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I have massive trust issues. I've cheated on my boyfriend and he found out, but i'm still the really insecure one, why? It's killing me.
by Blondie on January 6th, 2011
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So my boyfriend cheated on me and he told me about it. I talked to the other girl and i don't know who to believe. some parts match up
by randombuzz on December 14th, 2010
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Is it better to tell the truth or keep it to myself?
by terd on August 24th, 2010
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A guy cheated on me with his firlfriend. Should he tell her. She lives out of town.
by miss3972 on October 4th, 2010
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Almost got caught cheating but how do I stop sounding weird? He's annoying me with the ''You have been acting strange lately''?
by Blowercup8ip on November 10th, 2010
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You're reading I had just recently cheated on my boyfriend and I know that if I tell him about it he will break up with me. I don't want that to happen so should I just keep quiet or come clean?
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So every urge you have, just say god gave you that urge and it's okay? What a crock.
by Penny The Wise on June 4th, 2007
Okay, so God didn't give me that urge. But it isn't one that needs to be suppressed. Like stealing cars, or forcing people to think the way that I do...
by centrator on June 4th, 2007
Sex with your wife shouldn't be supressed. Sex with someone other than your wife behind her back- that should. You promised her you would only sleep with her, and to go behind her back and break her heart is disgusting. If she did it to you, it would be disgusting too. I just can't wrap my brain around all the excuses people come up with to do stupid, bullshit things.
by Penny The Wise on June 5th, 2007
Please explain to a very naive man why "faithfulness" is so important. What is so great about fidelity? Why is lack of fidelity considered by so many people to be a "crime."
by Stronghart on June 5th, 2007
I'll take my relationship for example. I entered this relationship having a conversation that we would be only sleeping with each other, unless we both agreed upon having another join us in bed. It had to be mutually agreed upon and both of us comfortable with all of it. That was our understanding and our promise to each other. That requires trust. Now if either one of us snuck out, and cheated, behind our back- that would be a breach of trust. It would break my heart that he felt that 1, there were problems he couldn't talk to me about, and 2, that I wasn't good enough for him, and 3, that he would lie to me like that.
I am not saying that everyone should only have one partner ever. There are many gray areas- Threesomes (That are agreed upon by BOTH parties), people who DON'T commit, and date around- Monagomy is not for everyone. But if someone PROMISES me monogamy- I take offense to that. It's the same if not worse than lieing about anything else. Its disrespectful IMO.
by Penny The Wise on June 5th, 2007
The difference between a threesome and cheating- is that one is agreed upon, it's not done sneakily and behind someone's back, betraying their trust. And the other is. It's breaking someone's heart for the sheer fact that someone couldn't own up to their mistakes, or talk about problems. If they didn't want to be in a monogamus relationship- it should have been stated in the first place, not promised otherwise. THAT'S where my problem lies. If you tell me you want to NOT settle down, and just date, and date other people and not be tied down, that's great. Do what you want to do. Just don't hurt someone else becaue you couldn't be honest with yourself and the other person.
by Penny The Wise on June 5th, 2007
So, then is your recommendation that the questioner should "own up?" risking the destruction of an otherwise good relationship? That would be foolish, to say the least.
by centrator on June 5th, 2007
An otherwise good relationship? They cheated, it can't be THAT good!
by Penny The Wise on June 5th, 2007
I guess that some people can be satisified with the one partner, and that their love for that partner just grows and grows, and that they each remain content knowing that that they have limited their life on earth to just one wonderful, all encompassing person, and a life range similarly cordened off from the rest of the world.
I guess we're all alike anyway, so what is there to experience, to learn?
by Stronghart on June 6th, 2007
Some, Most can be satisfied with only one partner. That's what marriage and marriage vows are SUPPOSED to stand for. But I'm not really sure what your point is. If you are someone who wants to spend their life with 1 (one) person, then you should. But if you don't, I don't think you should lie and say you want to settle down if you don't. Stronghart, you obviously are one who doesn't want to settle down with only 1. That's okay, as long as you are up front about it and don't lie saying you want to settle down only to break someone's heart. Are you seeing my point? Am I making my point clear? I'm not trying to be condescending, I'm actually curious.
by Penny The Wise on June 6th, 2007
Stronghart -- if you really meant that question seriously, the lack of fidelity is considered a crime of sorts because when someone is in a monogamous relationship, they generally want to be THE one person that their partner loves and/or have sex with (whether those two are confused or not). If your point is that monogamous relationships are bad (maybe I'm wrong, but it seems to be that), I disagree -- but I have also been in an open relationship and I don't think that's a bad thing either, as long as you trust your partner to love you and understand the difference between sex and love, and so on. The thing about open relationships though, both partners /agree/ on having sex with other people and know about eachothers' sex lives, at least to that extent. But as far as cheating goes, it's betraying your partner's trust, IMO.
by Indigo- in the library with the revolver on June 3rd, 2008
Indigo, Stronghart didn't ask the question, he only answered it.
by Penny The Wise on June 3rd, 2008
Let me break it down, one more time. If you SAY you are going to be with only one person, but then go around and sleep with others, that's lying. Period. THAT is my problem. BUT, if you are OPEN AND HONEST about not wanting to settle down, and keep multiple partners, then I have no problem. I have a problem with the LYING and the betrayal. Does that make sense now? I'm not saying everyone has to only have one partner, I'm saying it needs to be said, not lied about.
by Penny The Wise on June 3rd, 2008
Lying is usually, but not always, a sign of an inferior relationship, and, for that matter, a sign of an inferior person. One doesn't have to lie. Marriage is very important for reasons other than fidelity, such as raising a family, growing old with one whom you love, as well as the usual financial reasons. But fidelity does not have to be a part of it.
Recently someone on AB pointed out the changes in life expectancy. When your great-grandmother signed on for a lifetime with your great-grandfather she expected to spend twenty years at most with him. That isn't the case anymore. One must have outside relationships, like lovers or mistresses, if one is live a full life.
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At least we agree that lying is not good. And, by the way, I wouldn't trade my husband for anyone. But a good part of my later life with him, has been to know other men...And, what's good for the gander is okay for the goose.
by BrendaStronghart on June 3rd, 2008
That's fine if you both agree on it. Why is that such a hard thing for people to understand??!?!?!?!?!? If in your marriage/relationship you both AGREE that it's okay, then it's okay!!!! If one or the other or both don't agree and feel it should be just one and only, then that's another story.
F*ck whoever you want, just don't lie to your partner- NOW does everyone understand?!?!?!?!?!
by Penny The Wise on June 4th, 2008