My boyfriend of 4 years cheated on me. The lady is now around 6 weeks pregnant. How do I begin to deal with this and move on?

Sorry to hear you invested four years with this guy. Be glad it happened while he was a boyfriend rather than a husband with kids. You can move on knowing he was not the right one for you and to do it without children in tow. Count your blessings.

Believe it or not, you have already taken a giant step in deciding to move on. I commend you for making such a sound decision in the midst of all the pain you must be suffering.

You will not get over him quickly, but you will get over him. First things first: absolutely no contact with him what so ever. Block his email address, if calls, ignore the call. He is no longer part of your life.

Secondly, keep busy. Clean out all your closets (also an excellent opportunity to purge anything of HIS in your home). Take up gardening, anything to keep busy.

Socialize. A lot. Going out with friends and just chatting and having fun will let you have brief moments of respite and you will actually feel better.

Talk to someone about your feelings about this. They are legitimate and you have every right to feel what you feel.

I hope this helps and I hope you feel better soon.

Theres different sites to help you. Match.com,NoCheatersdate.com,eharmony.com, one I go to BBW.com take your pick or all of them the possibilitys are endless. Right now as I type this my brother is down in peru with a chick he meet online and they are in love he has meet 10 of her family last message I recieved and will be there for 2 weeks having a good time. They talked on skype and cellphones for a year and a half before he went down there.

If you're willing to forgive him, it's going to be a long time before you will "move on". It takes alot of strength to move on when someone cheats on you. A situation like yours will take alot more strength because there's now a child in the situation. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and he cheated on me about 6 months ago. I'm still not over it. I'm trying to let it go. The thing that bothered him the most was that I was constantly throwing out snide comments. I told him that can be expected after what he did. They have become less and less as the trust is slowly being rebuilt. I still don't trust him fully, but as the months go by, he's proving himself more and more. I used to check the usage on his phone on the computer 20 times a day as well as hacking into his facebook and myspace. It was ridiculous. I check those maybe once a month now. And so far, I have found nothing. But somewhere in the back of my mind it strikes me that it could be that he's getting sneakier. I don't know what else to tell you. Follow your heart. If you still love him, then follow it. But it's not going to be an easy ride. Sorry for such a long answer. Good luck!!!

Be grateful that you found out now and not later. You should not stay with him no matter what. He clearly doesn't respect your relationship at all. I would just leave and move on. I know it will be hard but you will heal after time has passed.

i know you want a quick fix but to be honest it's going to take time. firstly, you need to know that he's scum and one day karma will kick both him and her firmly in the butt. secondly... better you find out now than when you're married with kidsl, gotta be a positive in there somewhere. thirdly, know that when the time is right, things will work out perfectly for you. i know what i'd like to be cheated on so i do know what you're going through. you're not alone. talk to your family and friends. let them help you through this. the best revenge is to be the bigger perrson and keep your head up high. you did nothing wrong and none of this is your fault. one day, you'll feel better about this. i promise :-)