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  • Yup. I broke up with my first serious boyfriend. We got back together about 4 months later, and in August will celebrate our 24th aniversary.
  • Yes - If you both work together and understand why you broke up to begin with and change those bad behavior's
  • I don't know...I think like the book says...it's called breakup because it's broken. MAybe in some rare cases its possible but I think that once there's too much water under the bridge so to speak it's better to start off with a clean slate with someone new. Otherwise the realtionship will alwasy be tainted. The best we can do is learn from our mistakes and what went wrong so that our next relationship can be closer to what we really want and need..
  • Of course it is possible. I feel though that the reasons for splitting up would have to have been addressed and sorted out before getting back together.
  • It can but rarely. From experience the relationship never reaches the same depth of feeling or intimacy and so it eventually wanes. Usually when getting back together, the relationship goes through an on , off pattern until the final parting. Only when both acknowledge and work on the issues can a different outcome arise. If one wants to get back together but not fix the problem, it wont work.
  • I have done it and in my personal experience it lasted 6 months when everything that brought the relationship to it's end started showing up again.
  • i think it can, people i know had been dating for 4 years and split up and then got back together and are still together now 5 years after their break up
  • Yes a friend of mine split up with a guy for 2 years then got back with him had 2 kids and was with him for 8 years,sadly they are no longer together but it proves that you can get back with a ex depending on circumstances
  • Yes. My husband and I split up for several years and got back together, and are still together going on 26 years now. So it CAN happen but it depends entirely on the people and the circumstances.
  • Yes, it is possible. This happens quite a bit, actually. Whether or not it works out depends upon the people in the relationship, their ability to resolve conflict, and their ability to let go of the past.
  • A friend of mine told me once (a female friend) that she knew people who have done that as a strategy. They "break up", on purpose, dramatically (good acting on their parts), knowing that they will later try to "come back, kiss and make up", and it works very well! It is like trimming a shrub, or watering a dry plant. It works because it kind of bring "new drama" to the relationship. It brings a soap opera aura to the environment. Cute....
  • I had two boyfriends prior to dating the wonderful man that I married. When I break up, it's for good. I would never think of trying again with either of them. If I stopped my contact with them, it was because I didn't deem them as suitable husband material. I feel the same way about employment. If I quit a job because I didn't like it, I would never think about returning in the future.
  • I did. We're getting married now. It's been 8 yrs+
  • Absolutely, when my hubby and I were dating we broke up for several months and now we just celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary. Anything is possible.
  • It is very possible. Sometimes breakups allow people to realise how much they miss the other person. You always hear the saying "I never knew what I had until it was gone". Well, idiots say this. An intelligent person will realise what they have whilst they still have it.
  • can someone please tell me if it's possible to get back my ex back who was engaged to and doing long distance relationship with? We were arguing alot for a couple of weeks and I said it's over out of anger and he took it to heart and now he said he loves and cares about me but not in love with me, can someone please tell me what to do and if I can get him back. Also what to do to get him back.
  • i think it is possible to get back together after a break up, because whatever made u break-up in the 1st place, u will both try to avoid it from happening again. communication is very important in relationships. to be heard, speak.. to be spoke to listen..
  • Yes, but only if the two individuals have taken the time to correct whatever problems caused the split the first time. I'm a firm believer in second chances when it comes to romance, just as long as the second go-round is better than the first.
  • My wife and I broke up at least three times before we finally married and now we have been together for 18 years.
  • Most definitely!
  • my b/f and i broke up afer 5 months. and we've been together a year and a half...well he kinda only broke up with me for a week...but...it is better than ever now
  • I guess it's possible for some people , but, not with me. As far as I'm concerned, When it's over, it's over! I've always moved on !!
  • it all depends on the situation, if it is because of a fault that can be overcome, then of course, the person who has the fault just has to be willing to change
  • yes. I was married for 11 yrs when we split. we spent 5 yrs apart. the first year was bitter, the next four we had no contact at all. when we did have contact again, we took it slow, became friends and talked about everything that was right and what went wrong. a few months later we got back together. it will be seven yrs in July. not married this time around..i once told him that when we had been back together as long as we had been married, we can talk about getting married again. it's not always easy, but I don't have regrets.
  • Oh yea, happened with me. :)
  • course
  • Oh yea, happened with me. :)
  • When i broke up with my boyfriend, he tried to get back to me, but i refused cuz i gave him a chance to be with me but i didn't use this chance in a perfect way. I broke up with my boyfriend bcuz he hurt me so much, thats why i don't want to be with him again.
  • I hope so...
  • I think if both sides are willing to try, actually fully willing than yes it will wokr out becuase if you held any love for them you would try. All the little things that made it not worth while the couple will hopefully patch it up and start anew I would suggest though that if breaking up is a reoccuring thing for you guys, than leave it where it lay. because its better off dead. good luck
  • Hello, I am hopeful and perhaps maybe a fool though..after 5 years my GF and Best Friend has left the relationship. I basically shut her out by continually breaking promises and by being unwilling to clean up my act ( lifestyle ). Its only been a month since we broke up and week since I've seen her..its feels like an eternity. At anyrate I am making significant changes in my lifestyle and am really doing some soul searching. While I am doubtful of a reunion I still wish for it. When she makes a decision of this magnitude and is able to walk through the pain of seperation I think she wont look back. I love her and did not treat her correctly, I definitely have some growing up to do. Hopefully God will bring her back into my life for a second try. I would go to the ends of the earth for this to happen. Appreciate what you have folks while you have it. Hindsight is 20/20. Love is to be cherished and nurtured. God Bless everyone !
  • Yes, I think it's possible when both people honestly try -- and succeed at fixing the problems that ended the relationship. When I broke up with my bf, we figured out that we needed to communicate in a more effective way. Before, we talked at least an hour a day but really said nothing. Now, we decided to stop the long calls and only say what matters. Find out what's destroying your relationship and fix it.
  • I BELIEVE THIS HONESTLY DEPENDS ON EACH PERSON IN THE RELATIONSHIP. EACH PERSON ALONE HAS A LEVEL OF PAIN OR WHATEVER EMOTION WE CAN PERSONALLY HANDLE. I MYSELF WOULD LIKE TO SAY ABSOLUTELY, BUT IT WONT BE EASY ESPECIALLY IF THE SITUATION IS A SERIOUS SITUATION THAT EFFECTS ONE WHOSE IN THE RELATIONSHIP GREATLY. I MYSELF HAVE SUCH A HARD PROBLEM FORGETTING WHAT HURTS ME. I WILL ALWAYS FORGIVE BUT THE PART OF FORGETTING WHAT HURTS IS DIFFICULT. I HAVE FORGIVEN MY BOYFRIEND SEVERAL TIMES, I EVEN FORGAVE HIM FOR CHEATING ON ME ONCE BECASUE I KNEW HOW SORRY HE WAS AND I TRIED TO PUT MYSELF IN HIS STATE OF DRUNK MIND WHEN HE DID IT BUT I WANT TO MAKE IT CLEAR THAT THERE IS NO! EXCUSE GOOD ENOUGH TO CHEAT, BUT I DID FORGIVE HIM AND WE DID END UP BACK TOGETHER. THE THING OF IT WAS IS IT BROKE SO MUCH TRUST AND I COULD NEVER GET IT OFF MY MIND AND IT MADE ME DOUBT EVERYTHING HE SAID AND EVERYTHING DID. I ALWAYS QUESTIONED EVERYTHING HE DID. IT NO LONGER BOTHERS ME AS MUCH AS IT DID, SIMPLY BECAUSE HE DID EVERYTHING IN HIS POWER TO HELP ME GET THROUGH IT AND HELPED ME GAIN HIS TRUST BACK MAYBE NT ALL THE WAY BUT MUCH MORE THEN I DID. I BELIEVE A RELATIONSHIP TAKES ALOT OF WORK AND DEDICATION WAY MORE THEN JUST "LOVE" AND "HAPPINESS". AS LONG AS YOU BOTH ARE IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND WANT THE SAME THINGS YOU CAN LAST NO MATTER WHAT COMES UP BETWEEN YOU TWO.
  • I think it's possible but you have to be very open with each other the second time around and not play mind games. Past problems can be really destructive if they keep surfacing, even in minor forms because they're a constant reminder of what the problems were originally. If you haven't truthfully dealt with what went wrong, if you're not prepared to put the effort in to rectify things, or your partner isn't, walk away.
  • i sure as hell hope so, thats where i am right now. we will see how long it lasts..... wish me luck!
  • Yes, my wife (of 17 years) broke up with me when we were still dating. We had been together for about 7 months. We are more in love today than when we were first married. It is possible and likely. This blog has some great information that may help you get back an ex. http://www.getbacbmyexblog.com/
  • Yup! Everyone makes mistakes sometimes and when both parties realize it and do whatever they can to mend the feelings and concerns of the other person then it shows that it was a mistake and not something that either of them is interested in repeating. Some people are oppurtunistic and look for reconcialliation in order to get under someone radar... But certainly not in all cases.
  • what happpened that caused ya'll to break up? It really depends on what happened and if you got over it already. Also, if anyone of you cheated, I'd go against ya'll getting back together.
  • yep, anything IS possible in life.
  • I have the same concern. The reason why he broke up with me is because he doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore. He said he still really likes me. I kinda see why. First we are both college student and we are very busy with school. Second of all, we both don't have a car.. and we live far from each other. Thirdly, due to my parents, i cannot stay over at his house all the time. i know i shouldn't focus on these kinds of details but if we cannot spend the time together. how can we maintain or even develop the feelings/relationship? i feel like contradicting myself because i do kinda feel the break up is right. i don't know if i should ask a question here but.. i want to maintain good friends with him. he said I could call him anytime I want, and hangout like the old times. do you think I can still fix this? or it is already too late...
  • Anything is possible, but often times it's not the case. In my view, many break ups have to do with immaturity, selfishness and laziness. Fix these and you have a better chance.
  • I sure hope so. ;) Love and I broke up for about 9 months after dating for two years. We remained friends, and things just fell back into place.
  • About 8 years ago, I started dating a guy from work. We really had a good relationship. He was ready to settle down with me, but I was at a point in my life where I needed to be a little more carefree and work through some stuff. We dated for three months and I finally broke up with him. We remained friends and ate lunch together at work everyday, but we each started dating other people. Several months later, I was going through a really hard situation. I called him up crying and needing someone to talk to. He asked if he could come over to talk to me in person and I said ok. This was the day before Valentine's day and when he showed up, he had a red rose he had bought earlier, intending to give it to me in the morning. He stayed for a few hours and let me talk through my problem, offering to help me and be a part of my life anyway I would let him. He said he loved me and the way he said it, I finally realized how deeply true that was. I fell in love with him that night and we were married by mid April that same year. It's now almost 7 1/2 years later. We're still happily married. We have 2 sons together plus my oldest son from my first marriage. I'm an at home mom that looks forward to seeing him at the end of the day just as much as he enjoys coming home to his family. So yeah, I'd say getting back together can work--as long as it's with the right person. If a relationship or a person had some serious flaws, then those issues need to be resolved for the couple to have any chance.
  • Yes, it is but would mainly depend on what caused the break up and how deep was the rift.....you could have broken up because of religion. If you end up in the same religion you could well be together again....and "live happy ever after"
  • Yes it is. If the break up was not due to trust issues.
  • yes!!!! me and my husband got married then divorced 4 months later i was so heart broken we got back 2gether and got remarried it has been great we both realized life suckd without eachother and our relationship is better then ever we know what we have now
  • I believe it can happen only if both parties realize what they mean to each other, what the issues were that caused the break up, and the willingness to try and correct the problem. I am now in a situation where my bf and I broke up in May, then got back together a month later, only to break up again in October. The issues were not properly addressed and nothing was changed. It was a mistake on both our parts. So we are now "friends". I usually don't remain friends with exes and neither does he. So I know that for the both of us, we mean a lot to each other and want each other in our lives...but haven't figured out how to be together without making the same mistakes. It is seriously confusing for me, as it is for him....and I only hope that it will resolve, one way or another. Either way, I know I love him deeply and it would be very difficult to imagine him not being in my life. The only thing I can do now, is give it time and space. Give it some air. I wish everybody who has posted on this site happiness.
  • Yes, this quote is so true - "You don't know what you have until it's gone." Unfortunately, a large amount of human beings almost always take things for granted. I believe every obstacle will make a relationship stronger. When one realized what he/she has lost, he/she will cherish the relationship much more when it's regained.
  • It is indeed very possible and has happened many times, with many people :)
  • Yes. Sometimes it takes that before things take hold.
  • I suppose, if the reasons for the breakup didn't include betrayal and maybe were bogus to begin with. But in general, I'd say "do-overs" aren't long-lasting. Happy Friday! :)
  • yes, this happened with me but I think a better example would be my parents. They dated in high school a bit, but my mom was older than my dad and she decided then that he was too young. In college though, they met up again and started going back out. They got married and right now they are spending a week away, celebrating their 25th anniversary.
  • definitely, been there done that
  • Hope so....going through that now.
  • 1. It depends of how you broke up with someone. 2. If you both still care. 3. If it’s worth it, if you still have things to give. You should only get back together with someone if you have feelings and you think that he/she is very important for you and you both left behind all the reasons that you broke up in the first place.
  • I just split up with my bf of 2.5 years. It was sort of mutual We're at turning points in our lives- finishing uni, he's going away for two months and starting medicine next year which is going to be hell and I might be moving interstate for a job. We both feel as though we're 'the one' for one another but both have such a long way to go in our lives and so many things to sort out. We love one another so much but it's a case of meeting the right person at the wrong time. We saw one another yesterday and just hugged and kissed and said how much we loved one another and laughed and had the most wonderful day. He wanted to get back together but I reminded him about how he and I thought alone time for now was good. We both said that we see one another in the book of our lives on the pages before and the pages after and we want to skim read all the parts in between. He sent me a message yesterday saying 'thank you for a perfect day. I love you and I want to be the man of your dreams.' Sometimes life isn't fair. But neither of us see this as the end and when he comes home we're going to have another day like yesterday and talk about it all then. I don't want to ever loose him but something is telling me that this is the right thing right now and that this is how it's all meant to be. All these posts give me hope :-)
  • But of course honey. Usually when you're out of a realtionship with someone and go into another, you notice the difference in the people instantly, sometimes it takes longer. If the love is strong, and real it can come full circle, IF both of you are on the same page. Can't work if one wants it and the other doesn't.
  • yeah my husband and I had dated all through middle school, we moved to diffrent schools and didnt know where the other one was. we tried dateing other people but couldnt help but to think about each other the whole time. he finally found me while I was at work in 2005 and we have been together every since, we was married a week before his senior prom. So I would say most deffinatley.
  • If you have changed it could work. You could only think that you've changed because of the obsession you have to get her back. It could be that you want her back because sh'e the only one that had the strengh to leave you.
  • definitely :)* .. sometimes break-ups aren't always the end.. they tend to give each person a chance to really think about things && figure out exactly what they want.. it's like the saying goes.. [[ if you love something set it free... if it comes back to you it's meant to be ]] ..
  • Of course it's possible. Almost anything is "possible" in relationships. Probable ... now that's another matter.
  • It all depends on the chemistry and how strong is the love...
  • Yes, I think so. Hopefully what ever caused the first breakup is fully resolved.
  • I Hope so, me and my ex split up in February Last year, have had no contact or havent seen each other since then, it was like both of us vanished. Now all of a sudden he has just re-appeared and admits that he still thinks of me everyday, has all the stuff i have bought him still has all my phone numbers still in his phone, and thinks any blonde is me. Its either fate making us see each other and maybe will help us get back together or its me reasing to much into it. Either way theres feelings both sides and no it would work again.
  • Yes there a possibility that things will work out for the second time if they do not make the same mistake.
  • Anything is possible in the world so yes, but remember if it's meant to be it'll happen if it doesn't it probably isn't. I have two friends, who their boyfriends broke up with them and they were so upset and crying and stuff. I told them if they get back together it's meant to be and if it doesn't then it's not. They're back with their boyfriends now.
  • i agree with thebyann me and my gf had dated for 9 months and had fights on a daily basis well we broke up then 4 months later we got back 2gether and have been 2gether for a year and 3 months so far :)
  • If you still love him, and he is seeing someone else, then you have to let him get on with it and not destroy his present relationship! If he is one day single, then you can meet up and lay it on the line. If he doesn't feel the same way, then you have your ans and can move on.
  • Agree with circumstances point and each scenario is completely differnt which makes it so hard!! My ex gf has just got back with her ex so I don't know what that says about all this! Perhaps it's meant to be for them or she will see the light and work out she made a mistake going back to him and should be with me. It's bizarre!!
  • Hey, I know this answer shudnt be here, but i'd jus like to thank all you ppl for ur lovely answers and suggestions. My girl of 2 yrs jus split up with me around 20 days ago, i'd gone to visit her and when i kissed her she said she wasnt attracted to me anymore, and she was feeling wierd. We had actually been arguing for around 6 months before that. And she just said she had enough of the arguments. After we broke up we didnt speak for a week. And then we started talkin to each other but it hasnt been the same. She said she's moved on, but for some reason i feel she still has feelings for me. Im really confused, i want her back real bad coz she means alot to me. And i hope you got back together, because i hope i get back with her too.
  • In Movies definitely, in real life, I not as likely. But I guess it depends on if you are both single and are interested in getting back together.
  • I sure hope so! I think it matters on the situation and the person. If you both still have feelings for eachother, and the reason for breaking up in the first place is nothing serious, and is forgivable, then yes. Sometimes things just dont go right the first time, and sometimes the reasons are just because of the situation of our lives at that time. We all deserve a second chance.
  • Of course it is, the only question is why do you want him back so hard if it didn't work between you? http://winyourhusbandback.wordpress.com/
  • Everything is possible. Everything.
  • im in this dilemna at the moment. ive been broken up with my ex girlfriend for 6 months. it was her descision to break up because of my lying to her and not fulffilling my promises to her. i let her down too many times. she couldnt take it any more. we are now starting to communicate again. i tried to beg, plead, and convince her that ive changed but she wouldnt have a bar of it. ive made some life changing descisions, ie work and personal because i want to change. they say that actions speak more than words, i never knew what this really meant untill the last few months. untill i really went through redemption. im sorry to waffle on but what i am trying to say, is that you must do things for you first, before you think of your ex, and by doing things for you, and wanting to change your ways, you have a clear mind, and you are true to your self before you even think of re connecting with your ex. and maybe they will see it through actions and not words.
  • me and my ex girl broke up 7 months ago because i lied to her and didnt come through on my promises to her.she couldnt take anymore of the hurt and lack of trust that i created. i begged, pleaded with her to take me back and that i will change and never hurt her again, but she cut me off. i made some life changing descisions ie personal and work, to try and turn my life around, and change for me not her. im sorry to waffle on but what im trying to say is that you must be true to your self, before you even think of getting back with an ex, otherwise it will be doomed for failure again. they say 1 action speaks 1ooo words, and that cliche never hit me untill the last few months. my ex and i are communicating again, because she can see how hard im trying to turn my life around. like i said though, im doing it for me not her. as to the future i dont know how things will work out, but im at peace with my self, for the first time in along time, and i dream that one day i will be together with my soulmate again.
  • me and my husband split 5 weeks ago im mortified there were issues with his friends keep coming around always getting in the way and he smoked too much weed it had a big affect on our sex life he was either on cocain or weed our arguements sometimes got very heated then he walked out i was on holiday for 2 weeks he was living with his mother who has been married 5 times and her favourite phrase you love them but your not in love and there are diffrerent kinds of love!! which both , he has used!! i agree we needed to have time away from eachother!! im hoping he will see wat he has done to us that it was wat he was doing and maybe i think his mum is guiding him too we had a very deep love i know he doesnt mean it when he says hes not in love with me or its over even our friends that we went to visit together said it aint over cs we still seem like a couple i know he is too stubborn and pig heaeded to realise at the moment what he really is doing.... somedays he makes me feel positive about a possible reconciliation not by telling me anything when i see him i can see he still has that glint in his eyes after 3 weeks of no contact we met for the first time he was an emotional wreck he said i just want to cuddle and kiss you but i cant ive got to be strong .... we spoke a few times and he said i cant go back to the arguing it was horrible !! but now he wants me to go out all the time with him and our children even asking me to go on holiday with them all!!!! i asked him on the fone if he was coming back and he said for now it is over we had to many arguements etc yet when i see him face to face he has that glint in his eye.. and has a diffrerent attitude i know hes still attracted to me cs he brushes thing of my boobs or comments on them and my appearance i will not sleep with him i am not that stupid i will not let him take advantage of me so we end up with no commitment i will only sleep with him when i know it is for the right reasons i know he is not as strong as he makes out and his mother has a lot to do with it if she stayed in spain we would still be together .... i know hes confused but i also no we had something very special we were soulmates by going out with him w are getting to know eachother again will this help bring back what we had ?
  • it sure is sometimes people do make mistakes and learn from them.
  • Me and my bf broke up 4 mouths into it. We were apart for a mouth and then we got back together. Now we've been together for almost3 years
  • i dont know but i sure hope so .. cuz my fiance just told me 3 weeks ago he needs space for 3mths .. so i dont know if he was leaving me or he just needs space
  • no i dont think so i was broken up with my ex got back together it was worse 3 years together and now its all over the place i been there it sucks and hurts twice as much as the first time!
  • I don't know yet. It's happening to me right now. but perhaps it is possible..
  • Me and my ex went out for 5 and a half yrs. My g/f moved out back in jan. and i have been trying to get her back. she lost feelings for me and also went out with a guy for 2 yrs prior to our situation and she is torn between the both of us being confused and scared with retriyng with me and unsure about him. what do i do?? I have been hanging in there at all costs battling for her
  • Chances are that it WON'T work ... Only 10 -15% of 2nd time relationships actually last beyond three months ... +5
  • Sure why not... My husband and I broke up for a bit (1 mth) and then got back together again. We now have been married for almost 20 happy years and have 5 beautiful children!
  • Anything's possible. A lot depends on how neurotic the people are.
  • Yes, it's possible. However, if you do get back together, do not be surprised if you just get reminded of why you broke up in the first place.
  • Well its possible but it depends on how they broke up the first time,if there are hard feelings then i doubt that

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