Im watching a 13 yr old with anger issues and i complete brat every day this summer. I most of the time just wanna slap him to shut him up. How can i restrain myself but also teach him im the ruler when his father is gone?
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you should just ignore him and laugh in your head how funny or stupid he's acting. showing him that your the boss is going to be harder though because he's 13 and propably doesn't think he needs a babysitter. try giving him as many choices as possible if that doesn't work punish him, like sending him to his room, or taking the t.v or snacks away.
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The angrier you get the angier he is going to get so to avoid any anger outbursts between the two of you, just keep reminding yourself that staying calm and in control by not taking notice of him when he's not being co-operative, will probably turn his mind to other things. Show him that you don't want to rule over him but that you enjoy his company, have interest in him and want to get on with him.
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Assaulting the child will only land you in jail. Every thought of looking for another child to watch? Two wrongs do not make a right and with both people like a time bomb, you need to go another direction.
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Don't give him any special treatment. If he asked for a cookie before dinner, tell him no. If he acts up, gently put your hands on his arms and explain to him in kind words why he can't have the cookie... actually make a 30 min info speach. :) that's punishment enough. ;P As for yourself, try to stay calm, when he's in bed take a nice warm bath and Relax. If you think you're about to go insane, take a deep breath, and count to 10.
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You don't need to be the ruler - you need to be his caregiver and though a caregivers role can be difficult - if you set your mind to achieving a positive outcome then you will. Try organising some suitable, time filling and interesting activities for the child. You could also ask him to spend some time teaching you how to do something he enjoys doing so that you have something in commom. I'm sure that if you offer him a little more patience and understanding you will feel better within yourself and he will appreciate your efforts and eventually respond to them.
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