other answers but you should quit addressing him as your boyfriend.
  • Why are you waiting for him to make a decision? He's treating you like crap, you do the breaking up.
  • I would not conclude deception but that he is unclear and has more than one issue going on... I'd say he can't match the level of honesty you want to live by so the end result is the same ;-)
  • Dump him and refuse to speak to him ever again. What a puss, he can't even make a decision.
  • maybe he's just being a coward
  • i think it's high time you took the initiative and confront him about it. if he still won't talk to you about it, tell him it's over because you deserve someone who's going to actually appreciate you, and someone who is happy and willing to call you his girlfriend...
  • Man oh man. I know how this goes. Had a 3 year long distance relationship with a man who was extreemly loving and sweet, but he liked to do this occasionally too. He would send a pic of himself but then not actually communicate for days. I am overweight and shy and he is very handsome and outgoing so ...it's been hard for me to let that go. But looking at this from another perspective...I can tell you it's a simple as you are a very loving person and he needs to grow up. Don't feel bad. Just know you did this best and were the best girlfriend/friend you could be. I hope all is well with you now :)
  • i think maybe he'z probaly confused about what he wantz to do and maybe you should try to work it out but if this wanta-be relationship continuez pray about it or just cut him and do what you got to do for you.
  • I HAVE ALMOST THE SAME PROBLEM! IM TRYING TO BREAK UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND BUT THE THING IS HE WOULDN'T SEE ME!! AND STILL TXTS ME LIKE IM NOT TRYING TO BREAK UP WITH HIM.
  • Wow your boyfriend is all over the place. Odds are he is interested in someone else that isn't currently into him, and is basically dating you until he finds what he considers is a better option.

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