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by pennny on May 1st, 2007

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My bofriend of twelve months recently accused me of cheating on him after a couple of his mate told him they saw me talking to another guy. i didnt cheat and never would, he says he believes me but how do we

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  • by judgebill on November 4th, 2007

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    If you trust and honor yourself then you will choose as friends (and boyfriends) only those who trust and honor themselves. If you were to "cheat" on your boyfriend, you would not be honoring him. If he believes you are a person who would bring dishonor upon him, then this is most likely a projection. That is, he feels he is capable of bringing dishonor on you.
    If he believes in himself then he will choose only those as friends who also believe in themselves. If you fall into this category, perhaps it is time for the two of you to talk.
    If he cannot accept you as you are, then you probably don't want to have him as a bf. If you can't accept him as he is, again you do not want him as a bf. If you can accept yourself as you are, then you will learn to accept others. This is as much about you as it is about him.
    If he can accept himself then he can accept you. If he has trouble accepting your word, he is the one with the problem. Ask him to look carefully inside himself and see where that distrust comes from. Was he betrayed in a previous relationship? Sounds like it.

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  • by GdAdvc on November 4th, 2007

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    I am currently in the same situation, as of today as a matter of fact. I know it hurts realy bad when you know for sure that you are being faithful and your man doesn't believe you. You know how people say, "it's not you, it's me" It is the truth. When a person has these major insecurities, it is very hard for them to be the bigger person and just say they were wrong. Ask him to tell you some things that you do that make him feel like you are cheating. Most of the time, they can't list one. Then they realize it might just be them. Put yourself first honey. He will get over it.

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  • by salmonella on August 24th, 2007

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    The thing is, with people who are insecure like that always will be insecure unless they talk to someone to boost their confidence. My boyfriend accused me of cheating and I have been trying to tell him for about 7 months that I haven't. Now it's to the point where we are no longer together, but still fight about it. But I am giving up. With people like that it's as if they want to here you say that you did, just so they don't look like and idiot, because they are to afraid to be wrong. I say bid him adue and get the hell outta there. You don't need someone treating you that way.

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  • by Sunblynd 5.0 on May 1st, 2007

    Sunblynd 5.0

    I think your boyfriend is a bit insecure, the reason his friends are trying to throw a monkey wrench into your program is that maybe they want to have a go at you... who knows, but it's likely. His mates may feel that their just looking out for their boy, whatever. The last thing you need is someone looking out for you, if someone is watching, that's when you really need to worry and Q those motives of how come their not minding their own damn business, are their lives that pathetic they have to cause drama in someone elses lives so they can make themselves feel better. Keep in mind, sheeple can be a pathetic bunch.

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