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by Kangermoo on May 17th, 2005

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My boyfriend likes it when I put a finger in his anus before he cums. He recently asked me to do similar activities using my tongue. How do I tell him I think it is kind of disgusting? Because honestly I like it when he does such activities to me.

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  • by Lucas_ on May 19th, 2005

    Lucas_

    Be honest and tell him how you feel about it. Tell him that you're open for new things and that you want him to tell you what he would like you to do, but that you won't do this, and explain why you won't do it. I'm sure he wouldn't want to find out later that you never actually wanted to do it, but simply did it because you were afraid to be honest.

    Addendum: This answer got a rating that kind of confuses me. Somebody wrote "How do you be honest, and then say that he or she would never know." To clarify: I didn't intend to write anything along the lines of "he or she will never know", and I still can't see how you can read something like this into my answer. My advice is clear: Be honest, tell the truth.

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  • by Alonzo Garbonzo on May 20th, 2005

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    It's more than kind of disgusting. What you are doing with your finger is generous enough. Many women would not even do that. Men's bodies are different in this respect. Even after bathing, a man's anal area is a collecting ground for vile secretions and foul residues. It is no place for a lovely tongue like yours.

    The same area on some women, while not exactly appetizing, can be a place where a man willingly ventures in the height of passion. When he does, don't let him kiss you until he washes his mouth.

    I suggest that you tell him that his activities please you immensely but you can't return the favor. If he isn't happy, ask him if there is something else you can do to compensate for the pleasure you are withholding.

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  • by The_Professional on January 16th, 2007

    The_Professional

    Forget bibical.

    Think about what it is you would like to do to him and offer it up to him.

    I have had a finger and tonge by her - I don't care either way - but she loves that when I do it to her- and I love doing it. Every so often she does it back - I don't know if she likes it or not or if she just feel obligated (I think she just feels obligated).

    Course I'm sort of a clean freak (even when it comes to down there) so it must be less disgusting for her then for me - course I kind of like disgusting.

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  • by Tye209 on May 19th, 2005

    Tye209

    A relationship is a compromise. In biblical terms, the sexual act is set aside to express a love for the other person that can not be put into words and is to only be shared by those two people. Nothing held back from your partner. He seems to be willing to do whatever it takes to make you happy, and that is good. I recommend you do the same because that is when love really occurs... Doing for your significant other when you dont want to or dont feel like it. Just giving you something to consider.

    As far as telling him that you think its disgusting, you may get the same response. Last thing, you never know what you can get use to and like if you form a habit doing it or at least try it. I have several female friends that dont like oral sex, but love the response they get from the guy, so they have found something to like and that alone makes them want to do it. P.S. If a guy knows that you dont want to do something it kinda kills it for him. So be a good faker till you can find out a reason to like it. In otherwords, give it a shot a few times before you say anything about what you dont like.

    expecting your partner to do something he/she finds disgusting doesn't sound like love to me.

    You should read carefully. Your answer is in her question and then reiterated in my answer.

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  • by Jennifer Jason on October 3rd, 2007

    Jennifer Jason

    I completely agree. I'm totally open to anal fingering, toys up me back there, anal sex, but his tongue? or my tongue up him...

    No thanks... I did have a guy do that once when I was not ready and I will admit it felt amazing but I was sooo embarrassed. I had not done any of my normal prep for anal activities and we just sort of ended up in bed together and suddenly I'm on my hands and knees for just a second he bends down and his tongue is 15 inches up my rear. (well that's what it felt like!)

    It felt amazing but I couldn't have been clean and the embarrassment factor way overwhelmed the it feels good factor.

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  • by WussiePussieHasLetHimselfOutOfTheBag on January 26th, 2007

    WussiePussieHasLetHimselfOutOfTheBag

    Try using a flavoured condom cut open as a dental dam... You won't smell or taste anything then. Either that or use alcohol (to drink/wash your mouth/as lube)...

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  • by amipagol on May 18th, 2005

    amipagol

    Well I hope you do know that man's G spot is located inside of their anal so it is very stimulating for man if you put finger in it or licking it. But if you do not like that u shold be honest with him and should tell him that you do not like it. But inspite of telling him straight you can make point to him while you do not have intercourse and can use example of others. hope you will find that useful.

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  • by altgirl84 on October 4th, 2007

    altgirl84

    Some people have said it's disgusting, blah blah. But if he does it for you you should be at least open to doing it to him (the same for anything, whether it's oral, etc). Maybe coat his ass in yummy flavoured lube to make it taste better, and make sure he has a shower first.

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  • by hooters on February 16th, 2007

    hooters

    I have always used my fingers and tongue in my wifes anus, and she always loved it. The other night we were playing around and she slipped her tongue into my ass. I have never felt something so wonderfull. As she was tonguing my ass she was stroking my cock. I came in about 2 minutes. What a great experience. We have repeated this again and the amount I ejaculate is alot more than when we have regular sex.

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  • by janacide on January 27th, 2007

    janacide

    Tell him that the thought of it is a mood-killer for you.I am with you,it is one of my limits because to me it is disgusting, although I have let it be done to me,reversed,is not my cup of tea.

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  • by Cat on December 1st, 2009

    Cat

    If you enjoy it when he does it to you, you should try to find a way to do the same for him. Do you think it is disgusting when he does it to you? My practical advice would be to try it right after sharing a nice hot shower and making sure everything is squeaky clean. Be honest with him and tell him you have trouble getting comfortable with the idea though. He may have to accept that it's one of those things that only goes one direction. And if he doesn't make an issue about it, maybe your comfort level will change in time. My G/F somewhat hesitatingly agreed to pee on me years ago.. discovered she didn't mind it so much... came to like it... and eventually decided she wanted me to return the favor.

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  • by Anonymous on October 9th, 2007

    Anonymous

    WHO'S IDEA WAS IT TO PUT THE FINGERS IN HIS ASS AND DOES IT TURN U ON

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  • by D.J. on March 4th, 2009

    D.J.

    If you want your ass licked, honey, you better be willing to lick ass. What goes around comes around.

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  • by Moralgay on February 15th, 2007

    Moralgay

    If you love him you should want to give him the best and be thinking about his pleasure over yours, especially if you have given over your body to him why are you holding back? If you are just thinking about your own likes and dislikes are you really loving him as in caring about him above all things, or are you just loving him as a possession, you love him only when he pleases you and it's something you like doing.

    Consider that and if you don't then you have no right to have any sex with him whatsoever and should not lead him on.

    Biblically this is what Corinthians 7:4 says
    "The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife"

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  • by Anonymous on December 1st, 2009

    Anonymous

    My answer is bias and I don't care what anyone else thinks. It's ok for him to lick my butt, because it's cute. His butt isn't as pretty. I will use a finger if I have rubber gloves on, but no licking. My preference is a putting a dildo in his rear.

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  • by al7anoon on February 14th, 2011

    al7anoon

    since you enjoyed doing it to you, he is too... this act from you increase his irritation and you could feel it while the rod in your hand.. shower and clean it with some perfume lotion..

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  • by iDeath on November 29th, 2009

    iDeath

    Bad Girl

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