Is it possible after a break up , to get back together and for it to last a long time?

Of course it is possible. I feel though that the reasons for splitting up would have to have been addressed and sorted out before getting back together.

It is very possible. Sometimes breakups allow people to realise how much they miss the other person. You always hear the saying "I never knew what I had until it was gone". Well, idiots say this. An intelligent person will realise what they have whilst they still have it.

Absolutely, when my hubby and I were dating we broke up for several months and now we just celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary. Anything is possible.

Yes, it is possible. This happens quite a bit, actually. Whether or not it works out depends upon the people in the relationship, their ability to resolve conflict, and their ability to let go of the past.

Yup. I broke up with my first serious boyfriend. We got back together about 4 months later, and in August will celebrate our 24th aniversary.

I don't know...I think like the book says...it's called breakup because it's broken. MAybe in some rare cases its possible but I think that once there's too much water under the bridge so to speak it's better to start off with a clean slate with someone new. Otherwise the realtionship will alwasy be tainted. The best we can do is learn from our mistakes and what went wrong so that our next relationship can be closer to what we really want and need..

I had two boyfriends prior to dating the wonderful man that I married. When I break up, it's for good. I would never think of trying again with either of them. If I stopped my contact with them, it was because I didn't deem them as suitable husband material.

I feel the same way about employment. If I quit a job because I didn't like it, I would never think about returning in the future.

yes!!!! me and my husband got married then divorced 4 months later i was so heart broken we got back 2gether and got remarried it has been great we both realized life suckd without eachother and our relationship is better then ever we know what we have now

Yup!

Everyone makes mistakes sometimes and when both parties realize it and do whatever they can to mend the feelings and concerns of the other person then it shows that it was a mistake and not something that either of them is interested in repeating.

Some people are oppurtunistic and look for reconcialliation in order to get under someone radar... But certainly not in all cases.

Yes, I think it's possible when both people honestly try -- and succeed at fixing the problems that ended the relationship. When I broke up with my bf, we figured out that we needed to communicate in a more effective way. Before, we talked at least an hour a day but really said nothing. Now, we decided to stop the long calls and only say what matters. Find out what's destroying your relationship and fix it.

I think if both sides are willing to try, actually fully willing than yes it will wokr out becuase if you held any love for them you would try. All the little things that made it not worth while the couple will hopefully patch it up and start anew

I would suggest though that if breaking up is a reoccuring thing for you guys, than leave it where it lay. because its better off dead.

good luck

A friend of mine told me once (a female friend) that she knew people who have done that as a strategy. They "break up", on purpose, dramatically (good acting on their parts), knowing that they will later try to "come back, kiss and make up", and it works very well! It is like trimming a shrub, or watering a dry plant. It works because it kind of bring "new drama" to the relationship. It brings a soap opera aura to the environment. Cute....

It can but rarely. From experience the relationship never reaches the same depth of feeling or intimacy and so it eventually wanes.
Usually when getting back together, the relationship goes through an on , off pattern until the final parting.
Only when both acknowledge and work on the issues can a different outcome arise. If one wants to get back together but not fix the problem, it wont work.

I believe it can happen only if both parties realize what they mean to each other, what the issues were that caused the break up, and the willingness to try and correct the problem.

I am now in a situation where my bf and I broke up in May, then got back together a month later, only to break up again in October. The issues were not properly addressed and nothing was changed. It was a mistake on both our parts. So we are now "friends". I usually don't remain friends with exes and neither does he. So I know that for the both of us, we mean a lot to each other and want each other in our lives...but haven't figured out how to be together without making the same mistakes.
It is seriously confusing for me, as it is for him....and I only hope that it will resolve, one way or another. Either way, I know I love him deeply and it would be very difficult to imagine him not being in my life. The only thing I can do now, is give it time and space. Give it some air.

I wish everybody who has posted on this site happiness.

About 8 years ago, I started dating a guy from work. We really had a good relationship. He was ready to settle down with me, but I was at a point in my life where I needed to be a little more carefree and work through some stuff. We dated for three months and I finally broke up with him.

We remained friends and ate lunch together at work everyday, but we each started dating other people. Several months later, I was going through a really hard situation. I called him up crying and needing someone to talk to. He asked if he could come over to talk to me in person and I said ok.

This was the day before Valentine's day and when he showed up, he had a red rose he had bought earlier, intending to give it to me in the morning. He stayed for a few hours and let me talk through my problem, offering to help me and be a part of my life anyway I would let him.

He said he loved me and the way he said it, I finally realized how deeply true that was. I fell in love with him that night and we were married by mid April that same year.

It's now almost 7 1/2 years later. We're still happily married. We have 2 sons together plus my oldest son from my first marriage. I'm an at home mom that looks forward to seeing him at the end of the day just as much as he enjoys coming home to his family.

So yeah, I'd say getting back together can work--as long as it's with the right person. If a relationship or a person had some serious flaws, then those issues need to be resolved for the couple to have any chance.

I think it's possible but you have to be very open with each other the second time around and not play mind games. Past problems can be really destructive if they keep surfacing, even in minor forms because they're a constant reminder of what the problems were originally. If you haven't truthfully dealt with what went wrong, if you're not prepared to put the effort in to rectify things, or your partner isn't, walk away.

My wife and I broke up at least three times before we finally married and now we have been together for 18 years.

Yes, but only if the two individuals have taken the time to correct whatever problems caused the split the first time. I'm a firm believer in second chances when it comes to romance, just as long as the second go-round is better than the first.

Yes - If you both work together and understand why you broke up to begin with and change those bad behavior's

Anything is possible, but often times it's not the case.

In my view, many break ups have to do with immaturity, selfishness and
laziness. Fix these and you have a better chance.

Hello,

I am hopeful and perhaps maybe a fool though..after 5 years my GF and Best Friend has left the relationship. I basically shut her out by continually breaking promises and by being unwilling to clean up my act ( lifestyle ). Its only been a month since we broke up and week since I've seen her..its feels like an eternity. At anyrate I am making significant changes in my lifestyle and am really doing some soul searching. While I am doubtful of a reunion I still wish for it. When she makes a decision of this magnitude and is able to walk through the pain of seperation I think she wont look back. I love her and did not treat her correctly, I definitely have some growing up to do. Hopefully God will bring her back into my life for a second try. I would go to the ends of the earth for this to happen. Appreciate what you have folks while you have it. Hindsight is 20/20. Love is to be cherished and nurtured. God Bless everyone !

When i broke up with my boyfriend, he tried to get back to me, but i refused cuz i gave him a chance to be with me but i didn't use this chance in a perfect way.
I broke up with my boyfriend bcuz he hurt me so much, thats why i don't want to be with him again.

yes. I was married for 11 yrs when we split. we spent 5 yrs apart. the first year was bitter, the next four we had no contact at all. when we did have contact again, we took it slow, became friends and talked about everything that was right and what went wrong. a few months later we got back together. it will be seven yrs in July. not married this time around..i once told him that when we had been back together as long as we had been married, we can talk about getting married again. it's not always easy, but I don't have regrets.

it all depends on the situation, if it is because of a fault that can be overcome, then of course, the person who has the fault just has to be willing to change

I did. We're getting married now. It's been 8 yrs+

Yes. My husband and I split up for several years and got back together, and are still together going on 26 years now. So it CAN happen but it depends entirely on the people and the circumstances.

Yes a friend of mine split up with a guy for 2 years then got back with him had 2 kids and was with him for 8 years,sadly they are no longer together but it proves that you can get back with a ex depending on circumstances

i think it can, people i know had been dating for 4 years and split up and then got back together and are still together now 5 years after their break up

I have done it and in my personal experience it lasted 6 months when everything that brought the relationship to it's end started showing up again.

It all depends on the chemistry and how strong is the love...

Of course it's possible. Almost anything is "possible" in relationships. Probable ... now that's another matter.

yeah my husband and I had dated all through middle school, we moved to diffrent schools and didnt know where the other one was. we tried dateing other people but couldnt help but to think about each other the whole time. he finally found me while I was at work in 2005 and we have been together every since, we was married a week before his senior prom. So I would say most deffinatley.

I just split up with my bf of 2.5 years. It was sort of mutual We're at turning points in our lives- finishing uni, he's going away for two months and starting medicine next year which is going to be hell and I might be moving interstate for a job. We both feel as though we're 'the one' for one another but both have such a long way to go in our lives and so many things to sort out.

We love one another so much but it's a case of meeting the right person at the wrong time. We saw one another yesterday and just hugged and kissed and said how much we loved one another and laughed and had the most wonderful day. He wanted to get back together but I reminded him about how he and I thought alone time for now was good. We both said that we see one another in the book of our lives on the pages before and the pages after and we want to skim read all the parts in between.

He sent me a message yesterday saying 'thank you for a perfect day. I love you and I want to be the man of your dreams.' Sometimes life isn't fair. But neither of us see this as the end and when he comes home we're going to have another day like yesterday and talk about it all then. I don't want to ever loose him but something is telling me that this is the right thing right now and that this is how it's all meant to be. All these posts give me hope :-)

1. It depends of how you broke up with someone.
2. If you both still care.
3. If it’s worth it, if you still have things to give.

You should only get back together with someone if you have feelings and you think that he/she is very important for you and you both left behind all the reasons that you broke up in the first place.

Hope so....going through that now.

Yes. Sometimes it takes that before things take hold.

Yes, this quote is so true - "You don't know what you have until it's gone."

Unfortunately, a large amount of human beings almost always take things for granted.

I believe every obstacle will make a relationship stronger. When one realized what he/she has lost, he/she will cherish the relationship much more when it's regained.

Yes it is. If the break up was not due to trust issues.

Yes, it is but would mainly depend on what caused the break up and how deep was the rift.....you could have broken up because of religion. If you end up in the same religion you could well be together again....and "live happy ever after"

I sure hope so. ;)

Love and I broke up for about 9 months after dating for two years. We remained friends, and things just fell back into place.

I have the same concern.
The reason why he broke up with me is because he doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore. He said he still really likes me. I kinda see why. First we are both college student and we are very busy with school. Second of all, we both don't have a car.. and we live far from each other. Thirdly, due to my parents, i cannot stay over at his house all the time.

i know i shouldn't focus on these kinds of details but if we cannot spend the time together. how can we maintain or even develop the feelings/relationship?

i feel like contradicting myself because i do kinda feel the break up is right.

i don't know if i should ask a question here but..

i want to maintain good friends with him. he said I could call him anytime I want, and hangout like the old times. do you think I can still fix this? or it is already too late...

yep, anything IS possible in life.

what happpened that caused ya'll to break up?
It really depends on what happened and if you got over it already.
Also, if anyone of you cheated, I'd go against ya'll getting back together.

i sure as hell hope so, thats where i am right now. we will see how long it lasts..... wish me luck!

I hope so...

I guess it's possible for some people , but, not with me. As far as I'm concerned, When it's over, it's over!
I've always moved on !!

my b/f and i broke up afer 5 months. and we've been together a year and a half...well he kinda only broke up with me for a week...but...it is better than ever now

i think it is possible to get back together after a break up, because whatever made u break-up in the 1st place, u will both try to avoid it from happening again. communication is very important in relationships. to be heard, speak.. to be spoke to listen..

can someone please tell me if it's possible to get back my ex back who was engaged to and doing long distance relationship with? We were arguing alot for a couple of weeks and I said it's over out of anger and he took it to heart and now he said he loves and cares about me but not in love with me, can someone please tell me what to do and if I can get him back. Also what to do to get him back.

I sure hope so! I think it matters on the situation and the person. If you both still have feelings for eachother, and the reason for breaking up in the first place is nothing serious, and is forgivable, then yes. Sometimes things just dont go right the first time, and sometimes the reasons are just because of the situation of our lives at that time. We all deserve a second chance.