Add to this question by telling us why it bothers you. Tell us in what way is his interest increasing? (Watches more often? Watches only this type now? Watches instead of having sex with you?) Pornography is fantasy. There are strict laws to keep out minors. Are you both aware of these two facts? You mention that he is "keeping this very secretive". Did he become secretive only after you expressed your dislike? Or was he secretive before he knew how you felt? This question is important if he is looking at stuff on the internet instead of on DVD or VHS. Some websites are legitimate, but some private collectors and illegal foreign websites do contain illegal movies and pictures of minors. If the police catch even one person in the system, it is easy to find out all the people who shared these images. Is there a possiblity he is being secretive because he is really looking at minors on the internet? That is just the worst-case scenario. Chances are, he is looking at porn that is perfectly legal, and pretty common. Chances are, he is "secretive" because he became aware that you don't like it. If you want to find out, there are several ways. The best is to be gentle. Gain his trust slowly. Tell him you enjoy sex with him, and want to share what turns him on. Tell him you want to give teen porn a chance, and ask him to explain what is different about teen porn that makes it a special turn-on for him. For some, it is the young bodies. For some, it is innocence violated. For some, it is the temptation of the forbidden. You need to get inside his head and find out what exactly pushes his buttons. You have to be able to listen to all this calmly and quietly, or he will close up and hide. Once you have his trust, ask him to show you what he has been viewing. If it turns out to be illegal stuff, calmly ask him if he has considered all of the consequences of getting caught. If it is not illegal stuff, and it still bothers you, can you put that in words? Can you CALMLY write down how it makes you feel? It would be a total waste of time to tell him that if he doesn't stop, you will leave....he will just do it more secretively. You can only threaten this if you are totally serious, not just to manipulate him. It would be useless to say something like "If you loved me, you would stop". It is totally possible for him to care about you, but still be unwilling to give up something he believes is fun and harmless. Have you considered buying into this fantasy? Do you and he ever role play sex games? Do you ever dress up for him? Maybe you could get out that old cheerleader uniform and surprise him? Of course, this works both ways.....if you indulge this fantasy, is he willing to do something equally special for you? If not, I would say this is not a good relationship to stay in. Part of the fantasy of teen sex, for some, is the tightness of a new pussy. Do you do Kegel exercises to keep yourself snug? Pornography, like any pleasure, can become a habit, even an addiction. Even the legal stuff can do damage. Chances are really good that he does not see this as a problem at all. But if he spends more and more time with it, and if your sex life is changing for the worse, it may deserve some attention. Under these circumstances, getting him to seek help almost certainly won't work. You might have a better chance if you told him that YOU have a problem with porn you want to deal with, but you have to have him come with you to the counselor to work it out. There are Christian Fundamentalist organizations and bogus clinics that offer to "cure porn addiction"---- you want to be very careful who you deal with. Many employers have insurance that includes visits to therapists, check that out.

I am not strictly against pornography, but I find teenage porn absolutely morally wrong, it encourages objectification and violence towards women and paedophilia if you ask me, and what you said about a tight pussy is just another one of these degrading comments and I can be sure that if a woman was watching men that looked so young there would certainly be a big problem with that in any relationship or social circle. Legal teenage porn does not excuse the supposedly eighteen year old girls being dressed up like fourteen year old schoolgirls being fucked in every possible by men in their fifties. I found this sort of pornography on my boyfriends computer aswell and no matter how many blog questions I've seen answered on this topic, I will deffinetly not see it as something 'natural', ok and 'inevitably' manly behaviour, plus the whole conception of women having less sex drive then men is absolute nonsense and guys my age '21' constantly make jokes about the older men 'having' to go to prostitues to satisfy their sex drive. See, that's a joke, the man cheats on his wife and he is excused because he say a prostitue and his wife should reconsider her attitude and a women cheats and she is considered a bitch and cheap, not her husbands fault. Of course this is not always like this, but it is a frequent generalization. Finally, I am 21, have no insecurities with my body, i am very attractiva, have no problems with my sex drive, am not militant against legal pornography that portrays real women, not girls, that are payed a proper wage and have rights in the industry as any other worker. The problem is that is far from the reality of what all boyfriends, and husbands end up getting their hands on surfing the web

Yes, I'd be concerned. Adults watching adult porn is one thing, but teen porn... especially with the added secrecy.

It depends on what you mean by teen porn. Now if we're talking girls who are still considered minors in the eyes of the law then there is a serious problem and you need to address this now. Possession of child porn is against the aw in the United States so you could turn him over to the local police with all of the stuff you have on him. However if by teen porn you mean girls who are just barely legally adults what's wrong with that. and don't give me age crap either. Plenty of men in their 30's 40's and even 50's and above enjoy looking at young girls. So long as the girls are legally adults their age should not be bothering you.

Who cares? Let him watch it. As long as he's not doing the real teen.

Isn't teenage pornography illegal if the teenagers in it are under 18? Of course you should be concerned.

Actually, yes, there's quite a big connection between legal +18 porn and underage porn, take that from someone who knows quite a lot about how the industry works. Sometimes the legal + illegal sites are connected, sometimes the supposed 18 year-olds are in fact underage. Guys like your husband watch barely legal sites for a reason, it's because the girls look underage, are skinny, and innocent-looking, now tell me that's not wrong. Dressing an underage-looking just-legal teen in a school uniform is not much more than pedophilia to me, and trust me, a looot of guys who start off with the barely legal sites move onto the darker, illegal stuff, cause they all promote "younger, fresher, tighter". And from that, the only way is down. I personally think it's a bit sick that these girls are being advertised as "just turned 18". What attracts people like your husband is how close these girls are to being children. You will also find a lot of these sites on illegal toplists, because they're all linked by one thing: young girls. A lot of even pedophiles visit barely legal sites as they're not yet ready to go any lower yet. And I'm not making this up. Besides, 18 year-olds may be legal, but we all know they're still pretty much kids. If your husband is into adults, there's plenty of hot over 20s out there, but no, it's forbidden fruit that attracts him.

Bs! A lot of men (in fact most men) find young girls attractive because when the girl is mateuring she is sending the stringest signals in form of smells (fermones) to attract a partner.(and in natures language: she is ready to mate) and there is nothing unnatural about that, in contrary! What is in fact unnatural is the age-limit. Some girls might be mature already when they are 16 (In my country we are sexually legal at that age), while others don't mature until they are 22 or much older. However, I also have to mention I am strongly against child pornography (girls/boys who have not matured) and ion fact I also don't support most of the internet porn itself because of the dirty buisness that is going on (abuse, voilence, rape etc.) But age itself as long as the girl is sexually mature should be no limit, its a natural process and a natural reaction to all men. Man- 26

i agree with the last comment. I noticed that my boufriend who is 39 was putting in searches relating to teens, white panties, teens in stockings etc. I couldn't help myself, i had to do some looking around on the computer. I discovered that he had stored about 400 images on an external source (had to have a look of course), a lot of it was 'normal' porn ie women over 20 but some of the stuff was the 'barely legal' stuff. A few of the photos were of girls who looked about 15, skinny and barely developed looking. I eventually tackled him about this, telling him how it makes me feel and that it bothers and worries me greatly. (I have a 17 year old daughter and these girls look younger than her) I don't believe for one minute that he would hurt my daughter. He was mortified that i had seen his searches and the sites he had been visiting and said he would stop. He did lie when i asked him if he had stored any images anywhere. When her realised that i was aware of his surfing he deleted everything (or else stored it somewhere else, not sure about that). That was about a month ago and there has been no sign that he has taken it up again. This has left me with a huge sense of mistrust and my self esteem is at an all time low. He is a good guy and was terrified that I would tell him to leave because he had gone too far. He didn't say that he felt he had gone too far but that i would think that. I don't have a problem with porn, i enjoy it in fact but i don't think i could even watch it with him now as my mind would just see those images. He's a great lover but sometimes i find it hard to enjoy sex becaus i imagine that he when he closes his eyes he's flicking through the photos of the girls he chose to store. I know that i need to sort out these issues myself but guys, think of the impact your actions can have on the woman you love. You may see all this as harmless and my reaction as pathetic but i feel what i feel.

If they are of legal age no (Unless you become really envious of their youth or something. Well, that would be your problem though).

thanks for your question and everyone for their answers yes its wrong we both know that which is why u asked the question and why im here i discovered my bf is looking at teen porn and it sickens me so he is out the door no room for compromise get rid he is a pervert......thats my advice to both me and you we deserve better.

I could see it if a person is alone but if you have a wife/gf why look at it when you can be doing it. There is so much more to a relationship, if you think about sex all the time you are missing a lot.

I find porn unhealthy regardless, but yes teen porn is getting a bit weird. It will start making a person wonder yanno?

Yes, you should be concerned. If porn involves under 18s, it's illegal. That's why your bf is secretive about it.