by hunebun22 on July 9th, 2005

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I've been with a guy who has another girlfriend who lives out of town. She doesn't know about me. Should I tell her I know about her?

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by Jon Hart on September 16th, 2005
It depends. Why are you telling her? To hurt her? To make her leave him so you can finally be with him for good? If it is for these reasons, you should not tell her. That is petty and meanspirited. If you genuinely feel she needs to know and then do it, but understand that she will get upset and will blame you. As far as she's concerned, you are the bad guy. You are the one who did something wrong, not her.

And as far as the guy goes...do you want to continue being someone who has been two-timing you? Granted, you knew about it, but what's to say that once this other woman is out of the picture, there won't be another woman that YOU don't know about.
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by Oatmeal on May 22nd, 2006
Don't do it out of spite. Do it because you want her to know he's been with you behind her back. Put yourself in her shoes. I don't think you would like it, and with this guy, you might end up in them sooner than you think.
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by Millenium - The Mysterious M. . . GONE! on February 20th, 2010
*ANOTHER twenty-something*
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by MyKinKStar on December 30th, 2006
It's probably a better move for you to dump the guy who has been screwing someone else and getting away with it because he let you in on the secret!

Do you like being someone's fool? NO, you're better than having to sit back and protect his secret life, but you shouldn't have any issues with the other person. Your concerns should be with the guy and what else he's lied to you about!

Wish him well and move along. Take care of yourself and don't settle EVER!
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by joeyknuckles on January 26th, 2006
It's not your business to tell anyone anything! if he wanted her to know he would have told her. unless you have express written consent from him, you are forbidden from interacting with people you have not been introduced to!!!! why is this not common sense!? I hate people...
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- Don't agree with the common sense part.... Unless you are involved in a relationship such as this, you do not understand!!!!
  
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  by hunebun22 on February 13th, 2006
- Yup, ur right about that, he's the one thats suppost to her wut he did. Good answer
  
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  by Blowercup8ip on February 15th, 2006
- Simply, the possibility of diseases give the partner/spouse the right to know.
  
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  by cindy garnes on April 21st, 2006
- the fact that you are involved with some1 in a relationship does not give you all rights to his personal life. jumping into a relation like this means you take the risk of diseases. no right to tell her anything. and by the way hunebun, i have doubts that you understand much of anything outside your own little bubble you call a world.
  
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  by joeyknuckles on December 25th, 2006
- BEING sexually involved w/ him PUTS her smack in the middle of his personal life. How much more personal can they get??
  
  What is wrong with you? She may be taking the risk of diseases, but he is risking his girlfriends' health, HIS future-- [pregnancy?] and he took the risk of HIS actions-- cheating-- blowing up in his face!
  
  How can you possibly think someone should stay "in their own little bubble they call a world", because they are wondering if they should be honest because their F*** Buddy ISN'T???
  
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  by Alaskacatalog on December 30th, 2006
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by Farino on July 15th, 2005
Yes, explain that you have only just found out that he has more than one partner and then decide on a course of action between you. You may find that one day a week is acceptable.
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  by MyKinKStar on December 30th, 2006
- What are you? some guy that visits strip clubs and thinks your fantasies can come true? give me a break.
  
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  by Alaskacatalog on December 30th, 2006
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by Alaskacatalog on December 30th, 2006
Agree w/ J Hart. depends on why.

The best thing to do is send her an anonymous note, telling her you have slept with her boyfriend, and having found out about her, are dumping him. Then, DUMP HIM.

You would be kind to suggest she get tested for everything, as nearly half of all sexually active people in America have some form of STD--

if you are mature, you will not be looking to hurt someone- because it WILL return to you in the future in a bad way.

Just look for something better. A real man that thinks as good of you as he SHOULD, will not put youu in this position.
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