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My friends often say I'm a Debbie Downer (I'm not even a chick!) because I talk about things like that Terry Jones a$$h0le, Afghanistan, Iraq, the state of being single and broke, etc. What can I talk about?
by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on September 8th, 2010
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Sex..People are always interested in sex:)
by midwestgirl on September 8th, 2010
Anything that makes you happy! For example, I love my job (even though I'm still broke, I love what I do) so I tell people fun stories from work. Talk about cool things that go on with your family/friends. You should think happier thoughts throughout the day and you'll just be happier in general and not focus so much on the crap of this world. Its all about your mindset and that is totally your control. They have tapes, CDs, etc about this. Improve your mindset, improve your outlook, and improve your relationships.
by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on September 8th, 2010
I don't blame them. I wouldn't personally stay friends with someone who makes it a habit to complain about the state of their life. Negativity is infectious.
So, you can change what you talk about or you can get friends who are just as negative. I would go with the former.
by for_the_city on September 8th, 2010
stop giving your opinion. just be quiet for a while.
by SELENIUM_TEST_83335 on September 8th, 2010
"Debbie Downer" makes me laugh till I cry...take it as a compliment!!!!!
by iggypuck on September 8th, 2010
Do a doobie Debbie.
by duckiesRcool on September 8th, 2010
Well don't worry, you're not the only pessimist out there who likes to talk of depressing things, I'm one myself hehe... I believe many people dislike how we concentrate on the bad side of things sometimes, because they don't want to face the reality of the situation. For example, my bf only likes to look on the brighter side of things ONLY, and never really wants to admit the things that can go wrong.. such as, he took up a major (art) which basically has NO future in this economy unless you're gonna go into advertising or something to that nature, (sadly he wants to be a freelance contemporary artist -_-) but still believes there's something out there within that realm that's gonna get him somewhere. His art instructor even said "The most you can get out of this major is a newspaper and a cup of coffee." Hilarious. He's too afraid to admit that he chose a bad major and is trying to "make the best of it". Sometimes you just gotta face the fact that it's not happening and do something else. That's what I'm trying to get across here. However, I do know that there's a limit when discussing bad things, because if it's concentrated on TOO much, there will be no room for actually living, right? Maybe you're not fully in the wrong by talking about things that are really going on, I think you may have just found the wrong audience who aren't willing to talk about such topics or listen. But if you like your friends and want to converse with them easier, just pick neutral topics that everybody can relate to and put their own two cents in. :) Hope it helps!
by the_fox on September 8th, 2010
Get new friends?
by Brent. on September 8th, 2010
Well.. i don't blame you for talking about such things as the war. It's all bullshit. Our collective paradigm as a society needs to shift. I wouldn't stop talking about such things. Maybe just try to find a new angle when you speak. Maybe on how to improve the things you see going wrong. People don't want to hear about terrible thing.. they want to hear about how to make them better. As far as being single and broke.. either realize happiness comes from within, not externally or get a girlfriend & a job.
by megcham on September 8th, 2010
If all you are talking about is religion, politics and how you're broke, then you are a downer. Give it a break, learn some jokes or tell some funny stories or just shut up and listen to someone else say something funny.
by bagicide stayed 10 months too long on September 8th, 2010
Try getting to know Christ. It will be good for your character and outlook. Then your friends will probably call you a Bible thumper, but that's okay. You'll also probably have new friends who will just love you for you.
by Mister_Bromide on September 8th, 2010
Take some "Debbie Uppers".
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ME AND ONE FRIEND ACTUALLY STARTED TALKING ABOUT SEX, and it was going well (GOOD CALL, BEN)!!! But then it kind of felt like she got all awkward. I hadn't said anything out of the ordinary. She just kind of stopped and changed the subject. But again, good call.
by In-Stereo-Type on September 8th, 2010