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When some couples fight, their aim is hurting each other. They resort to name-calling, belittling each other and inflicting emotional pain. This is verbal abuse and is unhealthy. Sometimes the fighting can escalate to physical abuse. Domestic violence usually starts with threats and verbal abuse and can lead to physical injury and even murder, according to helpguide.org. Sometimes it's good for a couple to disagree. Marie Hartwell-Walker of psychcentral.com says fighting can be healthy and normal when partners listen to each other's fears, concerns and issues without patronizing or being hurtful. Partners must refrain from getting defensive and raising their voices and be willing to make sacrifices and concessions for the benefit of the relationship. It is unhealthy for couples to fight in a violent or abusive manner, but it is healthy to resolve differences through respectful arguments. Help Guide: Domestic Violence and Abuse Marie Hartwell-Walker, Psych Central: 10 Rules for Friendly FightingOn One Hand: Fights Can Get Abusive
,On the Other: Fights Can be Healthy
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by PhileoTruth on March 22nd, 2010
Fisticuffs physical fighting, yes.
Having earnest disagreements, no. If the couple always agrees, then one or both of them are being dishonest.
by neveroddoreven on May 13th, 2011
Better to let it out than to stay quiet and breed resentment.As long as fights don't get abusive its healthy.
by purplecows on October 24th, 2011
I think there's a difference between disagreeing and fighting.
Please be more specific. Describe this "fight" that may or may not be unhealthy.
by Nightwatchdog on March 7th, 2011
If it's unhealthy then it's no wonder that I'm sick.
by Javnok on September 15th, 2011
It is not the fighting that is damaging but how and whether the couple resolve the fight. I suggest looking up the writing of John Gottman. He is the psychologist who is an expert on relationships. Fighting is normal, but is the fighting mean, does it show disrespect, does it damage the bond? There is a difference between fighting that exhibit revulsion and fighting that says, I still love you but I don't agree with you, or I love you but I feel hurt.
by Little Prince on December 18th, 2010
by Tears.n.Pain.. on September 29th, 2010
I think fights are totally healthy. They get out all the negative feelings being felt toward the other and resolve issues.
I was in a relationship where my partner and i never once had a fight. Then, we had one argument and the relationship was over.
The relationship I'm in now, we argue aaaall the time. It's not yelling at eachother. Just.. emotionally unhappy discussions. Neddless to say, this is a much more secure and healthy relationship. Hope this helped. :)
by Michele_G on September 30th, 2010
sometimes especailly of person does not want to face or can not face the truth
by sexkittencupcake on October 1st, 2010
It is absolutely healthy for couples to fight. Not in an abusive way of course, but to discuss differences of opinions, admit hurt feelings and even get upset is all very important for the people and the relationship.
by FlyingUbercapitalistPig on November 24th, 2010
I don't think so! If we agreed on everything she would be boring! She has never been boring!
Is it unhealthy for couples to fight?
by Answerbag Staff on March 18th, 2010
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I always have the same problems and thoughts running round in my head. They never fully get sorted. I hold grudges
by beli.dee on September 27th, 2011
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What if everyone walked around and talked to themselves outloud? (humor welcome)
by lazagna on October 24th, 2011
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What in your opinion is a normal person?
by Anonymous on October 24th, 2011
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How can people sit idly by and do nothing to help a drowning victims for more than 30 minutes until someone called 911?
by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on September 14th, 2011
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