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  • This is perfectly normal. After him being such a big part of your life for such a long time, you feel a little emptiness that you want him to fill again. Most everyone feels that way after relationships. The feeling sucks, but over time it will diminish.
  • This is very normal, whatever your gender. After a relationship ends, there is always a feeling of there being something missing in your life as you adjust to the change, and it can feel unusual and a little scary, and you may start to think about whether it might not be safer just to get back with that person, even if you are the one who ended the relationship and had very strong reasons for doing so. It takes time to move on. There is also very often a period of reflection that goes on after you separate, where you think back to the times you spent together and remember the good times you had and the fun things you did, and the way the other person made you feel back in the beginning, and these nostalgic feelings are very seductive and can set you thinking "what we had was really special, why don't we start over and make it like that again?". This is also perfectly normal, but you need to remember that there were bad times and problems too and try not to look back through only the rose-tinted glasses... trust your judgement and move forward, not backwards, and these feelings and doubts about whether you should be with him will disappear before too long.
  • Completely normal... I'm in your position right now. I dated a guy for 9 months. He became one of my best friends. I pretty much lived with him, loved him with all of my heart, and I'd do anything to have it be that way again. I know I could never take him back because I'm a firm believer that if something ended, it ended for a reason. He never did anything to hurt me while we were together, but I know I couldn't trust him to not break my heart again. I think it's a combination of losing a best friend and losing that love all at once. It's one of the worst pains in life. Once you let go of the hope of you guys getting back together and accept it, the pain will start to lessen. You'll learn to be happy on your own again. Take it day by day. I wish you the best.
  • Does the word LOVE fit into the picture? You did not mention that word, only a lost convenience.

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