if you think she's doin it, your probably right. my advice is to accept it. if you try to 'protect her' by keeping her from it she will pull away from you. rather accept her and try to help her understand the risks - personally i would rather have my child have sex safely (with a condom or birth controll) in my house where i know she ain't being raped or molested. if you accept her she will accept you and she will respect you more.

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Set up a surveylance camera in all the rooms of the house. Then if she really is doing something bad, tell her what she did and tell her that your phsycic.

Big thrill, if she and he are doing it! If you are so concerned, why would you be away in the first place, if you wanted to avoid the whole question in the first place. Some answers are beyond me, stating placing web cams thoughout the place to catch them in the act! It's called trust, obviousley you do not trust your daughter! What were you like at her age, and did your parents trust you? If you did install the cams, would you really like to see YOUR daughter in a porno movie?? Would you have liked YOUR parents seen you and your boyfriend at the time having sex? Many parents say, do as I say, yet if you could look into history, you would find the majority, do not practice what they preach.

If she is denying having a boyfriend sneak in for a roll in the hay, hide a camera inside her bedroom. Before leaving, turn it on and let it run. The camera does not lie. If what you believe is happening, is indeed happening, be prepared for a video shock. Be prepared to face your daughter with the evidence. You are going to have a fight on your hands. Your daughter's feelings are going to be a combination of hurt, embarrased, guilt, and a total lack of trust for you, maybe forever. Stand your ground! You are not the guilty party here. I only hope, at an early age, you explained safe sex to your daughter. what happens next? It is entirely up to you, as her mother. Until the age of eighteen, your daughter is under your guidance. Confronting your daughter's boyfriend, may or may not be beneficial, especially if he is a drug addict. Tough words here, but this is a reality answer. What if your daughter is not guilty and she discovers the hidden camera? Again, this is a gamble. If you really suspect your daughter is having sex, after you leave, the hidden camera is a necessity, for your sanity. Not knowing, will drive your crazy.

In Missouri 17 is the legal to have sex. In many states she can legaly have sex. If i was doing something like that and my parents didn't like it , I would like them to tell me, But if she is sneaking around its bcuz she doesn't want you to know. watever you do , do not yell at her about it. otherwise she'll never tell you anything again. Just simply ask her if she is having sex. And if she says no , dont call her a lair. Just say well if you ever do , come to me. Just dont yell.. tell her that you want her to be open and honest.

I can't decide whether the people who suggested the hidden cameras were being serious or not- but please don't do this. Imagine yourself in her shoes- if you found out someone had secretly filmed you (having sex or not) would you ever trust that person again? Would you trust them with any details about your life? Would you listen to their advice or give their views any credit ever again? You will completely wreck any chance you have of controlling your daughters behaviour or being let in with any info about her life. All she will learn is that having sex in your house isn't a good idea. So she'll go somewhere else to do it instead. And any advice you may try and give her about her relationships will likely be ignored. Instead you need to approach her on the issue. Ask her about what she does with her boyfriend, what she does when you're away. She'll probably lie at first, but if you make it clear that you aren't going to yell, or ground her and just want to know what's going on and give some advice and guidance she will begin to be more honest with you. At the end of the day whether you like it or not, if your daughter's going to have sex there's not a lot you can do about it (Look, there isn't OK- the law may say that you have the right, but that doesn't mean you have the ability. Carmella is also right, if she's in the UK she is legally above the age of consent), but by encouraging her to talk about it with you, rather than laying down the law and saying "Not in my house" you'll reduce her chances of falling prey to the less pleasant aspects of the whole business.

Alright.. Here is my second answer.. And i want everyone to me out.. I'm very close to 16 years old. I live in a town with about 4,000 people. I go to a high school. Sex is everywhere. Everyone does it. Most parents don't know wat there kids are doing. So most likely she is having sex. She is 17 years old. There isn't much you can do. You can talk to her about it.. and Just start it off as a sex talk.. don't come out and say " i think your having sex " Then get deeper into the converstation. Tell her that if she is having sex.. then see can come to you with anything.. good or bad.no questions asked. Then tell her you think when she starts having sex that you think its a good idea to talk about birthcontrol. But if she addmits to having sex.. Please do not yell at her. Otherwise she'll never tell you anything like that again. My mom yelled at me when i tried to talk to her about that stuff. And now i dont tell her much of anything. I'm afraid she'll be mad at me or yell. Just be very understanding.. i hope this works..

Wow, doesn't seem like that long ago I was facing the very same thing with my mom. However, my mom was understanding and realized she had done the very same thing when she was my age. So.. she was cool about the way she approached the subject. She KNEW with my first love that sex wouldn't be to far off from happening so she just casually brought it up one day. At first, I was so embarrased but I began to open up more once I realized she was going to be understanding and I wasn't going to get into trouble. She talked to me about birth control and scheduled my first pap smear appointment. (Again, at first I was embarrased!) But she went with me and I felt more at ease. She wasn't an idiot so denying or refusing me to have sex would have only caused me to find other places to accomplish that. She never yelled, never judged and that began such an open and honest relationship with my mom. Now that I'm married, I can only hope if I ever have a daughter I can help her to feel as comfortable with me as I did with my mom. I'm sorry you're distressed but I hope these answers help. (And no cameras-bad bad bad)

Hmmm. When I was 17 me and my GF were in her parents house having sex (or out in the woods or at my house or...) I'd suggest making sure she's using birth control properly. +5

I'M SORRY BUT I DON'T THINK YOU'RE GOING TO BE ABLE TO STOP HER FROM HAVING SEX NOW... I'VE BEEN THERE. THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO IS TALK TO HER. SHOW HER PITURES OF DICEASES... YOU KNOW LIKE HIV... HERPES, AND SOME OTHER NASTY ONES... THE ONES WITH A LOT OF BLOOD AND GOO! YOU KNOW JUST REALLY SHOCK HER, GROSS HER OUT ABOUT SEX. AFTER THAT YOU CAN ALSO TELL HER THAT THESE ARE THE DICEASES THAT THERE IS OUT THERE WHEN YOU HAVE SEX, SPECIALLY IF IT'S UNPROTECTED, AND THAT EVEN IF SOME PEOPLE DONT SHOW THEY HAVE IT THEY ACTUALLY DO.. REMIND HER THAT THATS WHY THEY SAY TO TURN OFF THE LIGHT... IT WILL BE ALSO COOL TO TELL HER THAT THERE IS CLINICS AVAILABLE FOR FREE FOR ANY GIRLS WHO ARE SEXUALLY ACTIVE, IF SHE KNOWS OF ANY OF HER "FRIENDS" THAT ARE SEXUALLY ACTIVE THAT THEY CAN GO AND GET A SHOT FOR FREE SO THEY WONT COME OUT PREGNANT... I KNOW THIS IS HARD FOR YOU... BUT IT'S BETTER THAN HER TELLING YOU YOURE GONNA BE A GRANDMA... GOOD LUCK

She is 17.She isn't doing anything wrong.Of course she will sneak;they need a place to have sex right?What,were you expecting her to sex somewhere else?Your house is also her house because she is your daughter.

You need to talk to her! communication is what makes or breaks the love, trust and honesty in your household! Firstly, don't go into it with a mindset to "stop" her from doing anything! You need to educate your daughter to know the risks of STDs, pregnancy, health issues, and anything else it seems is not being talked about (which is a lot in my current view). You need to make it clear you are trying to establish honesty and trust, and she will open up to you (eventually). I am by no means a teenager, and I've had to raise a couple fine people as a parent-position and the one thing that is needed is this trust! You will literally lose your daughter permanently if you decide to be "sneaky" or, "don't hide things from mama" crap, let her know she's not alone and all she has to do is talk to you and things can be worked out. Mind you make it clear she needs to be respectful, and not just sneaking around, but don't resort to trash. If you have to use cameras, then you are too late and I am sorry for your loss of a daughter, because its done. I can almost guarantee you she will go to other means, she will outsmart you, and she won't ever trust you again.