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  • My advice would be "Dude! Stop being a doormat!" I would very deliberately not attempt to patch it up again. It hurts to have feelings for someone and break up, sure - but it doesn't hurt forever!
  • If you have been together only a year and have already broken up 3 times,I personally can't see this as a life lasting relationship. Find someone to whom you can love and will love you back equally.
  • [PLUS] the thing is i express my love for her a lot, and i try my best to make her happy, but she doesn't. and she does whatever she wants, (that's the reason we broke up 3 times) now im in japan(i came here to forget about her), but she keeps calling me and ask me to get back together and she will try her best to show me her love. and she told me she would change and asked me to come back. so i told her i would come back soon, this june. now we are keeping in touch and everything was great until yesterday. she kinda started to behave the same way. i think i still love her but if i go back and start dating her again, she might act the same way. it was really painful to forget about her and move on, but finally i could. i don't want to be hurt again. should i go back? (she will be here for 3 days soon should i wait and see how she acts then?)
  • No! you can find someone who feels and treats you as you treat her. relationships are rocky, theres no denying that but it sounds like shes either not really that into you or shes not ready for a relationship.
  • This is an old question so it may not need an answer already. However, sometimes it gives insight to look towards yourself. Are you trying to be dominating and controlling? When you are in love sometimes you want to have all of someone's time which makes that person feel it's difficult to breath. It might be difficult but letting your partner have her/his own time helps.
  • No, no, no...You need more life experience. Your sphere of relationships might not span that far. This person may be better than the last but isn't necessarily the one for you. DID YOU KNOW THAT YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU SHOULD MARRY THEM? This is called Hurrying Love.
  • This sounds like a bum deal for you. And a frivalous relationship. Get over it and move on.
  • dude! do not go back she is yousing you! if she starts calling you say rong # or who is ........ or talk in a differnt viceo and say he moved or hes dead k good
  • Four times is too many.
  • she is not fulfilling your needs. It sounds like it's not really working and if your in Japan then it will be even harder to sort things out with her. Take this time alone to reflect on what you are looking for in a relationship and ask yourself where she fits in and where she falls short. KNOW yourself, your boundaries and what you need. If you think she can change and WANTS to change you might have a chance. But it sounds like she just doesn't want any responsibility towards you and YOUR happiness. Maybe just leave her to it and if she comes around on her own then you KNOW that things can change. You cannot force this one. Take a big step back and see what is REALLY there.

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