I am so sorry that is really sad that she could do such a thing like that - She does not deserve one more minute with you at all -

Once a cheat, always a cheat. Plus, with your best friend? That shows a real mean streak.

If she is cheating this early in the relationship, it seems pretty dire to me. Second of all, your best friend is a piece of crap to bed your new bride, what kind of monster is he? I think you need to find a new wife and new friends, they are both back stabbers. How much longer would it been until they consipired on how to eliminate you so they could be together and reap the rewards of any life insurance policy or finanacial investments of yours? Let these two miserable selfish people get together.

It's gonna be ok, obviously, you need to drop the friend... The wife, you need to stay with and work things out. Things will be ok. You just need to get all the answers as to "why" this happened and then you need to realize that life is short, and if you love her then love will conquer all. You don't have kids with her right? If you don't, and you just have no more respect for her, then get out.... Does anyone else know? Family, friends?

oh man! I'd have a hard time trusting if (i should say when..I've been in this situation) someone cheated on me..added to that is the fact that you "found out" instead of you wife owning up and confessing to you..I tend to think cheating is a personality trait in a person as opposed to a "mistake"

Mean. Hateful. Selfish. Why surround yourself with those kind of people. Chalk this one up as a bad decision and move on.

Divorce immediately and punch your friend in the mouth repeatedly

I would suggest some time away from her, if you leave her or kick her out even for a week or 2, you will know if you want to get back together or not, either way it will be hard. If you do decide to get back together, make her seek counselling, or go together. If you do decide not to take her back, be strong and remember how much she hurt you. I'm so sorry this happened to you so early.

I would speak to her to try to understand why. I'd also speak with your ex-best friend. It's important to understand why your wife cannot honor her commitment. perhaps she's immature or really doesn't want to be tied down at this stage in her life. The reason may not involve you at all.

Once a cheater always a cheater which is true cause she did it twice. Her begging shouldn't be trusted. If she cared for you she wouldn't have done it at all. I bet if you asked her why, she can't give you a logical answer. Dump her and find someone better who actually likes YOU and only you.

Get out now. Twice! Say that to yourself and think on it. Did they recognize the fact that they were heading for a sexual relationship and stop themselves the first time? No. After they did it the FIRST time, did they feel guilty enough to stop immediately and not repeat the deceit? No. Let's assume you forgive her and take her back. Sometime later she gets pregnant. You're going to be wondering for 9 months who the baby is going to look like. Be strong and walk away.

From experience: When you find out that early on in your marriage that your spouse is having affairs, end it. If you forgive them, they will be faithful again for maybe a month or two, but it's always right back to the same thing. Think about it - how, in ten months, did she find the time (you guys are still newlyweds) to cheat TWICE with your BEST FRIEND - someone you trust, confide in, etc? She's either really good, or you really didn't want to see it (no offense, I've been the latter a couple times). Some things to watch out for would be internet usage....does she have a myspace account? How many email addresses? Does she "run out for a minute" to a store and is gone for a couple hours? Does she hang out with "the girls" one or twice a week, at night, and come in at late hours? Does she try to make sure that you two have seperate friends? I shouldn't say end it, because this is a new relationship (no matter how long you've been together, it's still new because of the marriage). You never know what could happen in the future, and your experience may be different than mine...but if she sees that she can be forgiven this time, next time she'll be expecting the same treatment.

Ultimately it's your own decision. There are three possible options. (1) If you find in your heart, that you still love her and are able to forgive her, then don't let go a what could have been a precious marriage and loving relationship. This does not mean that you should not confront it -- you need to be able to analyze it and find out what exactly is the problem. Sometimes a marriage that has experienced and overcome problems in its earlier stage tends to succeed later on. (2)If you find that the problems and emotional damage are too big for you to handle, tell your wife and your friend how you feel, then move on. Once you decide to move on, you should forget about this and rebuild your life. (3)If you cannot forgive nor forget, you will end up being the most miserable person in the world and your life would be ruined. So don't take the third option. Take care of yourself.

Technically i can give no advice. I've lost everything twice to the same damn woman. Forgave, but couldn't forget, and we ended up with a trophy out of the deal. Hard to eat breakfast in the morning with someone else's child at the table that was conceived screwing u over. Then my dumb ass knocked her up with my child. No regrets there, love my child to death, but made it really hard to leave the heartless bitch. We split and got back together over 20 times in 10 yrs. Felt like every time i left her, I was leaving my child. Plus, the other child called me daddy for 8 yrs. Hell, I'm lucky i didn't just eat a fcking bullet. Lived in pure hell for ten long years. Take my advice. Leave the heartless bitch. Find a new best friend, and a good woman.

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im living your situation... its pure hell! its been 3 years since i discovered my wife cheated with my so called best friend. she said it was the biggest "mistake" of her life and has no idea why she did it. which i know is total bullshit. its has been in my thoughts every day & every night for over 3 years. i wish i would have got out for good upon discovery but i did love her and children are involved. my advice to you is leave and never look back!