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by Jodie44 on June 9th, 2007
Of course not. I would regard anyone who thought so as having a damaged brain.
by Starmaster on June 9th, 2007
That's a terrible statement. It is like comparing a human being with a "thing", with an "object" that are created to be used "brand new" by someone. A woman who was raped is just a human being who went through a terrible, traumatizing experience and who deserves our help and support.
by Nelson - Jetpacking from bed on June 9th, 2007
Not just no, but hell no. Someone shot me once, am I damaged goods? No. I may be less trusting of people pointing a gun at me, but an act of violence outside of your control does not make you "damaged goods". It may cause physical or psychological trauma, but I'm still the same smart a$$ I've always been.
by Madame Riverotter on August 23rd, 2007
Absolutely not and I would give the evil Mom-look to anyone who would mention such a thing in my presence. Having been raped myself, I understand the horror, shame and despair that goes with such a violation; and mine was back in the very early 80's when the police were- still inclined to tell the victim (ie: me) that she imagined it all. (Um...no, not bloody well in a million years).
Women, and men, who are victims of rape and especially of violent rapes are indeed damaged but in no way do they become "damaged goods" with what that might snigglingly entail. May no one ever find out what damaged actually feels like.
by anonymous on August 22nd, 2007
Honesy time here
I was raped and no I don't consider myself 'damaged goods' but the men that did it to me are definitely damaged and a whole lot more.
by Midnighttoker on June 4th, 2007
not at all.
by Elleonora on June 10th, 2007
i consider the rapist as damaged goods, in his head.
by Anonymous on June 9th, 2007
No way. It's not their fault some animal abused them.
by Oddjob on June 9th, 2007
No control I know some girls that had this happen to them and I don't look at them any differently then I did before their attacks.
by jin jang on June 4th, 2007
This statement is a thing of the past.It was a term that might have been relevant many decades ago but has none these days.
by AntigoneRising on June 15th, 2007
No. I don't consider humans to be "goods" of any type, under any circumstance, nor do I respect those who espouse a view in favor of any human being "goods" at any point in time, under any circumstance.
Sick mentality, really.
by Shelby on June 4th, 2007
Absolutely not. It takes a lot to be labeled as "damaged goods" in my opinion. First of all, they have to intentionally damage them self...(Think crack addicted prostitute)
by Galeanda on June 15th, 2007
Not at all, even if the person is a virgin, friend or a fiance or anybody. They are hurt, abused, frightened, angry but they are NOT damaged and they are never 'goods'.
by Nelson - Jetpacking from bed on June 9th, 2007
Not just no, but hell no. Someone shot me once, am I damaged goods? No. I may be less trusting of people pointing a gun at me, but an act of violence outside of your control does not make you "damaged goods". It may cause physical or psychological trauma, but I'm still the same smart a$$ I've always been.
by unknown on June 9th, 2007
I absolutely do not regard a rape victim as Damaged or any other kind of goods. They are people and the surely need my sympathy and understanding.
by MrWitch on June 9th, 2007
Fair comment Riff Raff, and points. I think the term used, however, has other connotations far beyond that the victim has suffered some emotional or psychological damage.
I've known a few people who would do so. Usually such a position is motivated by position, and their own or other's perceptions of where they 'sit' in society - 'What would the neighbours think?'. Thankfully, I think you'll find that the vast majority of people raised in a western tradition would say 'no'. I wonder if people who are not too rich for their own good would say the same?
by I love my baby on June 4th, 2007
I really hope no one says yes to this.
by GuitarPlayer92 on June 4th, 2007
No because that is something that's beyond their control.
by El Soupy spanish for the soupy on June 4th, 2007
heck no. I wouldnt cant say I know anyone who was, but thats not something one can controll, so why would I hold that against them...
by Meleggles on March 12th, 2008
That would be horrible! They ahve been hurt abused, used, victimized but not damaged like some case lot of goods that falls off a truck. What was done to them was on purpose and vile.
by u.. on June 15th, 2007
Rape is an act of violence -- like any other crime against a person. In my opinion the perpetrator is the only one who could be viewed as "damaged goods." There has to be something seriously wrong with anyone who would violate another person in such an invasive way. The survivor of the attack is deserving of consideration and positive support -- absolutely no negative labels at any time.
by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on June 9th, 2007
this question is not easy to answer. there is a lot of hurt that can result from a sexual attack or ongoing sexual abuse. if the victim was not damaged to some extent, there would be no need for rape crisis counselors or therapists
by Aero the lifeguard on November 2nd, 2008
NO! Thinking that way about people hardly makes you any better then the person who raped them.
by Calehay on March 16th, 2008
D-d-damaged goods?!
These are people, not merchandise.
by macdjug-Paxvobiscum on March 12th, 2008
Damaged Goods is a lousy term to describe someone who was raped.It is a very demeaning term by someone that would just see women as sex objects not people. They have been hurt emotionally and need understanding and compassion.
by Katie on March 12th, 2008
Hell no. And they shouldn't feel that way either. Part of the healing process is to over come those feelings and hopefully they are surrounded by people who can encourage the thought that they are not damaged.
by Ec-nal Licensed Bootie Inspector on March 12th, 2008
Far from it. Someone put through such an ordeal would seem to me to be wiser as well as gaining other insights others never will. That would certainly be an attraction rather than a detraction.
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on June 9th, 2007
Not on your life. She maybe hurt mentally and physacilly, but she is in no way "damaged goods", She's the victem of teh most violent, violatiing crime you can live and tell about later. She needs our support and understanding not our judgment. He on the other hand needs a bullet to the skull.
by dingo on January 1st, 2009
Yes and No. I was raped 14 years ago and every once in a while I feel like damaged goods. The feeling will sneak up on me and completely throw me off.
Unfortunately, everyone who has survived a rape has scars that will never really heal. I am now a rational, well adjusted member of society, but the scars linger.
So while it is unfair to label people such as me, the fact remains that we will always view life differently than we would have had the act not occurred and while the anger, resentment, bitterness, fear and every other emotion under the sun will eventually subside, the damage and subsequent scars don't ever heal.
by Blur79 on July 16th, 2008
Definitely not. That person has been through enough, they don't need others thinking less of them because of something they had no control over.
by iwnit on June 15th, 2008
"Damaged", probably, they could necessitate medical and psychological care after this.
"Goods", certainly not, we are not talking about lettuce or apples here, are we?
by Arisztid on May 20th, 2008
I regard someone who was raped as a survivor.
I do not hold a very high opinion of someone who would think of a rape survivor as "damaged goods."
by squarepeg on May 20th, 2008
of course not.
by Jess=) on March 16th, 2008
Someone who is raped should not EVER be referred to as "damaged goods". A person who is raped is someone who was taken advantage of. I, being a victim of rape when I was younger, would never refer to myself as "damaged goods", and anyone who would even refer to me as that would be ignorant and arrogant. The only time that someone should ever be referred to as "damaged goods" is when the person had a choice on what they do to their bodies, and if they do not respect themselves and have sex with whoever, whenever. THAT'S damaged goods because, like they say,"When you sleep with someone, you're sleeping with everyone else that they've slept with too."
by Deasea on March 12th, 2008
god no. they had no say in being raped, by the very definition of the word "raped"! although I don't really think there is any time I would regard someone as being "damaged goods" ..
by Anonymous on March 11th, 2008
No thats stupid to brand someone for something they had no control over.
by DukeG on October 30th, 2009
Good god no. It was no fault of theirs.
by Born In Disguise_x on March 5th, 2009
No way! I have no reason to think that.
The only one who's "damaged" is the person who did the raping! At least they would be if I got hold of them...
by NightTripper on January 4th, 2009
That sounds like something only a rapist would call someone who was raped. Only a heartless bastard who just wants sex would say that.
I was raped and reading all these answers (even though I only saw one that said yes before I stopped) really just triggered me. Sometimes I feel dirty because I've been touched by such nasty people or slutty because I feel like I should have done more to stop it or like I let them do it because I didn't go as far as to scream and break their noses. I don't really feel damaged, just more needy in terms of having to hear and see from my bf that he cares about me and isn't just using our sex for his own physical pleasure.
Sorry I rambled. I had some feelings to get out...
by Mario--leaving AB for a while on January 1st, 2009
no.
by royal77 says hello friend on January 1st, 2009
No, that would be very demeaning.
by Ed the Jetpacking Headbanger on November 29th, 2008
Definitely not.
by Nikkay on November 11th, 2008
no its a horrible thing to call anyone
who went through that. its referring to a person
to a thing or object.
by Anonymous on November 2nd, 2008
Who are we to judge, if we would be the victim we wouldn`t like that judgement. Damaged goods is the person who commited the crime, they have been put through the mill and back!
by Dr Jones on October 27th, 2008
Of coarse not. This sort of thinking implies that women are comoddities to be controlled by men.
Some people are even so sexist as to describe all unmarried non-Virgin women in this category.
My girlfriend was unfortunate enough to be raped when she was 15 and it does not diminish her in any way in my eyes.
by quack is whack on August 14th, 2008
As someone who has been through rape, I will tell you that I am in no way "Damaged Goods." I would find it insensitive and disrespectful if anyone were to refer to me as such.
Was rape damaging? Yes, of course it was, but I have managed to survive and move forward. It was brutal, and yet I know enough not to project my own bad experiences on to others. So though it was a damaging experience, I myself am not "damaged" because of it. I am a very stable, strong person.
I know that in your question you yourself were not projecting your own views of raped/sexually assaulted women as "damaged goods." But there are people who feel that way - unfortunately, my family are some of those people. I wish that this weren't so, that society as a whole could recognize that in no way is rape the woman's fault, and how much more painful it is to first of all go through such a thing and then subsequently be stigmatized for it. What the victims and survivors need is support and understanding. It really isn't fair, but such is life and human nature.
by Penal Colony is wicked marrying Andy on July 7th, 2008
Absolutely not. I have been in relationships with several women who have, unfortunately, been raped or sexually assaulted at some point in their lives. It breaks my heart to hear that someone I care about has been through such a tragic and evil violation, but it is also heartening to know that they are (usually) strong enough human beings to have refused to let these experiences ruin their lives or turn them into bitter, jaded, or fearful human beings.
In my opinion, it is absolutely unconscienable to blame a victim of sexual assault, or to in any way consider them inferior or "damaged" because of something over which they had no control.
by Canace - Gone on July 7th, 2008
For me, being raped made me feel like I was damaged goods in need of repair.
by veroniqueka on June 15th, 2008
This phrase was made up by the same "smart" people that revebalized the whole english language.That person was sexually assualted.Giving an incident or condition some "flowername" doesn't change the incident.Sad but true and that someone will never think of herself she was a damaged good.
by Skrubby on June 12th, 2008
Not normally. It all depends on how they act. If they were raped 10 years ago and have moved on with their lives for the most part, I respect and admire their courage. If they were raped 10 years ago and lets say bring it up within the first 2 minutes of meeting someone like someone did whilst talking to me at the bar, i tend to think yeah, this person is damaged, emotionally.
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I salute your answer.
by Michie on October 1st, 2007
Thanks, Michie. I speak from personal experience.
by Jodie44 on October 1st, 2007
very well spoken (so to say )
by jinalkothari on March 18th, 2008
Good answer!
by Arisztid on May 21st, 2008
Thanks, y'all.
by Jodie44 on May 21st, 2008
so true .he must have perverted brain
by sharpjwe on November 8th, 2008