by Curiosity didnt kill the cat. I did. on March 31st, 2011

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Without sounding too vain, my ex is still stuck on me. It's weird because we only dated for 4 weeks, and that was almost 2 years ago. Wtf?

Since he broke it off with me, I moved back to my home state and started dating another man. The new guy and I live together, also. But my ex still eludes to the idea of us being together, and acts as though me being in another state with another guy is a "phase" I'll grow out of. I've thought about cutting ties, but when I tried to bring it up, he started acting suicidal and depressed. What do I do?

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by gtravels loves her life penguin on April 1st, 2011
Cut ties. Don't bring it up. Just do it. You're not responsible for babysitting him the rest of his life. He's manipulating you and you've got to stop allowing it. You can't be held hostage by his mental condition. Move on. You're entitled to be free.
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by Rickster is victorious on March 31st, 2011
Cut the ties and give him the phone number of the Emergency Services/Suicide Hotline in his area. Think about it. What a manipulator he is... omg...
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- I know he is manipulative, but at the same time he doesn't seem balanced and it's scary to think that ANY human being would take their own life. Even his MOTHER (who I met one time) friended me on facebook and tries to message me saying how much his whole family misses me. Whole family? I met only his mom. Once. And we dated casually. For barely a MONTH. I think the whole family is cuckoo for coco puffs, but like I said, I'm afraid of what will happen if I cut ties.
  
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  by Curiosity didnt kill the cat. I did. on March 31st, 2011
- Do it. If you don't, you are playing into their victimization and odd sort of neediness, as they credit you and also blame you at the same time (based on casual, brief dating). Quite simply, their happiness is based on something outside of themselves, as is their unhappiness. Too weird. I would stay far away. (Clinically, it has the flavor of a personality disordered bunch.)
  
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by The Chief on April 1st, 2011
Cut the ties.

He's responsible for his own behavior, not you.

Move on with your life and let him take care of his own.
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by Christi_G on June 7th, 2011
move on and cut the ties, you seem happy with the new guy so dont put ur relationship in danger for the old boyfriend....

he is proberlry only trying to get attention and is loving the the idea of being with you, the chase is always better than the kill....

I've been in hospital for trying to OD before and I have experiences it with other people around me, a suicidal person doesnt talk about and treaten, they do it!!! so trust me you have nothing to worry about!!
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by katie on June 12th, 2011
it's possible that he loves you, it can only sometimes take a few days to fall in love, even hours and it doesn't matter how long you two have been together. i was with someone for a few weeks 3 years ago and i still love him even though we don't talk, i've had many relationships since, those just proved even more how much i love him. by acting suicidal and depressed he might be looking for attention but don't blame him, when people are in love, they don't always think straight. cut contact with him because you want to move on with your life and he needs to as well but he won't be able to do that if you keep in contact.
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by AnonymousGirl on June 12th, 2011
Cut ties anyway. He has attachment issues and they can be overcome, but you hanging on to the friendship is doing him a disservice.
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