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He does not know that I know – I happened to look on his gmail chat and observed her name there. I then looked at some texts on his phone and there were some there too. there was no discussion that was off color nor talk of meeting anywhere. Our sex life is great, and he has been trustworthy in everything else. He gets along well with his ex wife – very cordial, and they had a daughter together so he has to be cordial anyway. But what should I do about his talking with his ex g/f?
by luchy1309 on August 20th, 2010
Don't panic over this. I understand you might be a bit freaked out, but it might be nothing. If he really wanted to do it behind your back he wouldn't be so open about his personal things such as phone, computer, mail, etc... On the other hand, I don't think it should be something ongoing, I don't believe it's healthy for your relationship. My recommendation is to let it be for a while because it might be nothing, and if it keeps on going, then you can start a normal conversation (without actually confronting him), and suddenly her name can come out and you can see how he reacts or what he says about it. But don't make it seem like you're digging for information or doing it on purpose, because immediately you will turn a "most likely normal situation" into a "why are you doing this??!!?? situation"
by Gingerminx on August 20th, 2010
You say he has been trustworthy in everythign else, how was he untrustworthy here? He spoke to his ex, how is that untrustworthy? You checked out his gmail chat and his phone, that sounds more untrustworthy to me.
When your expectations aren't met do you adjust them downwards/laterally until they are or hang tough and not budge till they are met?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker on September 12th, 2011
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mira (my best-friend) josh( miras best- friend plus boy i like..)
i want to know if it is okay to go out with you best-friends, bestmate...
by Monica_A on July 17th, 2011
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Would you get back with an ex after a number of years? Why or why not??
by zoso1166 on October 14th, 2011
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would you be with a women you loved if she got pregnant by her ex?
by shamus2124 on August 29th, 2011
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After a year, my ex bf still sends me dubious messages and i don't answer them back. What are they about? And why is he insisting?
by Kamila on July 22nd, 2011
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You're reading If my hubby of several months is texting/ corresponding on occasion with his ex g/f does that necessarily mean I am in trouble? See Desc.
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Makes sense...he knows I was cheated on in my previous marriage so I would certainly hope he would not do that nor tempt me to think along those lines...thanks for your thoughts!
by carma2010 on August 20th, 2010