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by Snooch on May 1st, 2007
I think many people are afraid to open up and allow themselves the freedom of true sexual openness with someone. Fear of rejection.. fear of letting down the guard completely.. etc.. but if you can allow yourself to open up completely with someone and give yourself to them.. there is nothing you cannot accomplish in the bedroom with them.
I hate to sound corny but there really has to be feelings involved and not just some passionate night, affair.
Giving yourself completely to someone is hard to do but when you do it.. it is the most beautiful thing. It is sexual but the underlining ingredient.. is TRUST.
I think many people are scared to share their fantasies with their partner and instead just go with the basics.
Yes, I do share them because the relationship has to be balanced and be equal. Giving and taking. I want to be happy and I want to be pleasured. He wants to make me happy and please me and he wants to be pleased.. and neither of us are afraid to tell each other.. even red faced! -0=)
I do think people have fantasies at times when no one is around.. not because they are hiding it.. but because in that moment.. they were in the mood to fantasize.. and making it hotter.. is sharing it with your partner later on.
I do believe some things however.. should remain just a fantasy and not acted on and I believe each individual.. knows their limits and the limits of their relationship.
by Miss on May 1st, 2007
I think all people have secret fantasies, not just men.
I tell my "partner" everything that I want and I have every confidence that he can fulfill them.
I think your fantasies should be shared with your partner.
by cbuck1 on May 2nd, 2007
I can't speak for most men, but as for myself I don't share my fantasies with my spouse for two reasons:
1. They involve things that I know she doesn't want to try because of comments she's made in the past (such as anal sex)
2. They involve other women.
I think it's healthy and fun to share fantasies and act them out if possible with your partner. But most partners, at least in my experience, are not open enough in their sexual thinking to make this possible.
by golsen2000 on May 14th, 2007
I think most people have secret sexual fantasies. I have a pretty wild one myself. I have shared it only with a few girls I really trusted.
by baddaddy69 on October 28th, 2008
First yes most men but not all men.Next Yes I would share them If so!!Last My fantasies are about being watched or caught In a solo act with my self because I have to be faithfull.
by Pointeman1 on January 1st, 2008
Yes! I would say virtually every man has at least one sexual fantasy that he witholds from his partner for any number of reasons but mainly, I think, because they fear their partner will think they are weird, or strange or something.
I would have have shared them with my partner.
One or two might be more interesting without anyone around but I would say virtually all of them would be more enjoyable fulfilled.
by OfTheRoom on October 9th, 2009
1. Yes, of course we have secret fantasies.
2. More like, if I knew it wouldn't appall and disgust her, then yes, I'd share them.
3. Yes, most guys keep their biggest fantasies hidden away and just try to enjoy them through in porn.
by louie90 on September 6th, 2009
I would suggest that not all men have fantasies but i know most do. my husband refuses to tell me anything although i ask often. he insists he has no fantasies at all but sometimes i think he gets bored and wont say anything.
by Anonymous on October 29th, 2008
My hubby was scared to share them. Its one of the reasons we had problems arise in our marriage. Once he figured out he could share with me we actually found out we had some of the same fantasies. The ones that were different are ones we will try for the other just because we love each other. Its a give and take thing. Communicate...I just cant stress this enough!
by Carlos Lehder on October 29th, 2008
once i could fully trust my wife i told her every thing i fantasized about, and to be honest our sex life improved dramaticly because she was turned on by a lot of it
by linda50 on August 24th, 2008
i lived out one of my fantasies last time we were on vacation. i went topless infront of my brother-in-law when we were in the caribbean. everyone involved enjoyed it.
by 4747 on August 23rd, 2007
I'm a woman, but I know that some of my fantasies I want a man to fulfill, and others I actually don't.
by Pointeman1 on August 18th, 2007
The booming sex industry and prostitution specifically continue to grow because men have secret fantasies they dare not share with their wives or girlfriends because they fear they will think them to be weird sick or degenerate.
I learned a long time ago to share my fantasies with my partner. That saves a lot of future conflict. Even if it's negative the positive is honesty; nothing hidden so you know where you stand.
I'm not ashamed of my fantasies nor feel that I have to keep them some deep dark secret. Now I don't put them on billboards but I also let my partner know about theme and vice versa.. Turns out to be most enjoyable and fulfilling when both partners accept each others fantasies. You don't always have to act the out but by discussing them you gain a better understanding of your partners sexual and emotional wants needs and desires.
by Sheepingly needs no handy men only hugs on August 2nd, 2007
Everyone, both men and women have some sort of fantasy/fetish and alot of peole are afraid to share it with their partner. Sometimes their fantasies aren't things they necessarily want to act out, they just like to think about them.
by zee-ster on May 17th, 2007
i'm not a man and i have fantasies, too! i definitely share them if i think the guy would be up for fulfilling them & i may even share them if not. i wouldn't want to share any that might make the guy feel bad or like he wasn't enough for me in bed. unless of course, he wasn't. and, that's a whole different problem...
by saint nist on May 17th, 2007
As a guy.... Ive had alot of sexual fantasies with & without the wifey...
Its best to tell your wife or GF your fantasies AS LONG as it DOESNT get her mad at you...
by Monkey on March 9th, 2008
I think most people have fantasies. I have many but I will not tell my spouse because she is concervative and will probably think I am weird. She knows I have them but I know she doesn't want to hear them even though I wish I could share them with her, just to talk about it and share them would get me excited. Or too use them is dirty stories would be great to, but I know it would upset her so I keep them secret. maybe one day.
by Anonymous on August 24th, 2008
some men? yes. for me? no. the girls i date are as mentally disturbed as me. bring on the strap ons please!
by The_Professional on August 2nd, 2007
Yes men have fantasies they most likely won't share.
On the other hand - its hard to explain that the whole day is like foreplay for the man.
If my partner was willing - I surely would.
by Sympho de Proggy on October 29th, 2008
if you feel you can share your fantasies with your spouse, it's prolly for the best.
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but I wouldn't rush into that decision.
you can't un-reveal anything you say...
and you might find yourself kicking yourself in the ass for making your ball n chain think you're juvenile, perverted, or otherwise disturbed.
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nice answer, except for that corney part. ;)
by zee-ster on May 17th, 2007
A perfect answer. Including the corny part.
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Which part was corny?
by BrendaStronghart on March 9th, 2008
lol about feelings needing to be involved. She was being cute.
by Snooch on March 11th, 2008
you got it!
by zee-ster on March 25th, 2008
awesome answer...
by Anonymous on October 29th, 2008
hey now.. thanks a lot
by Snooch on October 30th, 2008
yeah, i probably was being cute at the time. now... i am wondering if i might challenge your theory. perhaps a new lover could be approached with a fantasy & it could work out fabulously. although, i'm thinking the odds would be better if it wasn't too high on the kinky scale.
by zee-ster on December 4th, 2008
I can only speak from my own personal experience. Nothing without emotion ever left a lasting impression with me.
by Snooch on December 4th, 2008