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My Fiancè has changed a little since we first met and got engaged...
He depends on me to do every single thing, while he sits on his ass most of the day playing online games with strangers. When I want or need him, he always tells me to wait, he'll be done in just a few mintes. So, I wait. Patiently. But 30, 60, 90 mintues go by..sometimes more, and nothing. It's as if I never said anything to him. When I later remind him, he doesn't know what's going on.
Yes, he will do things around the house sometimes..but he leaves a mess. Doesn't clean up after himself...and if he does, it takes him an hour or MORE to do so. Yet, I clean up as I work.
Anyway; my other question is; Why do men think they can get away with anything...not do anything to help us women, but expect so much respect?
by roxiemichelle on January 27th, 2012
Selected by the asker, LonelyNostalgic1. (What's this?)
It's because we let them :-/ no matter how much we talk shit about them, we still end up staying with them and continue to cleanup after them as if they were a dog or child. The only way they'll appreciate you and change, is if you leave there ass. When they see how much is missing out of there lives then they will do anything to get that back and keep it and change to be a better man. BUT if your man stays the same and continues on with his life then he really was an immature dog and thank god you left because you can go do better :)
by XT on January 27th, 2012
I have a same problem.
by buxtonite ..slowly losing my mind on January 27th, 2012
lol... if I were you I would be looking in the mirror at the fool who is letting him get away with crap like that, so grow a pair and stand up for yourself. My lady would just smake him around the ears and tell him straight... either pull your finger out or your arse is booted to the curb!.
by Smar Talic on January 28th, 2012
5,4,3,2...
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Thank you; finally someone who can understand a little of what I'm saying. I do love him, and vice versa. But there are times that he is just like what I described. At lately he has been more so. He can ALWAYS do whatever HE wants to do, and doesn't expect anyone to get upset. But when I do, he can't understand why. Even when I'm explaining it to him!! My only logical reasoning, that I can come up with is, since I am the first real relationship he's ever had. He was never with any women long enough (they used him) to have been able to learn about women; the way we think, they way we feel, etc, etc. So, I think it's something to do with that. But that's still not an excuse for how he's been with me lately.
But, anyway...Sorry about that. I really appreciate your answer though, thank you :)
by LonelyNostalgic1 on January 28th, 2012
You are absolutely right. My bf was in bad bad relationships and a bad marriage. He never knew anything about real love, how to be in an actual healthy relationship, or to care for each other. I spent the first 2 1/2-3 yrs opening his eyes to that. But for a long time because I loved him and understood he didn't know any better, I let things slide. But overtime I was being torn down and just tired of the way he acted and treated me. I had to put my foot down. I left him and wrote out a huge novel of a letter explaining why I left and the reasons why I loved him and how he'll never find someone that would care as much as I did. That what he calls "nagging" was actually me caring about him and more things like that. There's only do much you can take and you begin to feel unhappy but still love him. It's a bad place to be and you need to make a change. Even if you are scared of the outcome. Good luck and you can message me anytime :)
by roxiemichelle on January 30th, 2012