Is there any way I can stop paying child support since I don't see the child?

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The reason for child support has nothing to do with whether you see the child or not. It is to help TAKE CARE of the child. Get a heart and take some responsibility! Sure, you can quit paying if you want to go to jail instead.

If that is the case then why is it that the mother seems to always get the kids. I spent all my time working and raising my son while she went to parties and slept and sat on her butt. Every morning I fed my son breakfest, had to come home for my lunch break to make sure he had some food to eat. Was the one to always make sure he was taken care of. Then I caught her cheating. Wanted a divorce and after paying for my lawyer and her lawyer all her bills she had ever aquired. She had the rights to my son. On top of that only was granted every sunday which I had to work 8am to 8pm so when I was able to pick him up I had him for 3 hours a week. Then she moves across the country and I havent seen him for 3 years now. So how is this fair. I don't think it is so much paying child support than it is my ex using it on alcohol and partying. I have no problem raising my son. I helped to bring him into this world.If I had custody of my son I could care less if she paid child support. It seems only women want child support money. I have 2 step kids now and I raise them with no help from there bio father. If you choose to have the kids then know that you can provide for them. If not let the parent have the kids who can. My wife I have now doesn't complain about her ex not paying child support. Help if you want too not because its the law. My ex is a dead beat mom with the kids. Go tell someone who cares about your humane thoughts of how life should be. Niether mother or father should of brought a kid in this world if no one wanted to raise it by themselves.

We aren't "dead beat dads" just because we can't afford to keep up with our money-grubbing ex wives who use our child support money not on our child, but to fund their new condo, while we are rolling pennies to fill up our gas tank and mooching off our parents just to survive.

Okay, here are the facts. Most "Child" support is stealing, plain and simple. If a man abandons his family and initiates a divorce without cause, then he is morally obligated to support his child, but not necessarily through monthly payments to the child's mother, or worse still, to the government. He is obligated to support his child by being the child's father. Who would have guessed that? When a women divorces without cause she is automatically encouraged to steel her children and sell them back to their father one month at a time. The father's relationship is forevermore determined at the discretion of a vindictive child-snatcher. This is a new kind of terrorism. The women and agencies involved in this reprehensible system will be remembered as we now remember slave traders and slave owners. You see, slavery used to be fine with everyone, and with laws to expand it's reach deep into society. So what does it profit a man to become a father in America. Not much, not when his sons and daughters can be removed by force of law when his only crime is to be married, with children. "Child" support is stealing, money, time, memories, hopes and dreams. But laws are changing as young women find it increasingly difficult to find a man willing and crazy enough to take “the plunge”.

No. if the child support is court-ordered, then you are in the for the long haul, until the child turns 18.

Why aren't you seeing your child?

No... you are not paying child support for the right to see your child, you are paying it to make sure that the being you brought into the world has food, shelter and clothing, and whilst they remain a minor it is your responsibility as their parent to provide for them. The issue of your visitation rights to see your child are a completely separate issue.

Obviously I reserve the right to amend this answer as and when more details are provided.

why did you stop seeing the child? does the term "dead beat" mean anything?

You are a parent. Take responsibility for your actions.

Tis not about you but the needs of the child who's providers need to see your money.

You may not be seeing your child, but that does not mean your child has stopped needing the necesseties of life.

Food, clothing and shelter.

No way, to stop the pay.

Sorry buddy. You have a child and you have to support them. It's the right thing to do. But dont go down without a fight. In ny case neither of us are allowed to leave the state without the others permission. but since she is already gone. You may just be completely screwed. if yo show up to CSED. You will not be helped in any way. hire a lawyer and you will waste your money. They can not help you. Congress says this is how it is and thats it.

Man I have my daughter more than her mother. I have her every weekend and two weekdays. I pay for all her daycare and i pay her mothers bar tab to the sum of $670.00 a month. I am a sober hard working father who loves his child. I have put up a huge fight to keep her in my life. and the more i fight to keep my rights as a father, the more I have to pay. they always say "visitation has nothing to do with child support". But try being one of the bone heads that does not pay and see what the state does. Aside from the loss of any license you may have. they will ruin your credit, put you in jail, and take your visitation "privileges" away.
I love my child more than anything in this world. But when I walk into CSED and see nothing but womens magazines on all the tables and more handouts that are clearly designed to educate women on how to burn their childs father. i realize this is a rigged system designed to keep men away from their children and pay monies to unworthy mothers. Sure, there are many worthy mothers out there that are good parents to their daughters. but is that any reason to take away a mans (fathers) GOD GIVEN RIGHT to parent his child too? To be involved in the day to day aspects of being a parent and developing a relationship with his child? Absolutely not. And to further this along. I dont know if any of you have noticed this, but when you receive paperwork regarding your case. it always says " mothers name and state VS. you. When they ask for help or have a question the state breaks their back to help them. if you ask a question other than where do i pay. you will get a prompt " we will not help you or advise you in any legal matter". This is wrong and the system that was put into place many many years ago needs to be amended. No changes have been made to the system for CSED since the 80's. I think times have changed a bit and Congress needs to stop talking so much about the war machine and help its tax payers and ran over Dad's back home.

Not seeing your child is not the point.

The fact your child is your child and your blood makes it your responsible to care for her, both physically and monetarily.

I was with my partner up intill my child was two we split up because she was seeing another man behind my back who she is still living with him now he doesnt work and bums around.i was supporting my child making sure she had every thing she needed till we split.i didnt see her for 6 months as she didnt want me in her life or near her then i went to a solicitor and had mediation with my ex but it wasnt legal binding.i was seeing my daughter for 6 months and i was really close to my daughter i took her every sunday and even the whole weekend we went park,zoo, farms, swimming,for picknics i loved being with her and she didnt want to go home she cried every time i took her back to her mum and i was upset i was only doing volentary work and was not getting paid just a bit extra benifit to help i also got a cscs card to get contruction work but even so i saved to take her out and bought her something little like a top or skirt and my mum helped me to i agreed with my ex that as soon as i get work i will pay to support my daughter then just before xmas she stopped me seeing her i also got employed and started work and was looking foward to treating my little princess but it was cut short i got a letter from solicitor saying total lies like i wasnt feeding her which i just coudnt belive as she had a sunday dinner every week or sandwiches and sausage rolls depending if we was out she never went with out .but now i am paying csa but am on such a low income which i am still happy to.I cant afford to go court as i have no way enough money and every time i see her her see and her friends laugh at me.my mum has tried to get access but was refused it dont think its fare on my daughter and it is hurting her as much as me but my ex thinks its funny.Im a good dad and i know it but i dont get to see her .Fathers rights i dont think so it is some kind of joke and there is no such thing as fathers rights.

Not even if you had no rights to see the child, you cannot stop.

Are you refusing to parent the child, or being denied access?

If denied, there are things you can be doing.

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As for refusing, here's some links

10 Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
http://Previews.tinyurl.com/Books002

Fatherless America : Confronting Our Most Urgent Social Problem
David Blankenhorn
http://Previews.tinyurl.com/Books006

All Children Deserve Two Parents
Georgia Supreme Court Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears has noted, children born to unmarried women and to those in cohabiting relationships “must often overcome increased risks of poverty, education failure, child abuse, delinquency, emotional distress and mental illness.”…….the lack of a father’s guidance in children’s lives is a major cause of their suffering. “Marriage is the best child welfare, crime prevention, anti-poverty program we have,”
http://Previews.tinyurl.com/ChildrenDeserve2Parents

Fortune Magazine - Fatherless Families & Crime
“Ominously, the most reliable predictor of crime is neither poverty nor race but growing up fatherless.”
http://Previews.tinyurl.com/FatherlessFamiliesCrime

Stanford University - Divorce, Nontraditional Families, and Its Consequences For Children
"We know that children of divorced parents have more emotional and behavioral problems and do less well in school than children who live with both their Parent."
http://www.stanford.edu/~rmahony/Divorce.html

But that child is yours and he/she has to eat, live comfortably, wear clothes, etc. whether you are around or not. Now why aren't you seeing the child? You must see the child and spend time with him/her. That is part of being a parent. No, there is no way you can stop child support and not seeing the child has nothing to do with it.

Wow, you sound like a scumbag. You take off and leave the child, then look for a way out of child support?

I was going to wade in to this but I see ya'll got this one totally covered.And I agree with most comments.

You sound just like my father he also was a total waste of space,its nice to know that you dodnt mind putting your child through financial hardship a tad selfish dont you think.

It IS possible.

But you can only do this in court. You cannot make the decision to stop paying child support unilaterally.

However, unless you have some really extenuating circumstances, this isn't likely to happen.

Only an attorney, familiar with your circumstances, can advise you further.

HaHa! ... NO

you could try giving up your rights.. or if you care... you could petition the court for visitation rights... your choice... the kids life.

In PA those are 2 separate issues, so you are SOL.

No. You made it, you pay for it.

why are women always trying to bring men down and talk shit that there are shitty dads. trust me there are shitty mothers too. i have a shitty mother, or should i say egg donor, she is no mother, so i think that parent should have an option to pay and see the child, or not pay and not see the child. Cause i have a son that i never see cause my babymomma is a cunt and think she runs shit. I'll lawyer up with JAG and take her ass to the cleaners, to where i do not have to pay any more, its like women wanna see the man fail. like fucking demons on earth

Sure. Just stop paying (as long as your pay isn't being garnished). But the consequences include negative credit reporting, jail time, and a possible cameo on "Deadbeat Parents." Probably not the best plan...just suck it up and pay it.

Everyone knows child support goes straight to the custodial parent, and not to the child. Be happy that it's only until the child is 18, or they get married (pray for a redneck wedding at 16 years old!).

In the meantime, keep fighting for time with your kid(s). They may not appreciate it now, but it's an investment that pays in the long run. In my case, it's paying dividends immediately because, in spite of the distance between my kids and I, they're very quickly realizing their hooker mother is squandering their child support on vacations, boyfriends, cars, and NOT spending it on them.

If you somehow do manage to get out of paying child support, let me know. I'd love to pass my lawyer that precedent. Good luck!

http://www.scribd.com/doc/16490864/Stop-Paying-Child-Support-Bonus-Section-Avoiding-Child-Support-Dirty-Secrects

Did anybody notice this question was posted by someone named "Mindy"? This may not be a father issue at all.

In either case, I think the person is stuck having to pay the child support. I guess the only other option is to try to get some sort of joint custody whereas, if granted, the child support might be lessened.

And FYI to another assumption...child support isn't always put upon someone who is the biological parent of that child.

I have a friend, a female, who married a guy and legally adopted his kid. When they broke up the guy was able take her to court for child support because of the legal adoption.

In the USA, the answer is NO, However, if you do something drastic like give the child up for adoption you can avoid future child support. But, you will still need to pay the amount you owe even if you give them up for adoption ( arrears ). Plus, you have to see a judge before anything is final and we will catch wind to what you are doing. I would suggest that you read a resource ebook: http://www.scribd.com/doc/16490864/Stop-Paying-Child-Support-Bonus-Section-Avoiding-Child-Support-Dirty-Secrects

This ebook can be found on Scribd.com and is written by Thomas paine.

good Luck

I have a friend that is going through the same thing he has a three year old daughter and the mom kept him away by moving from state to state without his knowledge and threatened him with the cops for even trying to see his daughter before she stated her moving around. She said it is stalking charges. Stupid, but anyways he was told that he would still have to pay child support and fight for his visitations, he is now trying to fight to terminate his rights and have her new husband adopt his child. He has seen her only a few times when she was first born. I think it is wrong that a woman gets all the rights to a child and the father has to fight for all his. Everything has to be approved by mom before it happens. Like signing over rights and adoptions. My friend has two boys that he has custody of and is having it hard to support them, now child support taking 65% of his checks it's not right. He cannot live. Something has to give with this.

YES! If you die, you will no longer be required to pay child support. Stop being a loser and support your child

Sadly many pathetic mothers use their children to hurt their ex's and turn their children into nothing more than a bill to the father. You cannot stop paying child support, but you can file a Visitation Petition, or if you already have an Order stating that you are to see the children, you can file a Violation against her for not obeying the court order. Good Luck to you.

How would you go about doing that? Can it be done in Oregon?

Well thats just BULL. if its ur kid and ur paying u sould have rights to see the kid. + yes if its ur kid y wouldnt u help to give him-her a good life?

This all varies from state to state. But I believe that if yu sign away all parental rights, you no longer have to pay child support. This also means you give up any right you have to seeing your child until they are 18.

hi im looking for sum help im paying csa and im not seeing my child !!!

basically my x partner is being an ass she forbidden me to see my daughter witch is killin me up inside ive tried all most every thing and no 1 is willing to help me
there all in it 4 the money !! im paying for my daughter ive done nothing wrong !!!
she is just going down the same road as her mom tuck her dad !! her mom stopped her dad from seeing Her !!! what can i do Plzzzzz help me

steve

I am so sick and tired of hearing women call men deadbeat Dads and assuming without even knowing the whole story that they are trying to avoid taking care of their children. You women are just sad excuses for human beings. I have two step sons. My husband pays a large child support payment every 2 weeks. He has never missed one payment ever. We see those boys every single chance that we get. We can barely afford to pay our bills. We have no credit card debt, haven't been on a vaction in over 8 yrs and my husband works tons of overtime just to keep us afloat. Their mother on the other hand doesn't work at all and spends weekends on her boat with her new husband but never takes the boys with her when she goes. In addition to paying child support we buy them winter coats, sneakers, pay for haircuts and virtually take care of all of their needs. She is constantly asking for more $$$$$. Last year the oldest boy wanted to go to the prom and she refused to help him in anyway so we bought the tux and the corsage for his date, etc. She is a horrible excuse for a mother yet you women would slander a man simply b/c he is a man. Disgusting. My husband is a wonderful, caring involved father and there are many out there like him. It seems to me that the woman has turned into the deadbeat. All they do is demand every penny from their ex, use the $$$ for their own purposes and sit on their butts smoking cigarettes and watching daytime TV. Stop profiling people it's wrong and it's mean.

Well first of all I think you should should pay child support no matter what. Its your son or daughter your talking about!!
...talking from experience, It dosnt feel so great knowing that your mom or dad isn't willing to support you. my dad hasnt paid any child support for me and keeps going to court over the issue. even though i havnt seen him in about 3 years it really dosn't make a difference.