Caught TALKING to this guy? What's wrong with that?. Is your wife tied to a tree or something? Is she your slave who must do as you say at all times? Give me a break--the problem here is with you, not her. She's entitled to a life, to speak to other people--and sometimes they will be men. You should work on building your own self image--your ego--so that you wouldn't be threatened by your wife TALKING to this guy.... And it wouldn't be so bad if you developed a few female friends either. You might get some insights about the feminine way of thinking.

I don't understand the way you put it, as in "caught talking". First of all, talking shouldn't be against the marriage vows. What is a problem is if she is, or has replaced you with this guy as the object of her affections. So ask her just what kind of relationship she feels exists between you and her. And, what kind of relationship exists between her and this guy? If you are troubled by what you see and hear, it's about you and she needs to understand you are concerned. Her telling you the conversations mean nothing isn't stopping you from being upset. So, if she is interested in maintaining the relationship with you, she needs to work at that relationship. Perhaps couples counseling would be helpful. Good luck with this.

Things of very emotional nature like that are like a doctor trying to do heart surgery on himself. He can't.Most medical professionals would recommend you and your wife go to a marriage counselor together. I personally recommend getting the opinion of a male counselor and also of a female counselor to get both viewpoints. Also,You're beginning to see the need in life of having a friend with strong moral values who can be trusted to not flirt or have interest in your wife (or a female whos not a lesbian)and who she doesnt know. Then your friend could spy on your wife with your input as to when she leaves the house and bring back pictures of what she and her male friend are doing.Then you can confront her and see if shes telling the truth. Hope that helps This experience you are having will ultimately make you a stronger person. If it doesnt kill you or get you in jail first. So keep your head and avoid anger at all costs.

Relate.

Relate.

If her communications are through the internet, disconnect it and see what happens. Watch her behavior....you should be able to tell if she turns into a nutty bitch cuz she can't talk to him. If so, there is something going on there. Chances are she is leaning on this other guy instead of you, her mate. Which is not right for a married person-that's what your spouse is for. If it doesn't get better for you, consider the previous suggestion of counseling

leave.

If she hasn't stopped now, it won't stop. It'll only get worse. Get out while you can. I know it sucks with the kids, but you don't want the kids to be miserable with you two pissed at each other. That's been my experience anyway.

Talking is not the same thing as cheating. Get over it.

Some people are on here are questioning, "what's the big deal? There's nothing wrong with just talking to someone." the thing is.. his spouse had told him that it was over. Now why would she say that unless she felt guilty and she knew her behavior is wrong? If she believed, "hey it's just talking, there's nothing wrong" then she would have said so and made her point. However, because she didn't and she seemingly showed that her behavior was inappropriate, she said that she would stop talking to this man she keeps in contact with and it would be over. The fact that it still goes on, in spite of her husband asking her to end it, shows her lack of respect to his feelings. If she really wanted to remain JUST friends with this person then she would have approached it properly and talked to her husband about the way she felt. But she didn't. She ignored her spouses feelings and continued to have whatever relationship with this person behind her husbands back. It's a trust issue and she broke his trust. The husband has a right to be suspicious. For the husband, I would talk to your wife and I would sincerely ask her if this relationship with this man was more important than the well being of your family. You're obviously concerned about your children and I commend you as others are not as selfless as you. You put your kids above everything else. Seek a marriage counselor if the situation gets worse. Meet the man to gain prospective of your wife's position if you have to. He may really just turn out to be a friend. If things don't go well, then you know that you've done everything to keep your family together. Everything else depends on your wife and whether she wants to pursue her relationship with this man.

Talking to a guy is no sin. However, obviously there must be something about THIS particular relationship that bothers you. I am working on the assumption that you don't go nuts over every guy she speaks to.... If she has gone over the line as far as this guy is NOT just a friend in YOUR mind, the best thing to do is to INTRUDE on them. When she is talking to him, be right there. Go meet the guy, start talking to him. Either you all will become friends or, IF there is something more to it, one or both will back away. It's a start anyway.