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He's and awesome guy and really sweet and caring. He's never once said anything to make me feel inadequate for having no experience, yet that is how I feel. How do I get over it, since I would like to have sex with him and I don't want him to know the stupid things I've now put into my mind. But I need to know what I'm supposed to do??!!!!
You are just feeling a little inadequate about being a virgin. There is no need to feel that way. Is it because when you do have sex you will think you are inadequate as a partner. Don't. Remember everyone started from the beginning. Talk it over with him before you do have sex, and when you do have him help you. Guide you, and most of all be patient. Sex is a learned activity. Just going through the motions of sex is not all there is to it. It's an art to sustain it to completion. Mostly on the man's side. On the woman's side it's learning how to have an orgasm. For some women it's easy and they learn fast, but for most women it takes time and some never experience an orgasm.
For women touching is very important. There are many areas of the female body that are sensitive to touch when involved in sex. Men too. Both should learn those areas and develop heightening the sensation for more greater sensation. Be patient and learn what satisfies each of you.
guard your heart girl. your virginity is a special thing. once you give it to him, you won't get it back.
I don't know if many women know this but men have very little mental capacity "in the moment". The only thing in his whole world will be you. Ge won't be comparing to other girls because you are going to have ALL his attention. If he really loves you, his focus will be pleasuring you because he cares about you so much.
As far as advice goes, do what comes natural! if you are a quite lover then few light moans here and heavy breaths there will turn him on. If you are rather louder then let it all go! If he isn't a player, he will want to explore YOU more than just your love parts.
Relax . . . you will be fine. Don't try to imitate what you see in the movies, most of it is "acting." And you already know what you need to do, you just haven't done it yet. If he loves you, then comparison won't be an issue -- he will think YOU are better than any girl before you because he actually loves you and the others are ancient history (and he might not even like them anymore). On the other hand, if you are dating a player, he will make you feel like trash once it is over. Therefore, make SURE the guys likes YOU (as in ALL of you, not just your vagina) before you even consider having sex with him.
Comparing ourselves to anyone can make us feel inadequate--that is why comparing is so wrong. When you compare, you bypass your own qualities and try instead to be like somebody else. Just be yourself. It's your uniqueness that attracts. There is no one else exactly like you--so live that way. You have many qualities that others don't have. But remember, you can only give away the precious gift of virginity to one person one time. It's okay to hold on to it until the very best and right guy comes along who is willing to totally commit to you. Hope the guy realizes the prize he is receiving.
Well, if you're a virgin that's a rarity these days. Be proud. But if you have to; just be yourself. Make a little noise and move your hips a little; come up to meet his thrusts.
If your a teenager, practice on yourself till your done with college or in your 20's. If you get preggo somehow you will look back and say man I wish I wouldn't have done that now I have kids to take care of and my dream career put on hold for 20 years.
well i cud say something ...try this!!!!
go down on him and suck him dat your tounge carries his penis back but when he cums make sure his penis is still!! in yr mouth ....(don't swallow spite it back out)..trust me he'll dream that everyday! !
you need to just be you lol....thats what he likes about you
there is no... "shes better than the other"...
just you thinking that because other girls go for it and you dont...he might think bad things about you .....that is all.... and why should he,,, no reson
you might just be worth the wait, cos your a real cracker lol....ever though of that?
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This is a great answer.
Peanut7365, this answer is great because it talks about communication and sex being a learned thing. There's so much to learn and discover about yourself and sex, and if you don't communicate, you'll still feel awkward about it even when you are no longer a virgin. And I can't stress enough how important an emotional connection is. Being comfortable with the person you're with means you can relax and enjoy yourself. Don't feel like there's something wrong with you if you don't get an orgasm even then- as said for many women it takes time. If there's love and respect in the relationship things are looking good :)
by Moon Unit on August 30th, 2010
I see communication is very important to you. You're right, women need communication to get in touch with their emotions. Most men don't get it. They are into touch immediately. That is why they like action sports. That gets them into communications with their emotions. If men would feel their woman is a very important part of their life, communicate, and hold hands while walking they would find that takes care of 50% of the need to touch. It would also give the woman a feeling of connection, and along with communicating, the magic wand, he can get what he wants too. The trouble I see today is men, boys, kids, don't know how to communicate with women, let alone listen.
by kento37 on August 31st, 2010
Yep, you couldn't've put it better there. The simple things like putting a hand on their back as you walk past, or holding hands down the street, these all create connections, and then both get what they want...:)
by Moon Unit on August 31st, 2010