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  • My wife is 2.5 years older than I am, and I was never approached by an ecclesiatical leader with regards to the age difference.
  • I know a guy that married a girl three years older then him in the church. The church encourages love and doesn't tell you who you should or shouldn't love. Of course, if it's an 18 year old boy and a 58 year old woman there might be a problem, but that's an extreme age difference of age.
  • 18years old is adult, this means if they want to marry someone older they can.. Mormon or not. It's the law.. over 18, Adult!!!
  • There is no rule or guideline within the church, which specifies how ages can and cannot be paired. (Excepting of course guidelines that are already clearly enough stated by saying that we obey, honor, and sustain the law.)
  • Is the Pope catholic? There really are some foolish questions on this site tonight.
  • Being a former "Mormon" myself, and having been executed...(OOPS!, I meant ex-communicated) by the time I was 24, my honest respones is "Just be careful!" Trust no one (of "them") as my mother was the one who turned me in for "behavior un-becoming a member" according to that church, I no longer exist, if you were to look thru church records.
  • Continuing on, I doubt they'd "approve" of too much of a spread, but then again, take a look at some of the Plygs who are "marrying" 14 yr olds. The church split on that issue long ago. However... To follow a church who preached bigotry and racism until it was no longer "politically correct" to do so and then "the Black Man" was suddenly able to "hold the priesthood" becouse "God said so..." doesn't make much sense if you are taught to "Love all people equally." My other great concern is...
  • I am sorry to be rude, because this question MAY be asked in genuine interest. However, this is like asking "can mormon men eat peas with a spoon or do they have to use a knife?" I am a convert to Mormonism. I have explored so many religions. It amazes me because I find Mormonism to offer the greatest level of free will than any religion while still balancing accountability, yet we are viewed as being controlled by some monster that makes us do crazy stuff.
  • Of course they can!
  • my boyfriend, soon to be husband is a morman he is 20 and im 29. age does not matter, you cant help who you fall in love with
  • As long as age difference isn't extreme. Much of Mormon doctrine commands men and women to have children. I have observed quite a few divorces after a woman goes into menopause. Men can still have children at 90. Women are usually finished by or soon after 40. While polygamy was banned by the Mormon Church, the requirement to procreate much survives. So the result is often divorce and serial wives. Quite frankly polygamy was better. The first wife secure in the home, and the man still had to get approval from his wife to seek another. And before you get onto me being unfair to Mormons about this. Infidelity and adultry is common practice in most all religions. For whatever reason. I think society would be better off if men could, with their wife's approval seek a second wife. I think it would reduce the sneaking around and divorce. Can't let men off with the complete advantage. He would have to make agreeable concessions to his wife or suffer severe penalties.
  • YES!!!
  • YES!!!! There is no rule/commangment/law/guideline etc that say's it's forbidden!
  • Yes, for as long as the rest of the harem are young
  • Yes. my cousin went on his mormon mission thing and met this much older womam with a few children. right now they are happily married and have lots of kids. and his family had no problem and neither did his church. so yes i think its ok!!! i hope this relationship works out for you!!!
  • Mormons usually find their wives on their missions, Girls who don't usually work for a year or two as nannies for wealthy families. If that doesn't work they go to the Y (BYU) IF nothing works ther are mormon match makers and Singles Wards.
  • Short Answer: Yes. Long Answer: There has NEVER been a stigma or prohibition about older women dating, or even marrying younger LDS men. For example Agnes Coobrith, Joseph Smith's sister-in-law and fifth polygamous wive, was SEVEN (7) years older than her first husband, Don-Carlos Smith (who was Joseph Smith's brother). Here's a small part of her story: "Agnes Coolbrith was baptized in Boston in July of 1832 and gathered with the saints in Kirtland, Ohio. There she boarded in the home of Joseph and Emma Smith. In 1835, Agnes married Joseph’s brother, Don Carlos. Three years later, when Joseph fled Kirtland for Missouri, Agnes and Don Carlos followed. Eventually they settled in Nauvoo with their three daughters. During the summer of 1841, Don Carlos contracted malaria and passed away. Five months later Agnes would marry Joseph Smith. The marriage was guarded with secrecy. On January 6, 1842 Brigham Young wrote a cryptic entry in his journal using Masonic symbols. Decoded, it reads: “I was taken in to the lodge J Smith was Agness”. The abbreviation “was” means “wedded and sealed”. On the same day in Joseph’s diary we find: “Truly this is a day long to be remembered by the saints of the Last Days; a day in which the God of heaven has began to restore the ancient order of his Kingdom...all things are concurring together to bring about the completion of the fullness of the gospel”. Later that spring, at a meeting of the women’s “Relief Society”, Emma Smith announced that a young woman, Clarissa Marvel, “was accused of [telling] scandalous falsehoods on the character of Prest. Joseph Smith”. Eager to prove her husband innocent of improper behavior, Emma initiated an investigation. A few days later, Clarissa signed the following statement: “This is to certify that I never have at any time or place, seen or heard anything improper or unvirtuous in the conduct or conversation of either President Smith or Mrs. Agnes Smith...I never have reported any thing derogatory to the characters of either of them”. By this time, Joseph and Agnes had been married almost four months. After Joseph Smith’s death, Agnes married Joseph and Don Carlos’ cousin, George Albert Smith. As George Albert and the rest of the Saints were leaving for Utah, Agnes wrote, “I have no other one to ask but you my mind is much troubled about comeing...I want to come and I do not want to come I feel alone all alone if there was a Carlos or a Joseph or Hyrum there how quickly would I be there”. Agnes ultimately did not migrate to Utah. She married a fourth husband, William Pickett, and eventually moved to California, essentially leaving her Mormon past behind. Many years later, her marriage to Joseph Smith still shrouded in secrecy, Agnes wrote to her nephew, Joseph F. Smith: “I acknowledge none greater...than those that belong to the household of Joseph our Dear Dear Dear departed one Joseph...I could say many things to you...that I know and that has been told me by those that are dead and gone but perhaps you would not believe me no I know that you would not so it is best for me to keep silent”. http://www.wivesofjosephsmith.org/07-AgnesCoolbrith.htm
  • Joesph Smith married a 14 yo, hay age is not an issue in the Mormon religion. Date them into the church. On a side note... My son returned from his mission one year ago. Since than... Five of his close friends and he have gotten married. One filed for divorce after one week. One filed after 3 months One filed after 6 or so months One just filed last week Push those kids into marriage and baby making. Gotta get these quotas for the month, ya know new members. This is a vary sad commentary for the so called only true church.
  • Mormons are pretty conventional -- and you usually don't have major age differences in marriage due to the way the singles programs are set up (in the young adult singles you get booted out at 30 so it's unlikely many people who are in their mid 30s are dating 19 or 20 year olds). Now that being said, there is nothing WRONG with it. You cannot get into any trouble nor will too many people (except older Relief Society "first wive's club" members might not like a 48 year old man dating a 19 year old woman because it reminds them they nagged their husbands to death and they eventually traded them in for a younger (nicer) wife). The other way around? Don't think that is a problem either except if the woman is past nenopause and maybe the parents of the young guy want grandchildren.
  • LOL. "Mormon Cougars" now THAT's a new one! But seriously, I think that the only thing holding them both back would be the social stigma that might be associated with such a relationship. And since every Ward Hall is a like a small town regardless of what town, state, or country that it's in I doubt that this happens much - if at all.
  • Yes but shouldn't.
  • Can? Yes. Will? Unlikely. Most of the morg men have a thing for younger and shaplier ones.
  • I sure hope so, or my wife’s going to be *very* unhappy, next date night.

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