I'm a virgin and my boyfriend wants to have sex, but I want to wait till marriage. He says he's a virgin too, but he keeps a condom in his wallet. Should I be worried?
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You shouldn't. The ultimate decision is yours, and if he is not a criminal who would forcibly make you have sexual intercourse with him without your agreement, he must wait. You are the last barrier. No matter how "ready" he is. If you really do not want to do it then don't. If he disregards your decision, it is a serious crime with dire consequences. Just have confidence on yourself. If you don't, then you, the last barrier, will be broken, and then you will be doing something you don't want to. Trust yourself, you're the only thing you really have.
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Of course not if a guy doesn't carry a condom then he's very irresponsible, he probably carries it just in case and wants to be ready so there will be no unwanted pregnancy, waiting til you are married is a great thing in some ways but what if you 2 are not aroused with one another and don't find this out til after marriage? Some people aren't sexually compatible but there is a lot to think about so give it some good thought before you make any decisions and be sure the condomn he has isn't old if you do pursue it,,,Good Luck
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I wouldn't worry about "sexual incompatibility" like the previous answer mentioned. This is no reason to experiment with sex if you have a good reason to stay committed to your virginity. When you find the man you want to be with for the rest of your life, and you are willing to love and commit to each other, whether or not your sex life is mind-blowing will not make or break your marriage. Waiting to share your most intimate expression for love until marriage is a noble cause. If you're not ready, don't do it, and if he pressures you, then he's not the right one.
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Your biggest worry might aught to be this: ** IF ** you change your mind... please do not trust using his condom. Since he is a virgin, it is probably the only condom he has ever had. It is likely very old and is no longer safe to use anymore. You must use a fresh condom. I am NOT implying that you should have sex. I am only writing an answer to point out a possible oversight that would have crushing consequences. Please remain a virgin if that is what makes you feel happiest.
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You should follow your own advice and wait until marriage. Not only is it a good idea to wait until marriage because it is immoral and sinful to have pre-marital sexual intercourse, but you are doing the right thing and respecting yourself by refusing to go against your moral principles. Your boyfriend may be keeping condoms either because he is sexually active, or desires to be sexually active. Either way, it is best to wait until marriage and you should share your feelings about sexual intercourse with your boyfriend by telling him that you wish to remain a virgin until marriage because of your moral standards. If he gets upset, and decides to break up with you over this serious situation, then you're much better looking for another boyfriend, who will respect and honor your wishes to remain a virgin until marriage. Good luck and I hope this answer helps you with your dilemma!
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I carried a condom in my pocket when I was still a virgin but I didn't have a girlfriend! Now my girlfriend is on the pill so I don't carry a condom.. However if you suspect your boyfriend isn't actually a boyfriend you have trust issues, I would never lie about that, although I did omit telling my girlfriend I was a virgin until we'd slept together several time and only when pressured!
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People talk about sexual compatibity etc etc. Dont listen to what they say! Look at their lives! They cant maintain relationships and divorce rates are increasing!!! Whats my point?? It is that having sex before marriage will ruin a boy or girls chances of living a happy (and permanent) married life. Getting to know a person emotionally is far more important if you want to marry him!! Then once you are married then you can explore with sex!!
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I don't care what everyone else says, but who keeps a condom in their wallet? Anyway, i think that that dude's lying... Should get a lie detector test or something.
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I don't know how old you two are but it gets harder (no pun intended)as you get older. I think waiting has advantages but experience makes sex better. Stick to what you believe and don't listen to us. There is no right answer tho your question.
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Just worry about you! Men are a bit different than womaen in that catagory. See, My husband was not a virgin when i married him. But I Was !Yes, sweetie,! I was a virgin until the day i was a married ! It feels good to know that no other man has touch me like he does(my husband). It would be nice if he remains a virgin. But you cannot decide for him! Take care and God bless you!
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Trust in marriage is the most important thing. Before you get married to him, if that's what you want, BOTH of you go to the doctor and get tested for STD's. That way you can at least start your marriage trusting each other. After that, all bets are off on the NOT getting a divorce thing. At the very least I'd have a frank talk on how MUCH sex you want in your marriage because TWICE a week is way different from TWICE a month. I KNOW!
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all guys keep a condom in their wallet, it is just guy code. just don't trust that condom, body heat degrades latex and if he's had it for more than six months or a year, then it's not good anymore.
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The condom is no reason to worry. I'm a 20 year old virgin male and I carry one, not just incase some hot young thing jumps my bones, but incase the girl I love decides she wants to make love. It's also so we can look cool in front of our buddies. If he truly cares for you he will wait till you are ready.
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you shouldnt, maybe he is already prepared to loose it with you thats why he's carring a condom, in case it just happens he will be prepared, or he has it to show off his frnds lol...
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Tell him that if he turely loves you he will respect your decision. And that if you both are going to be together forever then the years before your marriage will feel like days after you are married for a while. Also mention that its a lot easer to learn who a person turely is and what is best for them if sex is not on your mind all the time.
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Not really but if you want to wait then wait.If he really respect you then he will not force you to do anything you dont wont to do.
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Don't have sex with him if you don't want to. If he really loves you, he'll wait. And, about the whole wallet condom thing, that might just be as a safety measure in case he ever ends up doing it unsuspectingly.
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