My best friend is now going out with my ex-boyfriend, who dumped me. Is it right for her to go out with him?
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I would like to think you're leaning more towards the "not being ok with it". In my personal opinion it's wrong for your best friend to even entertain the idea of dating your ex. She's the person you confided in while the two of you were together, correct me if i'm wrong but it provokes a question in your mind...has she been plotting this all along? I would feel betrayed. A good friend/best friend would and should never date an ex. Was she the reason he dumped you? If so, I would re-evaluate your relationship with her. It just may be time for you to dump her.
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There is no right or wrong in such a situation. People are free to associate with those they feel comfortable with. Your "best friend" is doing nothing wrong; she is making a conscious choice to spend time with this person. That choice includes the possibility that you may not feel as comfortable around either of them as you once did, which may adversely affect the relationship between you and your friend or your ex-partner, if you parted on amicable terms. Whenever we enter into relationships with someone else there are choices and risks involved.
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I'm in the same situation my bestfriend is going out with my ex-boyfriend. we only went out with eachother for a month but he treated me really badley and my bestfriend told me he has a twat and that i should break up with him and now shes going out with him. the best of it is when i was going out with him he hated my friend he always slaged her down and i stuck up for her now there together. i know deep deep dpwn she didnt mean to hurt me but that dosent make me feel any better, it's wrong, me and her are no longer friends. i still care about her and i text her occasionaly to see how she is but she just goes on about her and him it really hurts.
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A GIRLFRIENDS ONLY NO NO IS TO DATE A EX OF YOUR FRIEND ESPECIALLY IF YOUR FRIEND REALLY LIKED HIM . THERE ARE THOSE CASES WHERE THEY WENT ON A COUPLE OF DATES AND IT WASNT SERIUOS AND YOUR FRIEND DOESNT MIND OR THEY REALIZED THEY JUST DIDNT MESH WELL AND THEY MUTUALLY STOP SEEING EACH OTHER BUT WHEN A FRIEND TELLS YOU TO BREAK UP WITH HIM AND SAYS HES NO GODO AND THEN WHEN YOU BREAK UP WITH SHE GOES AND DATES HIM THATS WRONG ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU REALLY LIKED HIM BUT THEY ARE BOTH OUT OF YOUR LIFE AND THEY SOUND LIKE THEY WERE BOTH ASS HOLES SO SCREW UM
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i would say no if it was a serious relationship. when i was younger a lot younger me and my best mate have dated the same guy (at different times lol) and we were fine with it all but ive just broke up with m bf after 10 yrs and if my best friend dated him then it would probably end our friendship.
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I 100% agree with RedJohn after the relationship is over its over your free to see whoever you like to each ones life is there own of corse your gonna be upset if you see your ex with your mate but you will feel that way whoever your ex see's but if you they do find happiness with eachother then you should feel happy for your friend i know this because i have seen many mates go out with my exes yeah sure at first i will feel abit upset and jealous but at the end of the day as long as my mates happy im happy for him unfortunately fate sometimes works in funny ways and we can't help who we fall for so at the end of the day i just say full power to them if they have found the right person it even made me laugh when my mum and dad told me thats how they first met each other and they have been happily married now for almost 30 years the only time i don't condone it is if your ex left you for her mate
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No, it's not. I would never do that to a friend.
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I think it is incredibly wrong for a good friend to date an ex. It's just an unwritten rule that every girl friend should know. I'm in the same situation and it sucks. we all go to school together, it's a very small high school. I no longer speak to either of them. My ex and I went out for 7 months and were best friends even after we broke up. That is what makes it so much harder. It hurts every time I see either of them. My best advice is to keep your distance from both of them, regardless of how close you were to either of them. Friends just don't do that to friends and if they have they simply aren't worth your time. It will hurt a lot for a while but you'll get used to the idea and get used to the fact that there are going to be people out there who will betray you.
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i know how you feel, i am in the same situation and im heartbroken and i thought i could trust, but obviously if they have done that to u then they are not ones to trust , jus talk to ur mate and tell her how u feel about it all
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No.
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Ok, first of all, it's depends on how long had you been with him, and how deep were/are your feelings. Cause if it was only a short term relationship and you don't feel to much for the guy, then well, it's nothing wrong with them. But, if you felt and still feel for him, and your BEST frend knows this (she must knows, she's your best frend!) then the best thing to do for you forget your ex and forget you best friend as well for ever! It's one of the worst situation when you're betrayed by your ex (cause most probably he liked her as well while you two had been together) and your best frend..
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are you serious.. of course its not right, it does not matter if you dumped him or he dumped you, just dat fact dat you guys had something going on and now she is dating him,im pretty sure you feel uncomfortable and she does as well.
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None of them seems to have a problem with it, so the real question is: how do *you* feel about it? If you feel bad about it, it could be time to look for a new best friend.
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well i think that it sucks that friends would even think to go there.my very best girlfriend jus did this to me ,its not like i was goin to marry the guy but i believe in the unwritten rules,worse even she lied about it and i had to hear it from another girlfriend,so my advice is they are about a million more people in this world who can be better friends ,she still ur gal jus not the best anymore,keep away from em and live a whole new life ,it will never be the same,situations like these are either meant to make or break ur friendship so if she with him ur friendship is broken ,take heart in a lil bit it will be ok ,not with them maybe but with u
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My best friend is doing the same right now and back stabbing me :( I'm sorry Hun
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She is not your friend. Friends don't date other friends' ex's -- especially in this situation. If it makes you feel any better, they will get back what they give -- karma.
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If it were me, I would feel that the best friend had betrayed me. As a friend, if my friend's ex asked me out, I would never go out with him unless I had okayed it with my friend and she was happy with it. A friend owes another friend that much loyalty. Sorry, but your friend is NOT a true friend, she is a bitch.
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My opinion might be different from popular belief, .. but ...YOU DON'T OWN HIM. It is his choice to date whoever he wants, regardless of how it makes YOU feel. If you really loved him, you would want him to be happy, even if his happiness wasn't with you. Yes, maybe it feels like betrayal, but did you ever think that maybe your best friend has feelings for him, too? What if they make a better match than you and the only thing that stopped them being together was your 'ownership' on him just because he's an ex? Okay, so maybe people think I am crazy, but I don't care if my best friend dates either one of my ex's as long as they treat each other well. I've had a guy I really liked tell me he couldn't date me just because his friend liked me. That didn't seem fair to me at all, because I liked HIM, not his friend. I ended up liking one of their other friends who didn't let that get in the way. Phew. He got over it. Okay, so yeah...get over it. If it hurts you that bad, choose a best friend who agrees with your morals on this.
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its wrong its not right to do that. just dont talk to them dont make any communication with them. they are only out for themselves.
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my best friend did this to me twice i just wish i could remove the pain just get rid of it forever it wil always leave a scar in my heart
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