I started going out with a guy at my job. He sees me made up all the time and asked could he see me w/out makeup. I'm not comfortable with this. I don't do the natural look. Should I tell him?
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In the clothing store where I used to work, the girls were not permitted to wear (noticeable) makeup. A manager was talking about how she 'never, ever dreamed of going out without makeup' before she started working at our clothing store. She said to go to a makeup store (where they know what they're doing) and they'll give you tips for how to look natural but beautiful. She claimed they 'saved her life.' Also, she said to use brown/earthy tones (with pencil?) around your eyes, and a bit of foundation, but not to cake it on. That speech is about the extent I know about makup.
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yeah you should tell him, he should be ok with it!! if hes not, hes not worth it!!!
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its about honesty.. he wants to see the real you, you shouldnt be afraid to show him.. this is how relationships build trust. Maybe it is hard, but you should trust he reaaly wants to see you. maybe this will make him feel closer to you, like he knows the real you
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Yes, you should be honest with him. Also, you should consider his request, maybe at a later date when you are more comfortable? I once had something horrible happen and had to go without makeup for a while, and every person that saw me told me how awesome I looked, I thought they were just trying to cheer me up, but when I started wearing make up again I got a very diffrent response. Make may make us feel more confident, but it often makes us look less confident, and worse than we would otherwise.
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Tell him straight, and find someone more interested in you, rather than how you look
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I think that you should tell him, but on the other hand why not let him see you without the makeup. If the relationship keeps moving along, than he will have to see you sometime without any makeup.
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if you want this ever to turn into something more serious, why wouldnt you show him? he doesnt see the real you with a face full of makeup.would you really make yourself up ALL the time, even if you live together? i dont get it.
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I'd share your feeling about going w/o and explain your discomfort. His response will let you know if you want to continue the relationship.
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I'd ask him why he wants to see this. He might just be saying he'd like to see you with less make-up, that he finds you attractive more naturally. MAybe he wonders why you like so much make-up or if you are hiding something or using it to hide behind. I know I did this for awhile. I was never seen without my makeup, especially eye makeup. But the few times I didn't wear so much, my husband and friends made positive comments about it. I actually now rarely wear it, for allergy reasons, but my husband still prefers less than more and doesn't encourage me to wear it unless I feel the need or want to for fun. And I was really good at putting on a face, too. Oh well.
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