I have a problem with my self confidence, i hang around these really pretty, confident girls who are dancers and naturally pretty... with all the guys after them but i feel i dont get that.. i know im not hidieous but i feel like the ugly duckling..?
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If you like a guy but think he doesn't like you on the sole reason that you might not have the best looks... then you probably shouldn't like that guy. Looks aren't everything... Personaltiy, sense of humor, etc... are the biggest factors for me
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If you think it, it becomes true. You're focus on the idea that you don't get the same attention is subconsciously causing you to behave differently. Which, in turn, is contributing to your lack of confidence and approachability. You may be sending out negative vibes. Try to only think about good things the next time instead of thinking negative things. That's the way to become confident.
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Just be interested in the girl and ask her questions about herself. Also just be yourself. Everything will turn out fine. Just have a relaxed attitude about it.
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find things that you like about yourself and concentrate on them but most importantly just be yourself. Some girls like a shy guy. It shows that they really have a heart instead of just a penis. I know its a very cliche phrase but girls really do like sensitive guys...maybe you just haven't found one yet. Just be true to yourself in all that you do and love will find its way to you.
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Personally i like shy guys because they're usually sweet and caring..but confident's good too.
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You can only be yourself - - being nervous and shy is no detriment, necessarily. I'd think it'd be better to be yourself than trying to 'fake' confidence -- any gender will see right through that very soon.
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Just.. do it. The best solution is to think "What's the worst that could happen.", which is usually nothing. A simple "no",,,
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My first thought was to take a public speaking class (community college), or join a group which would help build this confidence such as Toastmasters. I think that overall confidence improvement will help in one on one situations as well.
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Act yourself. Act like the person you are and let them like or dislike you for you. That way you do not have to worry about acting at all by being yourself.
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practice practice practice - shouldn't be hard to be ur self but that is what u have to practice+4.
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Learn to like yourself a little more by becoming a real expert in one particular thing that you know you will shine in. That will do wonders for your confidence. I knew someone who was really shy around girls. He decided to take up dancing and he was excellent at it. All the girls wanted to be with him after that. It helps to find something you enjoy because we are always best doing things that bring us satisfaction and happiness. Good luck.
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All you have to do is approach a woman and talk to her. It is better to be somewhere that they will probably have something in common with you. Most women are shy too, and remembering this will help you to not be so nervous. They are not alien creatures, they are human just like you. Relax and be yourself, and talk to women.
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Get a job where you're in contact with loads of people, always put yourself in uncomfortable situatons and try new things. If you're too comfortable then that means the task is too easy! Public speaking is a great way to gain confidence!
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girls are interested in a male that 'stands firm in his morals and ethics', a MAN...be who and what u believe in, not what u think they want in u; they will come around!! don't fool urself or them. we got to stand for something or we fall for anything..u kids one day will appreciate it too and have as much respect for u as their mom!!! thats a mans DUTY..:)justme nervous,shy are UNCONFIDENCE!!! u have nothing to lose by being urself ,but an awful LOT TO GAIN...best to u...:)justme
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drink lots of beer
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join the army! After you get out you're a full grown confident man.
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You will find many tips and ideas in the articles in the "How to Articles" section at the bottom of this page. Scroll down, click on the link, type "confidence" in the search box.
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