Most likely it means that sex is the most important thing to him, and he'll say anything (including "I love you") to get it. Stop and think: how much can he love you if all he cares about is getting the sex he wants the way he wants it with no concern for how you might feel about it. (Also, that kind of ultimatum makes me wonder what kind of sex he's into.) Love isn't about sex. It's about sharing and caring and working things out so that BOTH people are comfortable with the relationship. This guy doesn't sound like he gets that. You deserve better. KarmaKitty, please remember to rate answers on how well they answer the question that was asked, not on trivalities that don't have anything to do with the actual question or answer. Your suggestions about him may be correct... but have nothing to do with the question that was asked.

This is a GREAT question, and I have a little more experience than some people. Let me give you a little of my background, so you know where my info is coming from. One of my best friends, a guy, was dating a girl, who, in the course of their relationship, became a very good friend of mine. He had always been, for lack of a better term, a little perverted when it came to sex. He always wanted to try new things, and wanted a girl who was willing to do the same. She, however, was very unadventurous when it came to sex, and she was happy with the same 3 positions she had always known. She was afraid to try new things. For a while, things were fine. He loved her, and that was enough to keep his "desires" at bay. As time went on, however, he began to realize that he was not out-of-line by wanting her to try new things, and he discussed it with her. She wasn't receptive to the idea, and it ended up being the basis for their breakup, 3 months after they had gotten engaged. So, to help with your question, all I can say is that you have to find someone who is tune with you both emotionally AND sexually. If the guy you are with "requires" someone who will do the things that he wants, and you aren't willing to be that person, then you may have to accept that no amount of love between you will solve this problem. I agree with the first answer that love and sex aren't the same thing, but you wouldn't want to give up some of your "ideals" for a relationship, so why should he, not matter how ridiculous they may seem to anyone else? Best thing: Talk to him openly about it. Find out exactly what he is envisioning, and decide if you are willing to try. Don't let him degrade you into doing something you don't want to do, but be aware that he may believe that he can only be with someone who will. Either way, you'll be better off once you know what exactly you might be getting yourself into. Good luck! Edited: I am sorry if somehow this didn't answer the question. What does it mean? It means that being with someone who is willing to try new things sexually is very important to him, and he wants you to know that.

To me, this means that he is more interested in controlling the relationship, getting what he wants, and be damned with you. A relationship is a two-way street. This fellow prefers one-way traffic.

It sounds like he's had a relationship mess up before because of this issue and he thought he'd better get it in the open at the outset to avoid it happening again. The partner definetely needs to think seriously about whether they are willing to try "anything" . What does "anything" mean exactly anyway? The couple need to discuss that too- outrageous behaviour to me might be quite normal to someone else, and something I consider "a bit kinky" might be completely outside someone elses frame of reference (ie- they've never even heard of it!) - find out exactly what it is he is into- is it S&M, swinging, threesomes? Once you find out what he actually means, you may even breathe a sigh of relief because you've done it all before anyway (most guys are nowhere near as adventurous as they seem to think they are)! Or you may be horrified.. if so maybe its time to split cleanly now, rather than messily later. And be grateful for the warning!

Never let a guy change you and always be yourself and never loose yourself. I think he's a loser and you shouldn't have to change for him.

This guy doesn't seem to know the difference between love and desire. He desires you on his terms, but if you can't meet his conditions then he can't "be with you." He doesn't love you, he just desires you. He is selfish and controlling. Moreover, his "try anything once" is a pretty dangerous agreement. Are you willing to do sex with multiple partners? Animals? Inanimate objects? Are you willing to allow him to brutalize and humiliate you? How about asphixiating you to the point of death while he's penetrating you? These are all practices going on right now among people who will "try anything once", and they can lead you to prison, incurable and sometimes fatal diseases, psychological damage and even death. How do you know what his limits are? How do you know he has any limits at all? This guy doesn't seem to care AT ALL about you, your feelings or your sense of propriety. Ditch this sick S.O.B. now and find yourself a guy who will actually put your feelings before his own.

The first thought that came to my mind was that he is using you.

Sounds like he's a very selfish man who wishes to control you. Does he try to control in other ways? Money for example? What about friends?

Sounds like bullshit. Sounds like a guy who has been watching a lot of porn and figured out that using the 'love' line can get him some hootchie. If you're asking this question, you may be feeling unloved and hungry for some love. Maybe your relationship with your parents isn't that great or you don't have a strong loving peer support group. I would walk away from this one and try to strengthen my relationships with others in my life.. the people I know I can trust to love me so I don't fall for these types of ruses.

Keep him away from the "exit". That's not love, he just wants to learn what it'll feel like before he goes to jail. Are your eyes as important to him??? Your laugh??? Ask him to see if he really loves you??

it means he doesnt love you. because if he did, he would wait untill you were comfortable to try new things. a relationship should be something BOTH people in it are sure about

I think he's probably had crappy sex partners...and he just wants to put it out there...but, that isn't something you say or request to someone you love...you cross that bridge when you get there...and if someone you love isn't willing to do something the other one likes sexually the other should respect that...there should be compromises...like I love her so I'll do this for her or to her...but, not like hey this is what I want and you have to be willling to do anything when it comes to sex...somethings don't turn everybody on...that's why we're different...I agree with the other answer...he is trying to control you and wants to feel secure about his sex life.

well, you tell him that that to be with you, respect is very important and so is free will! He's acting very manipulative and controlling. Put your foot down now and let him know he can't push you around with words of love.

my advice is that if you are old enough and from your heard if you are willing to do than to it. but one thing most of the guy want to have sex but after that they used to breakup with his sexualy partner so be carefull in that area. are you sure that he really love you and after your sex is he willing to marry you

It means he's leaving an opening for an excuse to cheat on you, because if you don't agree to EVERYTHING, he will find someone who's willing.

if this person trully loved you for ho u r and what you stand for that would have never been asked...

These days, it's hard to find a guy who isn't just looking to get laid. Most gentalmen have died out, and women now accept that. Personally, no matter how old I am, I would never think of sex as important. Sex is not important, it is a temporary, unlasting sensation that gains you nothing. For the guys that disagree, get your heads out of the gutter you placed your self in. Physical pleasures are nothing compared to the happiness you could get from a relationship with light laughter, because coarse humor corrupts.

Means that he is a typical guy.He thinks he can have you submit to his sexual requests by saying that he loves you.But,I don't mean he doesn't love you.

straights i had a girl with the same problem always looking for love but finding a morning of confusion and sadness but wemon can use men so i think its up to a women to decide whats right for her and to ask for advice play it safe use a latex

It means he is being honest... he loves you but wants you to be a freaky...well you know LOL...

It doesn't mean he doesn't love you; he is just someone with uninhibited sex drive, which if you don't share it is going to just increase as a problem.

It means you better start running in the opposite direction.

Don't believe everybody who says they love you. After that, you can pretty well figure out the truth for yourself. Go with your gut.

I'm a tough guy, lets get it on!