What a lame gf he has. I am always in this situation too. She's got to get it in her head that you and him don't have that type of relationship. And if he says he can't see ya because of her, he sucks as well.

It sounds like he's got a better friend than girlfriend. Jealousy is just a sign on insecurity and if she can't trust her boyfriend, she has no business dating him. I would predict this relationship won't last. Try to wait it out and maybe talk to the girlfriend in the meantime and explain your point of view.

I agree with Funshine. Jealousy is a horrible thing to have to live with.

I hate to tell you this, but if your causing striffe in his relationship you need to bow out gracefully. Because obviously you are doing something that's making her alarm bells go off. Or he is. Like talk on the phone everyday for hours. Can't have a night out without each other. When the subject of having people over comes up your the only name he mentionions for who to invite. The only time this does not apply is if she does this over every girl that comes near him. Then she's just the jealous type. And if he's cutting you off out of fear and not respect for her and their relationship this won't last long at all.

Jealousy expressed through arguments is a form of emotional abuse - an attempt to control another person. This is never a good situation! Google "emotional abuse" and "verbal abuse", and if any of those traits apply to your friend's relationship with his girlfriend, gently and sensitively pass the information along to him. He needs to RUN, not walk, away from an abusive person!

Just so everyone knows, all we ever do is talk for a couple of minutes after rehearsals. Sometimes we forward jokes. That's all. We don't see each other outside of rehearsals and I did try to speak to her about it to let her know I'm not a threat. She got pissed off because he was going to give me a card for my b-day. So what.

He needs to figure out which relationship is more important to him and then go with it. Nobody is happy here and it doesn't look like anybody is ready to change or give in.

Cherrybomb, I am experiencing the same thing as you.. but my guy friend isn't going out with the girl and yet they like each other. The guy waited over a year and hoping that he would maybe get into a relationship with her. The girl abused him emotionally by wasting all her chances. She treated him horriblely and took him for granted. This left the guy really hurt. He did not want to get into a relationship with her. A year goes by, I come into the picture.I am in the same class as my guy friend and this girl. The girl persuses my guy friend and somehow percieves me as a threat or an interfere in between them. The girl gets really jealous and start attacking me indirectly but I clearly know they were done intentionally to hurt me. I was aware of this during beginning of school year but I played dumb all along till this day bc I wasn't sure what to do. I felt that I did not know the girl very well. I went the guy for advice on what I should do. He advises me not to communicate to the girl. He predicts the girl will lash out on me or totally deny everything. Well, what I am suppose to do? I cannot see myself containing forever. This girl humiliates me in front of the class and keeps on making sacastic comments. It's irratating.

I have a girlfriend with a guy friend. she is so close to him they go on vacation spots together. At first i did not mind but now she is my girfriend and the thought all having another special guy in my lady life drive me "nuts." She say he's only a friend, but we all know sometimes friends turn into lovers. I want to be the man in her life, friend, lover, mate etc Not saying she cannot have friends but why does the friend has to ba a guy? If you are that close to your guy friend date him because you get along with him and I thought that's what a relationship is about. Two men in a lady life does not cut it, sorry, I'm not into sharing. Just because the friendship is not sexual with the guy does not make it ok, because they are still spending quality time with each other, think about it : )

Does your friendship with him involve doing things at odd hours and at odd places? Just the two of you? If so, try reversing the roles and then answer your own question. Couldn't you just be friends with both, him and her? And include her when you are with him at those odd places at odd hours?????

I've been in this kind of situation before... My best guy friend and I don't see each other romantically at all... i might as well do my brother...so gross. She has her own issues... From what I can tell you don't spend much time w/ him and yall have a different kind of bond if she can't respect it then it won't last between them

How do you know they have arguments over you? he tells you, right? I would find that threatening and innapropriate for a bf to be sharing personal details about a relationship with a female friend. maybe you need to keep out of his buisness in regards to his relationship..If you are only interested in him as a friend..then it should be no problem.

Jealousy is the key here. When girls arent secure enough to accept their guys relationships with other girls it is plain and simple jealousy. Whether you are 15 or 50. The fact that you question his affections is a sign of mistrust and trust is the key to any relationship. If not being a gus friend makes his relationship more stable then he aught to consider why his gf is so controlling and address her insecurities and you should definately not stop being his friend nor pull away if its not something you and your guy friend have come to agree upon mutually. This girl was initially an outsider and now she calls the shots? I think NOT! Good luck my sista. Git R Done

I've been terribly hurt and offended by the neurotic behaviour of jealous partners of some of my male friends. I see no reason why I can't have a respectful, platonic acquaintance with a man who is romantically committed to another woman. I'm not asking these men to dinner and a movie.... I'm saying "did you see the hockey game last night?" at the water cooler, or I'm working with them on Church or community art projects. These are not things that set off "alarm bells". And yet these are things have made some women want to scratch my eyes out. As a Christian, I couldn't even think about undermining someone's relationship. But I am a young, single woman, so I understand that some women might not want me to build friendships with their boyfriends, no matter what my stated value-system is. I am deeply sympathetic to their feelings of wanting to be "the woman" of their partner's life, so I've accepted that my friendships with men (as wonderful as those friendships are) will necessarily have to include emotional boundaries. I certainly would want to be the most important woman in my future husband's life. So even though I have very healthy friendships with men, I have made a conscious effort to make sure that there isn't an emotional connection there that should be reserved for romantic partners. But when there are times when a woman's feeling of insecurity is used as an excuse for unwarranted meanness and abusiveness, and at this point the behaviour becomes unacceptable. It's not OK to "hate" a woman for being a friend or acquaintance of your boyfriend. It's not normal to demand that a man (or a woman) change their social network because of jealousy. And it is absolutely inappropriate to treat a woman who has done nothing against you with suspicion of malice. That impugns her character. That is wrong. A female friend needs to be compassionate towards an insecure girlfriend, and give her the freedom to become "the woman" of her new partner's life. No one wants to be "outshone" or made to feel second best, especially in a new relationship. But equally, an insecure girlfriend needs to remember that her feelings do NOT make jealous behaviour acceptable. If either you or your boyfriend cannot treat this female friend as a Christian sister, then you need to reflect on what's wrong in your faith. If you're both in right relation with God, then you will find yourselves naturally in right relations with each other.

his gf is wierd..lol..i allow my bf to have friends with other girls..lol.. oh and eniwey..y wud the guy be afraid to becum friends wd u when u guys arnt doin enithin wrong?

Tell you what, keep hanging out with him because him losing is controlling and jealous girlfriend wouldn't be the worst thing to happen to him.

Don't be so quick to judge the girlfriend. And actually, you are a threat. Anytime a person is in a relationship and has an opposite sex pal that person like it or not can pose a threat because by nature men and women are meant for a sexual/romantic relationship. If the girlfriend doesn't trust you it may be because she senses something from you or the boyfriend that indicates your relationship isn't as platonic as you might think. Maybe he is not showing her that she comes first, or you two are spending too much time together, or other mistakes opposite sex friends can make with each other that blur the boundaries between just friends and lovers. If none of that is happening, maybe the girl is just extremely insecure and sees any and every woman as a threat to her relationship. In that case not your problem. Your guy friend will eventually dump crazy girl and your friendship can resume as always. Just remember for the future to keep clear boundaries with your guy friend.