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About a month ago it was my boyfriend's birthday. I had no clue what to get him & thought through it alot. He was complaining alot about how he's lungs hurt (he's been smoking for 10 years now) and that he wanted to quit smoking. I got the brilliant idea to get him one of those e-cigarettes. He even told me that he wanted a new one (he did have one, but lost it) so I went to buy him one. It was quite expensive but it was on special, buy one and get one free. It came with a little carrier, a charger and car charger. I was very excited to give it to him.
His birthday came and I gave him his gift. He was very happy and seemed that he liked the gift I gave him. He used it for about a week - a WEEK - and lost one of the cigarettes and the charger. I also noticed that the other one was just lying around on the stupid floor. I was p*ssed! I didn't say anything.
He also couldn't stop telling me how happy he was about his mom's gift, a wallet. He looked well after it and still does. My stupid gift was just lying around while he kept on smoking cigarettes. He again started complaining about his lungs feeling sore and I pointed out that it's because of him smoking. He agreed and threw away his pack of cigs. Later that evening he wanted a cigarette but then reached for the e-cig I gave him. I said (and I said it nicely) that I'm happy he's smoking that thing again. All of a sudden he completely flipped and said that I was being a bitch... blah blah blah! Why is he doing this? I feel so unappreciated... is it wrong to be angry?
PS... he started smoking again... I know it's hard for him, but I just wanted to help :(
by keylock000 on August 23rd, 2010
he does not want to stop, not for you, or himself
you did ok , but he's a bit of a prat
you do what you want for a change, and stuff the BF
your on a downhill spira, bet it's you that hits the floor first
HND...=0)
by gioia on August 23rd, 2010
It was very kind of you to buy him such a thoughtful gift.He should've looked after it better and you've got a right to be mad. You care more about his health than he does.If my lungs hurt I'd be scared.He should see a doctor,most smokers lungs don't hurt.He needs to get some gumption and put his mind to kicking the habit or he'll further ruin his body.If he disrespescts you as much as your gift then dump him.
by PrivateGomerSpooner on August 23rd, 2010
He sounds like a jerk and doesn't appreciate what you have done for him. If someone buys him an expensive gift, he shouldn't go throwing it on the floor like some spoiled brat. Overall does he treat you well in the relationship or does he treat you like crap? If it's like crap then either tell him so and you want him to change or you are finished.
by squiggleybop on August 23rd, 2010
that was rude of him to ignore your gift, and it was very thoughtful of you to give that to him, but does the e-cig help his addiction? aren't those things just water vapor? maybe nicotine patches would help him as well. smoking is a deadly, gross habit; he should really work harder to quit.
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