The same reason this is true for Women.

That's too broad a generalization, in my opinion. It's true that some people's good physical appearance might go to their head and make them feel a false sense of superiority. But that does not happen ALL the time.

There is. Victoria Beckham got him already.

I think you're looking at it backwards. If a guy is "so dam sweet", he is the best looking guy there is.

because lots of women are attracted to the assholes and the nice guys finish last.

the good looking guys are assholes because they think they are better than you are in the looks department the average looking guys have no self esteem and that is why they treat you like gold if you marry an average looking guy, the chances of him straying and cheating are less likely than the drop dead gorgeous guy.

There is a package deal, but I married him so he's off the market now.

i dont go for looks...my husband is the hottest guy i've ever met and i'm not talking about his looks

I don't consider myself an asshole, but I don't consider my self so dam sweet either. I do think i am good looking though. I consider myself the package deal.

I always thought that the good looking guys were gay or taken, the average looking guys were assholes or just interested. Then all the other guys who are interested in me and expect me to care for them: ones that won't work, don't have a car, take me out to dinner and I have to buy for both of us, etc. what I call the "sponge off the women" men.

why are the good looking chicks fickle bitches and the average ones are so damn sweet?!

I think there are lots of good looking guys out there who come with great personalities :)

My guy's way above average (people have double takes), and he's definetely not an asshole. So I guess I got the package deal. :D

Great question, my thoughts exactly. There are very few of the package deal about and most are taken. Personality is more important than looks so my aim is to look for a guy who has a top persoanlity and is just average looking, the personality will make up for the looks he is missing lol

Egos! mr Bill

I guess Im one of the lucky ones. My man is great looking and smart with a wonderful sense of humor, sweet when he needs to be and not at all an asshole. Thats why I treat him so good.

Because women tend to walk all over sweet guys and eventually get bored with them, or they enjoy someone new flirting with them. Us attractive men were taught one way or the other that Women are only people like us. and truth is, most handsome men are rejected at some points after approaching a woman JUST because it wasnt a great approach.. so.....when we do have an abundance of women in our lives, we notice that they shouldnt be worshiped. and we wont take ANY chances of being the super nice sweet guy that buys her dinner everyday. WE will be nice and sweet but hard to get when we first meet you though....

I am sweet and not exactly ugly . . .

don't you think that maybe the nice ones are the package deal? looks don't mean anything, sure there has to be a physical attraction but a package deal has nothing to do with looks, think about that or you could miss out on something great

There is a package deal. I call him my boyfriend.

A: because women teach them how to behave. B: what kind of arrogant wench are you that average looks are grosely inadequate. I can see not wanting ugly guys, but average. SNOB! then again I guess I consider 90% of us guys ugly.

lol sorry. I am of no help. I married my package deal.

I must have lucked out somehow. I got a good looking sweet one;)

maybe the good looking guys are just stuck up cause they know they're good looking and the average ones know they have to make up for not being good looking, Maybe your looking in the wrong places for men or maybe your not looking in the right way for men. Do you think you are a package deal?

SCREW YOU! :)

probably cause the good lookin ones are full of themselves cause they know they're good looking ones and the average don't really care bout looks.

the same is true of beautiful women the ones that are usually happy are the women who arent that superficial and have love and soul to give to their s/o that makes them glow with inner beauty and dont have a huge ego trip about how hot they are.I like being single too much at the moment and im actually learning about being a more intelligent guy so when I do get married I have a stable mature attitude to my relationship and im a good looking bloke that uses my heart and head in equal measures.

I'm a package deal! I'm an ugly asshole!!

maybe you should stop lookin for totally looks in a guy

There is a package deal - I already married him!!!

#1 - there is no "package deal" people are who they are. Now if you meet a man who treats you like the special person you are, THEN you have found a jewel in disquise. It's not the looks you should focus on, it's the heart.

oh come on were not ALL That bad

Not all good looking are assholes and I have run into average looking guys who were real jerks. I guess some good looking guys tend to be a bit arrogant and conceited, which, in my opinion, usually ruins it and average looking guys who are sweet become more good looking. The same is true for women as well.

Perhaps the question should be: Why are all assholes good looking?

Maybe, and really this is just a maybe I don't know you at all. You are just an annoying ***t, and not worth the time. Maybe.

Better question. Why are women so damned dmanding and can't go for the joe blow average guy? Why do you think we marry the average girls? We get shit for going after top shelf an then regret it. I think it is women who really have to change how they assess their mates.

Your question simply isn't true...I know some really hot looking, genuinely nice guys.

see it from a guys point of view...if shes better looking than him shes more than likely to cheat n be a bitch..get with someone at your level

I'm right here.

Package deals are SOLD OUT:)

I think it is because the good looking guys have been there done that with a bunch of girls and don't really treat you with a bunch of respect and care but the average looking guys feel like when they get a girl they don't want to lose her and treat her sweetly and with lots of care. That's just my point of view and I am going to be completely honest and say I fall into thr latter category here...

Of course, that isn't always true all the time for everyone. But I think it is because women fall apart at the feet of good looks, make fools of themselves over these guys, make them believe they're special because of their looks and the guys end up believing they are god's gift to women..the women create it, simply by fawning over the cute guy and ignoring the nice guy. Happy Thursday to you! :)

average looking guys who are so sweet, are he best looking guys to me. Cuz in 40 years the good looking assholes won't look good but will still be assholes. The average looking guys will still look average and will still be sweet. But I think the average ones still have good self esteem, because they know they are good people. Assholes are usually assholes because they lack self esteem.

The same reason why a lot of good looking girls are vain and bitchy. They're spoiled by their good looks all their lives----they "know" they are good looking, from the way others treat them, from what they hear, etc., so they grow up with the attitude that no one else really matters except themselves. Hence, they mistreat people and act as though others are insignificant. The average-looking ones are sweet because they "speak" from the heart and do not rely on their physical appearance to impress people. They are honest about who they are, and as such, are more open and approachable. They have a lot to give.

Maybe because the right lady has not found me yet......LOL.......................M.C.S.

I don't agree...some good-looking guys are sweet and some average guys are not. Looks matter only before you get to speak to someone and then they either get better looking or go downhill (for me anyway). Maybe we just have different tastes, but I think the personality really adds to someone's looks. You can see beauty in the eyes and in the smile--those are my "hot" points. There are many "package deals" out there ...as a matter of fact there are a few right here on AB. :D I'm making a special wish for you to find your "package deal" soon.

okay...old thread. This obviously only applies to certain people....I didnt mean ALL guys, but some..most.

Based on your question, if you were to find a "package" man then that would make you either a good looking a-hole, or average looking sweetheart.

Why can't you overlook the physical part and go with the one that last forever. Looks come and go but personality lasts forever as it's said. Don't look for perfection as it doesn't exist instead look for love and you won't be disappointed.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My fiance isn't what you'd consider handsome by society's standards, but I think he's the hottest thing around because I love him.

I have no idea what you're talking about. I'm average and I am not a nice person. As far as the self esteem issue goes, it's a mute point. I find all humans to be equally worthless.

its definitly rare, just never lower your standards i found my package deal :)

because good looking guys have had women chase them there whole lifes, guys who aren't as good looking have had to develope a character, and learn how to treat girls instead of being pricks to them and moving on to the next girl. i know what kind of guy i am and im not a prick lol

Good-looking guys are assholes because they like to use their attractiveness to intimidate women and be "The Man." They are just looking to launch an inferiority complex. Average-looking guys are genuine, not obsessed with their appearance, and don't feel the need to constantly impress those around him that don't matter. They are sweethearts to prove that 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder.' I've dated guys before that I thought were hot, and my girlfriends wouldn't agree. So you should base someone's attractiveness on their character, not their exterior.

Try to find, till you get the desired man in your life! No one can tell you about their assets and qualities!It's up to you to check every guys privates and then decide who fares better if not best!!

Im right here.

There are those in existence but there are few.

They're out there. You just have to make yourself into the best "you" you can be. But, as I had to discover, if you look for the perfect partner, don't be surprised if he or she is looking for the perfect partner too, and that just doesn't happen to be you!

Hey now.. People Consider me Above average for some reason.. and i know i am a gentleman.. so thats not true for everyone

not to toot my own horn but i am the whole package ;)

Its because the good looking guys know that they can get most girls. The average ones have to work harder so they appear to be nicer.

Because a totally hot guy doesn't have to be nice...it sucks but it's true. I myself am an average looking guy( a "6" according to the rating system)...but a really sweet and noble guy(going to school for special education to help kids). Girls seem to see this and favor it over a hot guy. Hot guys are not as common as hot girls. In fact, I have seen only one hot guy in the last two years of college....but he was an asshole to everyone he did not like. Including a lot of women. There really aren't a lot of hot guys out there for a couple of reasons: - A hot guy has a perfect body. It takes years to get that. I started working out 3 years ago as a scrawny guy and now am just average. So, to be in really good physical condition, it will probably take me a total of 7 years. -A hot guy usually has a 6 pack. Even at the gym, I have only seen one guy with a truly good 6 pack(they had ripped arms and legs but no 6 pack). A 6 pack relies on genetics and how you were born - A hot guy usually spends money on plastic surgery. Most guys don't do that... -A hot guy has to get tans..again..most guys don't do this. -A hot guy probably spends more time on his physical appearance then a hot girl. Most guys don't have that kind of time. By "hot" I assume we are talking stunningly attractive and not just attractive. So, you are going to have to pick....the average guy who treats you great...or the hot asshole Also keep in mind that hot guys know that they are hot and will usually only date hot girls... So, a hot guy will probably treat you like dirt if your an average looking girl. Most girls accept who they are and date their equal...after high school.. are you in high school?

i think im pretty good looking and im not an asshole. you just have to find the right guy. like me.

I think of my husband as a package deal. But honestly, if he was average looking today I wouldn't know because I am drawn to him for soo many other reasons. He is funny, understands, and protects me so well that made him so atractive to me! We can grow, change, and move dynamically together and that is so beautiful I don't the notice the bad hair cuts when they happen (and they happen to everybody)or when he takes time off work and gets a bit out of shape. Also everyone is an asshole from time to time. I expect him to be human, otherwise why would he be with me? I am (probably)not a perfect little packege deal myself! After years of marriage with someone you're going to see a lot of different faces from them anyways. Try not to size them up so hastily!

well the good looking guys sadly enough just know they can be assholes and if they are nice and good looking odds r they are gay :) package deal would be a once ugly fat guy who turned into a buff piece of action.. which happens sometimes but I wouldn't count on finding one.. I think i am fairly attractive and my g/f is a fox or so I'm told and im not an asshole..then again i'm 5'10 220... i think my personality is what gets me the women but i dunno...ever watch the pickup artist? Simeon is going to be an asshole once he gets done with that deuce bag mystery who has no sense or clothing style he dresses like a gothic cowboy

Zep Girl. Are you really good looking btw? Maybe a good looking guy feels he doesn't have to try as hard with an average girl like you? Did you ever consider that?

hahaha coz good looking guys can afford to be assholes, they dont need to snivel around women catching there tear like nice guys do! that is why you like them, they possess confidence and the ability to flaunt their sexuality without caring. oh and a big tip to all the girls, you cannot change an asshole no matter how hard you try! oh and not all good looking guys are assholes! best advise is to approach good looking guys coz 9 times out of 10 the ones that have the confidence to apprach you will be an asshole!!!

i think the same holds for good looking women being a biatch.

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Because they have been told they were good looking all their lives!!! Just remember that looks fade and you want to really be with a person that treats you the way that you want to be treated.

My boyfriend is a package deal. You can't have him. ;]

Sorry, I'm taken already.

I have a package deal :) He's good looking and so dam sweet! One can never generalize, though it is more common to find goodlooking a**holes, then average looking ones. It's because of their sky-high self-worth.

call me....

You calling me an asshole?

the good looking guys are assholes b/c they know they can manipulate and use shallow women. we women need to stop falling for those types and try to see through the bullshit. i guess we can't find the package deal b/c nobody's perfect.

Because the good looking guys truly care about themselves more than the woman or guy they are going out with. Pride is what makes them assholes. It is one of The Seven Deadly Sins and that is why they will "reap what they sow." Those guys don't deserve good women.

Hey Guy --- Its not them its YOU. - The heart knows who the heart loves. - Unfortunately your heart is brand new, never been used. -

Greatness is inversely proportional to population - the greater they are, the fewer they are, and the greater a pool of women they get to select from due to their greatness. Most of the people above are right about self-importance, except for one thing - it's necessary for self-confidence. The sweet guys genuinely care about the world around them more than making sure they look fuckable.

My husband is hot, and the sweetest man in the world. He's MINE! ;)

Ego run rampant.

Here's a few questions for you. Why do you have to have both? What makes you think you deserve a good looking guy who is sweet? and while I'm at it why can't you just be happy with the average looking guy who is sweet? The one bad thing about AB is Avatar pics are so small that it's difficult to see them real good unless you have the vision of superman. But judging from what I can see you look very young I'd say early to mid 20's at most.If I'm right I suspect you haven't grown up yet because if you have then you wouldn't be asking this question because grown ups realize that there are a billion more important things to look for in a partner than how good looking s/he is. Real Mature adults put looks somewhere near the midway or lower part of their list of priorities of what they want in a partner because they are mature enough to realize that over time physical looks fade away but inner beauty and personality rarely ever changes

Because the assholes know they're good looking and know they can use it to their advantage. I must say though, I know more decent good looking guys than rotten ones.

Because you base your attraction then entirely on looks and you have prejudice against attractive guys based on some prior event where you allowed yourself to be trapped in a crap situation based only on physical attraction. Also, women are attracted to confidence. There is a very fine line between confidence and dickhead. Confidence easily plays out as "attractive" to women. Most dickhead types know this and play off of it. If you want proof, just read some "how do I meet women?" guides online. "confidence confidence confidence!" Likewise, "shy" often and easily plays out as "snobby" to women. I would guess that these jerk guys of which you speak approach you, whereas the "nice guys" don't, or you're friends with them, or a friend of a friend, or a hook-up from a friend (friend says "he's a really great guy, just shy, but really nice, he needs a date!") but you're not WOWed by them as their lack of confidence becomes more apparent. I would bet also that you're in your 20-30s when people want the hot bodies and crazy confidence and wild fun type thing rather than "nice and comfy"- and that you're getting to the phase where you're beginning to want to settle down but see all of your previous choices as fun but relationship failure types (one night stands with a hot bod doesn't require much beyond "put cock in pussy!" in terms of conversational skill) Why don't you go out and find a guy without much confidence, at the club maybe a drink-sipper-wall-hanger guy, and not the satin shirt unbuttoned to rock hard abs pop-n-locking dance floor wannabe. Look for an attractive guy that you might consider a bit snobby and standoffish, likely he's just shy. Approach him yourself, instead of being dragged onto the dancefloor by wannabe pop-n-lock who gets you wasted and into bed. Hookup through facebook or something first instead of rolling out of the club drunk with mr.dickhead for a one nighter. Chances are wall-hanger dances better anyway. Just remember about confident guys, "confidence" is what the "con" in "con-man" and "con-game" stands for. Read those "how to pick up women" guides online and identify those characteristics in guys and avoid the heck out of them because 9 times out of 10 they're dickheads just wanting to get laid. Now, there IS the other 1 out of 10 in that category also, who would also be likely prime for what you're looking for, so it is not an exact science. But go for awkward rather than confident, I say. And also identify your priorities because you get what you look for. No one is forcing themselves on you (and if they are that is a different problem entirely). And remember to say NO to guys. The type you want is probably too much in their shell to be so forward as to elicit you having to say NO anyway.

We are not all that bad. Come on. True, most of us are gay however.

Well i don't know about that!! But you should see me!! I am good looking, and sweet!! I am the true package deal!! ;)

good looking guys are assholes b'coz they thought they can do whatever they want and get away with it,but an average guy can do so much so the only way for them to get a girl of their dreams is to become sweet and hoping that girl might change their mind and realize that average is better than a good looking guy.

That's not true. I know some very nice guys who are extremely attractive. But they are married.

Hey, I'm not an asshole! ;)

Really? I feel different... The damn sweet ones are always the good looking attractive guys. And the assholes are ugly fucks.

I think everything has a price to pay,if something is good you would not get it 100% and if something is bad it would not be 100% bad,i believe it's the creation,so that is my theory.