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My wife has desire to see a black mans erect penis live. I found a man who will touch himself and get hard and come for her. Anyone done?
by giffer on May 19th, 2013
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What should I do to be more sexy in bed?
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how do you ask/get asked by a in a gym locker room to have sex with another guy?
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Have you ever been halfway through the act and thought to yourself "I cannot be bothered...I am done yet?".
by Beanobill on May 20th, 2013
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Can any ladies really orgasm through just anal play without any clitoris stimulation? Or is just something that they fake in porno vids?
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How so, John?
by Anonymous on March 6th, 2010
If she accepts this action she accepts his dominance, at least for the moment. The situation can easily be reversed and can be accepted by the man if he is mature enough to handle it.
by Johnno on March 6th, 2010
I accept it because they seem to like doing it. Nothing to do with dominance. 30 years ago guys were more into oral sex and coming in our mouths.
Because you know you are (at least in most cases) physically dominant I don't see what that would add. Don't you feel dominant and get an ego boost from letting go in our vagina? Then we can feel your pre-orgasmic excitement, swelling and throbbing (all exciting to us),and enjoy the warmth of your ejaculation which is comforting.
What does a man need to be mature enough to handle? You mean not being dominant?
Thank you for your answer.
by Anonymous on March 7th, 2010
perfect answer John.
by ladyshakespeare on March 7th, 2010
I cannot speak for other men. I want to do it because I like womens faces and cumming is nice, why not combine the two? Its neanderthal to desire it but we are animals after all.
by Knightriding on July 22nd, 2010
Hmm... never thought of that! That helps me understand it more and see it in a different light that will, I think, help me learn to enjoy it.
by Anonymous on July 22nd, 2010
We all do things that are degrading when we love someone, to ourselves or to them, for whatever reason. Some of us poor saps have been known to model a purse for our girlfriends amusement and much to our dismay. Some women are also into smothering their boyfriends with certain parts of their anatomy, not that id know anything about that... And some men find it visually arousing seeing their seed on their lovers body parts.
So degradation for anothers satisfaction can be okay and satisfying to you as well in some cases (not modeling purses though). Just make sure no one sees you doing anything too embarassing. I guess you just have to ask yourself if your lover is worth "suffering" for.
by Knightriding on July 28th, 2010
or, a more reasonable approach would be to ask yourself "is making my lover suffer really a sign of love, or is it quite the opposite?"
btw, Ive never asked a man to model a purse, how absurd is that? men dont carry purses!
by ladyshakespeare on July 29th, 2010
Right you are lady s, thank you as usual for your comment.
Really though I can't imagine that a guy coming in our eyes and mouth would cause many of us to suffer! If that is all we have to worry about we are doing all right.
Umm... men sometimes do carry "purses" though they don't call them that.
by Anonymous on July 29th, 2010
yes, I also consider this a moot point. We all KNOW that the intent is malicious, but it does not cause pain or injury, it is not done publicly, so no harm done. The only risk is if the woman should internalize it rather than just pass it off as a problem in him, not her.
I rememberr a time when sex was about pleasure, pleasure for all involved. Society would benefit from restoring that mentality about it.
by ladyshakespeare on July 29th, 2010
Well at least that was what we were taught it was supposed to be about. Unfortunately all too many of the under-40s seem to have become lazy and often derive more pleasure now from passively watching internet porn than actively giving us a tumble. But fortunately they are not all like that.
by Anonymous on July 29th, 2010
Ladyshakespeare I know my intent in what I do and desire, and thats all im concerned with, because I cannot defend mankind (like you cannot defend womankind). I know im not malicious, and if you dont like your face ejaculated upon then dont do it. I certainly dont blame you. Just be sure to not slap a degradation sticker on something just because you dont like it. Women do things that are degrading to men as well. Perhaps not sexually but it still happens. I dont know if you wholeheartedly agree or disagree with me but it does not matter. From this rational person I see in the mirror every day, I say thank you for your valuable input. I dont carry purses I just wanted to make my girlfriend laugh, so I gave in to her strange request.
by Knightriding on July 30th, 2010
k, maybe your intent is not malicious, maybe you just dont understand your own actions. (common amoung porn users, are you are porn user?) Its difficult to miss the comparison between ejaculating in a womans face and urinating on a grave. It is intended to be the ultimate insult. It is a way to show her that she is worthy of the waste of his body. Same same
If you want to do this, it can be harmless with communication. You can avoid the risk of damaging her self esteem by simply explaining to her that it is not personal. Its just something you see in porn and want to "role play" after the porn.
Yes, I agree that women do degarding thisngs to en when they are angry or bitter. Sex is probably not a good place to be venting your anger or bitterness though. When you rob someone of sexual pleasure and offer them pain and degradation in retunr, you can expect them to not want to have sex with you anymore. (extremely prevelant problem in marriage)The bottom line is always that sex should be enjoyable for both people, not just the man.
by ladyshakespeare on August 2nd, 2010
I understand my actions to a comfortable level. Just as a person who likes feet accepts he will never completely know why (example thats not my thing). I feel the act would be erotic for two idividuals and if a woman doesnt like it, well its certainly her face and her place to say no. I too have watched pornography like you no doubt have, but I dont get anything out of it most of the time. What kind of a role would one be playing by wanting to do this? I have seen alot of your answers and you seem to generalize men alot! Damaging her self esteem? I do not follow that line of thinking and id hope that it wouldnt cause that. Ultimate insult? Your opinion is yours but why be insulted? I dont see the relation of semen to urine, and certainly not see the relation of faces to graves. By your line of thinking when a woman orgasms when a mans face is in her genetalia then thats terrible too, but wait! You didnt seem to mind when Queeningboy69 said he would let a woman do it to him and you "liked" his answer, so whats the problem? What I meant by my original message was that we try to step outside the box for our lovers interests or were going to live a boring sex life. Im not saying do anything you are very much against or go too outside of your comfort level. Its your face but yeah im not seeing the "degradation" problem. I know one of my cohorts on here will roll her eyes when I say this, but its about INTENT with most sexual actions. EXAMPLE: If you hancuff your wife to the bed with the intention of keeping her there against her will, then youre a very bad person. But if its to add to the kinky play then thats the harmless INTENTION isnt it? I intend to step out of the box, with exeption of going to the "point of no return" type of actions such as adding other people into it.
by Knightriding on August 2nd, 2010
handcuffing the woman is role playing, and it is clearly understood to be role play. Same can be accomplaished with most anything IF you communicate that it is just role play. I "liked" queenies answer simply because he is willing to recieve what he gives, thats highly commendable. As Im sure you have read in mANY of my answers, I object to the idea that only women are supposed to suffer through sex. Youve probably seen my rant and rave over men who pressure for anal but wont allow it to be done to themself. This is what i liked about queenies answer. He is fair minded on the issue.
I generalize on most psychological issues since we are one species, and in general, we are the same. We have different looks, likes, dislikes, etc. But the human psychopathology is the same in mentally healthy and stable individuals.
I do agree with you that it is about intent with most sexual actions. most sex in current society has an ulterior motive as opposed to being just for pleasure or fun.
by ladyshakespeare on August 2nd, 2010
Good answer Jon.
Lady, great anology on the grave. Im going to use that line in counseling. I totally agreed with you right up to that very last sentence. I think most of us are still enjoying sex without indulging in degradation, dominance or abuses. Ya, some men recreate the abuses they see in porn, but I'm sure that they arent the majorty.
by Bryce on August 2nd, 2010
Besides the inconvenience of ejaculation location, I dont see how society has gone away from pleasure. If anything people are too much about their own pleasure and wont hesitate to sleep with any and all passerby in some sad cases. To Anonymous I say that its a shock to me that men wouldnt give their ladies "a tumble" whenever the mood struck both of them. If youd dont want to sleep with your s/o then thats bad in most cases! Pornography takes a backseat to a real woman any day, and I shudder at the thought of choosing it over a woman. Im again not seeing how a woman can take something like this personally or be emotionally hurt by it, but im glad theres still some old fashioned and proper people out there. Im glad the act in question is at least agreed to being harmless with communication. Of course you have to communciate! You cant just blast a girl in the face who is not expecting it! I do not know of one single man that would not agree with queeningboys interest or desire. Im a giver and im all for that. If you know of a man (or several) who wouldnt like to give what he takes or vice versa then that explains alot of your reasonings. I am not like that so I again dont understand that. On a side note if you know of a man who wouldnt keep his face near his s/o's genitalia when her moment arrives, then hes no man at all. I dont feel anyone should literally suffer through any act of sex, but only try some minimal actions that theyd normally not be into. Im trying to not get into specifics because of the kids that no doubt read this, but my point is that sex is give, take, and share (within reason and decency). If anyone is against anything then thats their rightful choice, but I dont think this particular act is meant for degradation and if a man intends that then he should be barred from doing it to his lover, by his lover. Youve answered some questions of mine before and I agree with what youve said, but just dont generalize or assume all men have the same intentions in our universal battle plans. Bryce I dont know you and I wont get into how this act is not necessarily degrading. Besides the obvious atrocities we can all agree on, I myself would like to know of these abuses you people speak of in real life or pornography! Maybe im in a cave with all this and am unaware of what happens in other peoples bedrooms! I stick by my disagreement of comparing a womans lovely face to an unfortunate grave. BTW sperm isnt bodily waste but I roughly understand why youd think so. I have to say that I disagree with jonthehero's answer too because its again generalizing and assuming. I wont get into the facts about "egos" on here and ill save my thoughts on that for another time. I respect all opinions on here and it would be wrong of me not to because I come on here to see the opinions of the world wether I agree or not. Great question anonymous!
by Knightriding on August 4th, 2010
Thank you Knightriding. Not sure how great a question it is but at least it has drawn a number of answers and comments.
Any woman over 40 sexually active with men of different ages would have noticed that this became increasingly popular from about the mid 1990s. The impetus was the increasing availability of pornography, where due to its visual nature and impact the "cum shot" reigns supreme, on the internet.
Men whose "intent" is to dominate or degrade a woman will find ways to do so in whatever activity they choose, and while there is no question that historically this practice has carried those connotations (I'm thinking especially of Japanese bukkake) I find nothing inherently degrading in it. It is a form of love and sex play, really even somewhat creative when we consider all the men who, to keep from impregnating us, pulled out and finished on our bellies or on the sheets. At its worst it is messy and a minor inconvenience for us. Sure was a surprise though the first time I got it on the face 10 years ago.
It is a fact of nature, or perhaps social conditioning, that the great majority of women don't come to orgasm in 30 seconds so require respect and commitment, or at the very least endurance, from our men. Some of us quite a good measure of all those. Although it all balances in our greater capacity for enjoyment and sexual pleasure, we are nonetheless largely dependent on the amount of effort a man chooses, whether through inspiration or obligation, to expend on us. Emerging satisfied from 20, 30, or 40 minutes of lovemaking how can we not feel gratitude toward him? Within this context how can we deny him a little love play that he enjoys whether it be a lttle messy or might or might not connote dominance and degradation? That is how I see it.
by Anonymous on August 5th, 2010
Thats how I see it as well, unfortunately, that half of the burden is not being carried by all too many men. I, myself, didnt even know that until I started this research project a year ago. Porn pushes the isea that women are to serve men sexually, but as any porn user can attest, there is no effort at all put into the womans pleasure. none! Porn also gets men hooked on the idea of "virtual girl." The girl who has no needs, no feelings and cannot suffer. The result is that women, en mass, are suffering throuh unwanted sex acts (such as sodomy, deep throat and ass to mouth) while not getting orgasms or any pleasure to speak of. The natural outcome to this is that their sex drives will shut down. This issue needs to be rectified, and in a hurry.
Yes, it is true that there are few women, here and there, who like these things, but the overall numbers are showing that these women are few and far between. hitting and violence during sex is another issue on the frontburner of the problem. Possible resolutions include a)making sure your actions are beneficial to her, and her actions are beneficial to you (this aint gonna happen and we all know it) b) men could start allowing these same activities to be performed on themself. This would give them a better understanding of the experinece and it would give the women more of a "mutual" feeling in sex. I dont really see any other option, but Im always open to suggestion. One of my collegues suggested that we teach sex as an impersonal activity, thus reducing the psychological damage inflicted on women through sexual usage and mistreatment. I dont consider this viable, but what are your thoughts?
by ladyshakespeare on August 5th, 2010
I dont know ladyshakespeare, ive seen a men giving it to their partner in pornographic films and you can fake alot of things but you cannot fake how good he was giving it to her, or their oftentimes total boredom. Ive seen that alot actually. Someone made the great point to me recently that these porn starlets seem to do everything they can not to orgasm for real, so as to perhaps save it for their husbands or boyfriends (who are idiots), as if saving that was a real special thing considering their line of work- which consists of having sex for money. A woman made that first point to me and it makes sense.
I think alot of these acts you speak of are degrading, especially that ass to mouth thing. Thats just wrong there! But if these women would speak up for themselves and say no, then that would put a stop to it. I completely agree with the mutual suffering ideal of sex, and ill throw my argument in that women should be made to do some of the same things that men do outside of the bedroom. Oh like opening doors, paying for dates, doing the equivelent of clothes shopping, etc. Not all men are forced to suffer through these things just like not all women are made to suffer either. From what I can see theres alot of uneveness on both sides. You can take rightful issue with the things women are subjected to, and ill take up the issues that men endure. Many of which I dont even want to get into right now.
Ill scream it from the rooftops, if a woman feels psychologically damaged with the actions done to her then she should get away from those actions and that person if he isnt willing to stop. Bite his dick off if he crams it down your throat whilst he was being repeatedly warned not to, because thats painful im sure unless you have little gag reflex. I think what you say is definitely viable, but you just cannot forget how some women "give in" to their s/o's sexual interests because they want to please him, just as the man who shops with his girl does. "ATM" and shopping at the mall for hours straight both leave you feeling void of self-respect and a bad taste in your mouth! I absolutely disagree that sex should be taught as an impersonal activity. Sex should never be impersonal and should never get to the point of unwanted. Sex is about love in my opinion and thats a very personal feeling.
by Knightriding on August 14th, 2010
I like when my bf does it to me. He's not doing it maliciously and I feel no self-esteem damage from it. I feel hot and dirty from it and I love being bad for him. We just love to be dirty together. And who says sex doesn't involve pleasure anymore? The other day he fucked the hell out of me and I was screaming. Nothing is impersonal about our sex. We don't do anal or ATM (um, yuck?) because neither of us wants that. And I actually like deep throating him. We focus equally on each other's pleasure and he often purposefully delays his orgasms in order to continue fucking me and I lay there satisfied afterwards. He cares a great deal about my pleasure and letting him cum on my face (which was actually done with my encouragement) would not negate how much he cares about my pleasure. I was the first to deep throat him. I needed no encouragement. Yes he and I both watch porn on our own time. And he always makes sure I'm satisfied even if he cums long before me, he fingers me and makes me scream. I also love being spanked lol. He and I just love naughty play and pleasuring each other. Porn has not made either of us care less about the other's pleasure. It just made us into two freaky mofos having lots of fun and we love each other! Cheers to naughtiness of the new millenium!
by Don't tread on me on April 25th, 2011