Because no offence here but you guys love attention and when porn is on girls lose all their power over us and they cant take it.

I'm not sure, if my b/f wants to watch porn then whatecer, but for some women it could be the thought that they aren't good enough, pretty enough, or exciting enough and that's tp them the reason you watch it.

I'm not disgusted by it, I know my husband does it, I know men like it. I'm not really into it but, it doesn't cause any strain in our relationship. I think some women are threatened by it like, "Why aren't I enough?" they are insecure really. My husband truly loves me, is affectionate, faithful and we have a strong relationship, that makes me feel very secure.

I think its the fact that the guy is looking at other women, and getting turned on by them, most likely. The woman likes to be the only one capable of getting their partner "in the mood." In my case, I don't care if my partner watches or not..Hell, I'll even watch it with him. With my current boyfriend, however, he doesn't watch porn. Sometimes I'll start watching it when he's with me..And he doesn't even get turned on from it! He says I'm the only one capable of doing that. =)

there has been only one time porn bothered me...for the most part I find it healthy and fun..I had a bf that watched it excessivley...he'd stay up all night in secret downloading it(he fried my computer doing this)..had a huge collection of it including stuff that hed made of ex gf's(as far as I can tell without their knowledge..or at least without the knowledge that he was posting it on ametuer porn sites) and he would pressure me to dress like the women in porns he watched. after a very short period of time I began to feel like he was a person who objectified women. This repulsed me and I cant help but think he was seriously screwed up!

I dated a guy who had a porn addiction. It got so bad, that he would get up in the middle of OUR sex to "get a drink" and I would find him in the other room watching porn. This went on for months. Sometimes it would be violent porn, where the man is punching the woman in the face, smacking her, etc. Needless to say, I was disgusted. My self-esteem was very low because of this guy, and I felt as if I weren't enough to satisfy him, or anyone. Now, with my current guy, it doesn't bother me so much...I was honest with him about what happened in my previous relationship. He respects my feelings towards certain things, and doesn't watch it when I am around. It still kind of gets to me sometimes, but then I remember how much he loves me, how sweet he is to me, and that if I asked him to stop he would in a second.

I'm personally bothered by it at times. I've tried coping with the fact that my bf watches porn, but it always goes straight back down to pit bottom. Sometimes, i just dont understand what the use is.. But then, i realise, he only watches it when im not around. Hes a nice guy, hes sweet, and i know he loves me. but damn, sometimes.. i just wish that sh!t never existed.. I personally won't break up with my bf over porn, unnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnlessss... hes on one of those sites where you can talk to a chick on webcam.. and tell her to do certain things by all means thats WRONG absolutely wrong!! - especially if the guy watching it has a gf.. i mean seriously. My boyfriend tells me hes doesn't do that tho.. so i'll take it word and just try to forget about it. But all in all.. i just get really bothered sometimes and i just dont understand why he watches it.

Pornography has long been an a topic of concern both on a moral and religous prospective. I think most women and even some men are bothered by the tought of there lovers viewing another person in a sexual manner may make them feel uncomfortable because they feel their bodies are not perfect like the images provided by the porn industry. I think another reason is that they feel that there parnet is not being honest about viewing pornography and this may make it easier for the partner to lie in in the furtue. Though this is only spectulation as there may be many reasons that someone would feel uncomfortable. The fact about the matter is that the human body is constantley on display in our world today . Even when not viewing porn it is easy to run across pictures, movies, and music videos displaying bodies in a sexual and arosing manner. With this said the concern is on the rise as guilt free plessures turn into addictions.

I can understand a woman being bothered by their partner watching porm. Sometimes I think that these are women who are not happy or comfortable with their own bodies. Personally, porn does not bother me. In fact, when my boyfriend and I were first getting to know each other (7 years ago), we talked about this and much more in details. We hid nothing from each other. I knew what turned him on and he knew what turned me on. We watch together but it has never been any secret between us. I believe that couples should be open and honest however, if one or the other develops strange patterns or begins to dip into porm associated with children - there is something wrong in that.

The woman either feels like she's not attractive enough, the sex isn't good enough or doesn't like women exploited. However, pornstars choose to become pornstars; it's their choice and they shouldn't be judged as "exploited."

This "someone" isn't ;). I think if he had an obsession I would mind, but as long as he loves me, and still finds me attractive even though he watches or looks at porn or nude woman, I am not going to control or demand him to stop that behavior.

There is the possibility that a partner who watches too much porn will develop an unrealistic expectation, and will always be looking for the ultimate, ever more erotic, ever more exciting sexual experience, and in the real world of relationships could be destined to disappointment, for the start of sexual relationships is very intense and erotic, but it calms down in time and one cannot expect sex with a partner each time to be ever more exciting and ultimate, for at some point the attraction will peak and then the intensity begin to wane.

Because why would a person watch porn if they ahve their partner to have sex with. lol.

i don't understand either. men are visual creatures; if they want to watch some naked women touch herself or have sex with another guy or a girl for that matter, so be it. as long as he is faithful to me, i have no problem with it. porn isn't cheating, so i don't care. GOOD QUESTION! i was asking it myself when i saw it had already been asked.

Maybe people are bothered by porn because it demeans the relationship between men and women making it into something that is little more than the rutting of animals. There is very little about the porn industry that is beneficial to society. It take young, generally good looking, naive people and encourages them to engage in very risky behavior. They promise these people fame while both the purveyors and consumers of this stuff really hold the "actor" in contempt. Once they have been used up, the industry just casts them aside in favor of the next pretty young thing that it can lure into its clutches. Add to this the fact that pornography glories in the myth of sex without consequences. This is a pernicious myth that is infecting much of society these days. Sex does have consequences. These can range from unwanted pregnancy to the transmission of diseases that can leave a person unable to have children or even kill. The promotion of "Safe sex" practices actually helps to spread the problem because it gives people a false sense of security. (Else where I have linked to studies that bare this assertion out.) So, people are bothered by porn because they know that it exploits people who are vulnerable and it promotes behavior that can destroy lives. There is really nothing to be admired about this industry and we would all be better off without it.

It never use to bother me, as a matter of fact, my husband and I use to watch together. But I have to confess, as I've gotten older, I'm not as cofident about my looks so I feel unfortable because I can't help but think of how awful I look in comparison to the women in the porn materials. My husband says he thinks I look great, so it's just my own insecurities, but I'm sure other women often feel this way just as I do.

Ok puffmasterprince...I don't like it because right after he watches it he wants it ...what gets me is it that he was turned on by an other woman and not me...and then expects me to help him out afterwards...it HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH CONTROL!!! so get over yourself with that one....And just like a man we women want to know that we are the only one...

Maybe it depends on the situation, why somebody does watch to much. I think, if woman would be all crazy about it like some men are, that would bother them the same way and would anybody wonder... why she does it or what is she missing... and so on. I guess it is always a point of few, but when you ask a men the question, for example you think then he want to have sex with that woman he see in the movie, than everything is focust on that. If woman would go over the mens feelings like that and only would watch what they want in that way, I think a lot of guys would wonder and be bothered the same way.

I'm not bothered by it. I watch it myself. I think as long as it does not take away from time with each other (meaning when you aren't around or hanging out) who cares.

I think most women are too insecure to allow such unabated competition for their partner's attraction. That's probably not the answer they'd give, though.

I don't know, I think he should be able to watch at porn as much as he wants as long as I don't know about it. He should also adjust the history so it doesn't appear so the kids can't run across it.

I don't think it is a jealous thing more than a fucntional thing. If a man becomes all wrapped up in porn and never has relations with his wife because of it, then the porn is causing a relationship problem. That is the crux of the issue I think.

I think it all depends on the type of relationship that you have. And what you think is going through your partner's mind when they are watching this porn. For instance, with my last ex, I couldn't stand the fact that was watched porn all the time because it made me feel like he did it because he wasn't satistied even though I gave him everything he wanted in bed. With my current boyfriend he doesn't watch it as often but if and when he does, I really don't care because he makes me feel like the porn isn't necessary, its only there when I'm not. In which case I have no problem with. Overall, I think it just stems from trust issues with your partner. I learned this from being on both sides of the situation.

I'm bothered by anyone watching porn. I think it's a disgusting industry and it makes me see freinds/family who view it in a whole new light.

my self and my lady both enjoy porn and so do 99% of the people we know(couples and single males/females)and we can not understand ladies or men who get upset with their other half watching porn ...seems to us that the ones complaining are the ones with the problem so instead of whineing and whinging and tanty chucking they should go and chat to someone about their problem(s) and getting them fixed instead of blameing the porn/hubby/wife...maybe then they can open up sexually and start to enjoy a healthy sex life

I believe its possibly jealousy that there is other women involved

It's because we want to be the exclusive provider of all arrousal for the man!

Porn is a relationship destroyer! Men watch it because they feel the need to have something more than their wives, sometimes even children are hurt by the effect. Sometimes, it gets so bad that they have to take it out on children because their wives are probably sick of it all the time. So, porn is ungodly and sinful in God's eyes.

It used to bother me but now I think that I would rather him do that at home or whatever then go out and mess around! I'm even to the point where I would watch it with him! LOL

I don't like to watch porn but it doesn't bother me if my partner looks at it when I'm not around. We only get to see each other a couple of weekends a month so I understand if he needs some harmless activity. He says he doesn't watch it but he's old fashioned and may be embarassed to tell me. I just tell him every now and then that I don't want him to feel embarassed or guilty if he does.

I'm not bothered by it at all. Especially if we watch it together. If it keeps his sex drive up, then it's cool with me. Besides, porn can really teach men a few things. Women too. Now, when they start saying people are attractive right in front of you(irl) and start belittling you, then you should get upset.

I think it bothers them because either they are insecure or they object to it for moral/religious reasons. I actually have an issue with my boyfriend and pornography... but the fact that he looks at porn isn't what bothers me. It's just that his porn habits displace sex with me sometimes.

i am not bother by my hubby watching porn i actualy watch it with him or have sex while we watch. it fun...

When a woman gives her body to her man, he should only desire hers, for she trusted him enough to give her flesh to him. A woman giving herself to her man is thrown around much too much these days, no one really realizes what they do when they "have sex" anymore. Therefore, when a man watches pornography he is being aroused by another body, another personality, another woman.. How close does this come to cheating? Think about it... very. He is not touching her, but he is in fact thinking and imagining about this whole different woman, why not be loyal and think of his woman who gives her entire self to him instead?

I enjoy porn myself and I do not mind if my partner enjoys it also, that to me makes it sooo much better! One of my closest friends cannot stand that her hubby watches it, she says that it makes her feel insecure about her body. She feels as though the chicks in the flick are what he wants over her. I try to explain that the ladies in the film are simply fantasy to him and that he must like her body if he constantly hangs on her!

Because for a woman, a partner watching porn feels like him saying "Watching this is so much more enjoyable than anything else... including being with you/doing it with you." Admit it, most guys don't have wives with bodies like what you see in porn videos. That's why they watch these things: it's a fantasy that arouses them in no way their plain-looking partner can.

I think the reason it bothers me is twofold. I grew up in a very strict Mormon community and if you watched or looked at any porn it was an addiction. And the other is that I have major insecurities. I know my husband thinks I am beautiful but I don't think I am near as pretty as those girls. I am trying to get over the fact that in normal society porn isn't as taboo and that my husband chose me for a reason. Its still taking awhile but I will get there

I think ignorance and/or insecurity are the primary reasons. the fact that most men watch privately makes it appear they have something to hide. women hate not knowing! and we're very self depreciating thanks to our fabulous media(never skinny,rich,educated enough.) say if you also tossed religion in the mix with insecurity technically there is a storm 'a brewin.

could it b that they're bothered about porn because they're jealous. ?

It's because life changes - and so do we -- and when we're dealing with the realities of pregnancy, raising kids, and juggling a million things - we need a partner. It's hard to feel connected to a man who has a fantasy outlet - particularly if it's one that has escalated into some hardcore and secret stuff (which is often does.) Somehow a lot of men don't quite 'get' that they've gotten fat, their hair has thinned and they're not 'hot' by objective standards. They still feel they should have a sex goddess (or two or three) to service them - and the male entitlement and arrogance in this idea really turns off most wives.

They like it too, but are hypotwits about it!

I dont think theres anything wrong with it on the whole, however my boyfriend rufuses to have sex with me cos he's tired etc. but watches porn when i go home. Personally, i don't think that is right..he would rather watch that than be with me. Btw im 18 and kinda pretty, thin, what more can i do??

at first when i found out that my bf watched porn i felt hurt b/c he was getting turned on by other women in the film and not me. I felt that sex was a sacred thing that should only be shared by couples who love and care about eachother. I just did not want any other women (even on film) turn him on b/c i felt that this was my job and in a way it was cheating. my view has changed since then. I dont mind my boyfriend watching porn because i know that he loves me and he only uses it to help him "get off" when im not there. But when im there he does not watch it. im still a bit iffy on the pron issue but ive learned to just accept it.

It only bothers me when the porn is old school (no anal) or has an actual plot. :)

Some think that if they need to watch porn then they are not satisfing them enough Some probaly are brought with porn being seen as evil Some think that we watch porn and wish our g/f looked like the porn star

Personally I'm not bothered by porn viewing. Sometimes I even watch it with him or by myself. I'd only start to be bothered if, like the first respondant, my boyfriend grew addicted to it, and he began to be more interested in it then our real sex life.

I think this is because women have such low self esteemes and never think there good enough for the guy their with....

Women enjoy Porn too. There is Womens Porn all over the internet! We are Human and Visual Beings too! Society brainwashes many women and makes them think they are not suppose to look at sex/naked men or masturbate. We need sexual release too! Women who were brainwashed not to do these things can't cope when their bf's look at porn because they were taught it is bad. Start looking at womens porn/Playgirl and masturbate and you will find you have a lot in common with men. Don't listen to society! We are all human and we are all visual!!!

As long as it doesnt affect your personal sex life, its fine by me. We were on the computer and a lot of sex pop-ups came up, an he went bright red trying to get rid of them. We thought it was hilarious, until one of them was sound enabled...then it got awkward. Seeing as his mum was in the next room LOL.

Women like there toys its all adult stuff and we all have the choice , as long as its legal. Each woman will know why they are bothered but what ever it is, its an insecurity.They might defend this with some moral reason why they think their boy friend souldnt do it, but anything that anyone does that makes us feel unsafe is an insecurity.

this is hard to answer because i absolutely hate my fiance watching porn. its not the fact that he watches it but its the fact that he tries to hide it. just because i'm not in the mood at a certain time doesn't mean go watch some other people fuck while you masterbate to it. it means wait!! wait and build up that energy and use it on me tomorrow or whenever. it will only make the orgasim that much better. its the fact that their watching other people have sex to satisfy their needs. it wouldn't be any different then him sitting in a room of people fucking. i want my man to be focused on me and my body and us having sex not getting excited and pleased by other people doing it. like i said its hard to explain. there is not good words to use when discussing this. i just don't agree with it

my husband became an addict...our marriage is over

There are allot of emotional and social issues where porn is concerned. And it can be either good or bad within the context of a relationship. I'd like to share some rather interesting thoughts about porn I came across not to long ago. Sorry but I'll have to paraphrase a bit. The viewing of porn could be seen as the expression of a deeper need that was not being met in the person who was watching it. That beyond the obvious sexual side of it, the person viewing it could be using it to deal with or meet the needs of other issues such as stress, rejection, freedom, or any number of things and that often they were not even aware that this was what was going on... This same piece then went on to say that the partner who was having a difficult time with their partners viewing of porn needed to do some serious self examination as well. That they needed to get at what was the "core emotion" of their feelings rather than the symptomatic results of the core emotion. i.e. insecurity is a response (result) statement to the core emotion of fear. These statement struck a cord with me, as I was looking to get at "the why of it" on both sides of the coin, and the standard explanations I kept coming across just didn't seem to really answer my questions. It then went on to say essentially that with an understanding of both sides of the issue people could then begin to have more meaningful conversations about porn as long as the conversations were had with an attitude of love, respect, understanding and honesty. One of the nice things about the piece was that it didn't couch these thoughts in terms of either position within the issue as being exclusively male or female. I know this isn't exactly a cut to the chase answer for the question...I just found the thoughts within the piece to be an interesting view of the issue and rather helpful by offering a different perspective from which to approach the matter.

I notice men are bothered by women viewing nude guys. The men get so upset that they pass sexist remarks like " Only men are visual!" So maybe some women don't like men viewing nude ladies.