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  • Let him know that if he wants to talk about whats bothering him that you are there to listen with an open mind. From there its up to him, dont force it.
  • In order for this to happen, your husband has to feel that he can trust that he is safe to open up and tell you what is wrong. This can be done by creating a safe environment in which to share feelings. (Until you learn this well, I suggest you start off with small things.) 1.) The goal is to UNDERSTAND HOW EACH PERSON FEELS. Remember that as the #1 goal at all times. 2.) Disrespect is not allowed, nor is raising voices. 3.) One person shares his/her feelings on a single issue, using a feeling statement format. (I feel [emotion] when you [action].) This avoids either party feeling attacked and getting defensive. 4.) The other person listens to what the other person is saying. 5.) The person listening clarifies his/her understanding. 6.) The person listening validates the other person's feelings. 7.) Switch roles and start again at #3. Good luck.
  • It seems that you have a communication problem with your husband.Sometimes it is difficult to make men talk about the problems. Some time ago I found useful the book Men are form Mars and women from Venus. I am sure the book would help you. Please see http://www.marsvenus.com/JohnGrayProfile.php
  • Just say, "I'm listening when you feel the need to talk". He should at some point feel confortable enough to do so.
  • First wait until Sportscenter is over. I would ask small questions that would lead to a conversation. Maybe a situation that's similar at work that could relate to your marriage and go from there. Kind of like leading my 3 year old to the bathroom and not telling her she's going potty but just placing her on toilet, because if she knew than the tantrum would come. Good luck
  • Try starting with: Are you having an affair? He'll respond don't worry.
  • It appear to me that he might feel that there is a very fine line between having a discussion and confrontation. I have been in situations where I thought I was having a discussion, only to find out that my husband felt like he was being forced into a confrontation. I have learned to some extent to try to give my point of view while trying not to appear accusatory, but it's very difficult to do. I try not to blame him, but to state my feelings and what made me feel that way, and wait for a reply. Sometimes it's a long wait... But eventually he comes around. You have to feel out your husand and try to express that you're worried and trying to find solutions to problems. Most men like finding solutions... Good luck

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