Is it possible to trust someone who has cheated on you after being together for a few years?
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Akira Rose
ANSWERS: 11
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Trust in a relationship is not a simple yes/no matter, but rather should be viewed as a matter of degree. Trust CAN be rebuilt over time, given that the offending partner has spent the time wisely solidifying the relationship and not encouraging suspicion. And one may even trust their partner alone with others of the opposite sex after time. Though, if one doesn't, I'd still consider that normal. Everyone's different. However, it's harder to say if it's possible to trust a cheater as much as before. Certainly, the relationship has changed and both partners will try to be more careful about what signals they send/receive. Relationship counseling with a professional is a great help for many. Even just symbolically, it's a nice way of saying, "I'm really trying to work on this. Things will be different." The good news is, it is possible for relationships to even be better after cheating (though probably not because of it).
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I would say no to that question, not even if u were married for 25 yrs. Once someone cheat trust is smashed to the ground. If someone were to cheat on me no matter if i were in a long relation or been married for yrs, he would be out the door.
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I am in that position now, I dated a man for 3 years and he cheated on me when I was pregnant with his child, and again I found out 3 weeks ago he was seeing her again the same woman and told me he was sorry and would not do it again. The worst part about it, was he got her pregnant the same time I was pregnant. She never had the baby. But to forgive someone after they cheat on you, it is hard to say, I have forgiven him, but I will never forget. I am saving up enough money to move out. I can't trust him anymore and the lies he keeps on telling me. I love him with all my heart and he is a good father, but not a good boyfriend. He loves to cheat and he loves his woman, especially the one he keeps on going back with, he tells me it's not love just sex, but that is just as bad. I am strong now, I was not last summer and I know there is a good man out there to love me. I wish all woman luck with this cheating and trusting issue, I know I will never let myself go through this again and to walk away if it does.
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No, i myself am kind of going through the same thing. I was with my boyfriend for almost a year, we broke up and we were still seeing eachother almost everyday except weekends, and when it came down to it i found out he was messing around with his ex girlfriend which was the reason we broke up in the first place. Yes, we are back together, but the trust will never be there again. I took him back because i still care, but as the days pass and knowing they still talk, my respect for him for leaving and my love for him is fading. I know literally he didnt cheat on me, but the fact he was still "sleeping with me", that to me feels like he cheated with the one girl that ruined our relationship. But the only advice i can give is, if you love him try to work through it and maybe you could trust him again. But reality is, hes a pig and a dog for cheating on you after soo long. Good luck. And if anyone has any advice for me. Please feel free to write back.
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You can try hard, and live your life with them, but it is something you will never forget no matter how hard you try.
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Hell no...but it is possible to burn his/her house down!:)
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Once a cheater always a cheater. My husband cheated once because she was an office ho and then asked forgiveness through the help of the church. Then 15 years later he cheated again and I put his ass on the road and he begged his way out of it and now he does everything he can to prove he will never do it again as I told him I have nothing left for him but love and that he is no longer cheating on me but on the Lord. so he has to deal with that now and the possibility that he may come home and I may be gone. that is his fear now that I will leave. The table sure turned on him. He went from cheater to fearer of losing me. He says he does not want to feel the loss of knowing what you had until you lost it.
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You are with someone who puts their own feelings ahead of yours. Now, everyone does this to some extent, but cheating crosses the line for me since I consider it an attempt to use me for companionship without respecting me as a person. I've only been cheated on once, and when I found out, I wanted nothing more than to experience another sexually. It really confirmed allot of suspicions for me. It was actually like a get out of jail free card. Go figure.
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It's possible, but not necessarily recommended.
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i did he cheated again
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Once the trust is broken it can and never will be back to what it was. If you want to spend your life in a relationship where everytime he/she is late and your mind goes ro wondering or your eyes goes to watching driveway. Stay in the relationship. Cheated=Ended
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