You've made a sacrifice to give up 1 of your dreams for someone you love and they dont even want to give a SMALL part of that dream when they know theres nothing more that would make you happier, What does that say about that person and how they feel?
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Curious_Cat
ANSWERS: 6
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Thank you Curious Cat, Now That you've explained a little more, I have to say I stand by my opinion. To withhold a loved one's dream is indeed selfish. If you have expressed your feelings and true desires and they have been dismissed, my advise would be to maybe seek the external and impartial counseling for the both of you, I really wish I could help more here, Best of luck to you. P.S. Having read some answers here, I agree wholeheartedly with Auntie Em.
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They obviously don't love you as much as you do them...They have no respect for your wishes. I think that person should question whether the relationship is worth that sacrifice. They should work on creating their own happiness before trying please the loved one.
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it would say that the person who is unwilling to give is a selfish person. To me if it is a reasonable request and that person knows it will make you happy then they should concede. I have been in a situation like this and it made me feel unloved.
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I don't think I could ask anyone I loved to sacrifice anything on my account, not would I expect it or consider it a token of love. Neither would I sacrifice my dreams or goals just because I wanted to stay with a person. An ultimatum is not an act of love, nor is giving in to one. Your dreams are part of who you are, and if a person loves you, they love your dreams too. Helping them to achieve their dreams is a loving act, but expecting or asking them to abandon their dreams is certainly not. You can't blame your partner if you decided on your own to sacrifice a dream - that was your choice,
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It's taken many years, 2 marriages, and my soulmate dying to understand something fundamental in life. Someone who loves you wants you to be happy, they want you to fullfill the depth of what you are meant to be. Even if it means some sacrifice on THEIR part, of course this is meant to be a give and take,between 2 resonable people. Someone who diminishes your dreams and is not proud of you and the things your passionate about weather he thinks he loves you or not, will squash your spirit. You will grow to resent the way he makes you feel and resent what you feel he took away. Not only should he let you do what inspires you, he should incourage you and inspire you. As you should him. That is what Love is!
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Would your dream have a negative effect on him/her? I am currently in that situation, my life-long dream was to retire in a foreign country, we went there on a visit, I loved it but my wife hated it. Would I want her to live in a place she doesn't like for the rest of our days? No! I wouldn't. There goes my dream, but I will never hold that against her.
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