Theres nothing wrong with it in my eyes. Your not missing out on a huge amazing thing by any means. Love not sex is what you should seek.

Why would you feel bad about being a virgin? Here is a list of reasons why you should be happy. 1) You don't have any sexually transmitted disease. 2) If you are a woman, you never had an unplanned pregnancy and had to decide on abortion or birth 3) No one ever used you for their sexual pleasure and then threw you away heartbroken. 4) You have a very special gift to offer someone who you love very much, your chastity. 5) If you a relgious person, you have made God happy because you are not fornicating. If this doesn't put a smile on your face, I don't know what will. :-)

Be confident. Everybody loves virgins. I believe most people would agree that sex is no huge life changing event. Sex may be a lot of fun, but lots of things are a lot of fun. If you're a guy: Be confident. Chicks love virgins. Especially nice confident virgins - with money. If you think you'll be really good in bed don't tell your girlfriend you were a virgin until after you've had sex. Otherwise, she'll never believe you. If you're a chick: Be confident. Guys love virgins.

you shouln't feel bad about it. you just haven't found the right person to have sex with but thats ok because too many people lose thier virginity to the wrong person and get in troble to early. you should feel good that you have't gave into the world by just having sex with anyone just to lose your virginity.

What would your confidence level be if you gave it up to the wrong person? Really think about what your condemning yourself for-and why.

No reason to feel bad, it is a great accomplishment to still be a virgin at 23. People prize having a Virgin Wife. It's like having a wife MIB (Mint In Box), brand new, untouched, committed. What would really make you feel bad is giving up just because of peer pressure and regretting it. It's not something you can take back, it's not something where you can say "That didn't count". It means you have morals, a strong constitution and you are better than most of the girls out there who give it away to the first person they see that makes their heart skip... or happens to be around when they get wasted. You are not a virgin because nobody wants you, you are a virgin because you have not found anyone who deserves you.

its not really an answer but i'm 21 and girl, i didn't deliberatly avoid sex just not into one night stands, i'm still a virgin and feel obligated to lies to my friends about it, i shouldn't but i do. i think it comes in it's own time,, don't rush it, just wait and see, all my support. M

i am also a virgin my friend at the same age and the reason is that i dont wonna throw my virginity like this in one night, i wonna do LOVE with my girl not row SEX for one night. the bonds is more important than enything else !!!!

i am also a virgin my friend at the same age and the reason is that i dont wonna throw my virginity like this in one night, i wonna do LOVE with my girl not row SEX for one night. the bonds is more important than enything else !!!!

What's wrong with that? I think that's an ideal situation for someone your age.

First of all you should NOT feel bad about that. Virginity is something you only have once, and after that it's gone forever. You will ALWAYS remember your first time, the person's name, the date, every detail, so you should wait until it's perfect; and then you will always have a beautiful memory of losing it. Something else to consider is that in this day and age, there are so many people out there that are not trustworthy for one reason or another, so my only advice, is wait til it's right, be choosey and be safe. :)

i wonder where you are looking to get your confidence from? if you are looking to others to bring your self-esteem up, it's hard to ever be truely happy in life. if you are beating yourself up over this, please stop! there's no reason to feel bad about this and society is already harsh enough. now, i think it's hard (and maybe unrealistic) to wait for "the right person", but i would at least wait to find somebody that you feel comfortable with in all aspects. if you are ready to have sex and wouldn't feel bad about yourself afterwards, then i would go for it if you find such a person! ask youself beforehand, "am i going to feel weird talking to this person tomorrow morning if i have sex?" that's been a good way for me to make a judgement call on my partners. although, it may be a bit awkward either way since it's your first time. still, it shouldn't be TOO awkward. if you are corfortable with this person, then you should tell them you are a virgin. they might even like that 'cause it can be fun trying to figure out what turns another person on! plus, they'll be more understanding hopefully and may help give you some tips. if you don't feel like you are ready, then i say you should feel good for sticking with your guns. you'd likely feel worse about yourself if you had sex when you knew you weren't ready than remaining a virgin! also, i'd like to suggest that you find alternative ways to boost your ego. do things that you know will give you more self-respect, as it is the most important kind. good luck!

There is nothing wrong with you. Wrong would be to have sex just for the sake of having it. The right time and the right person will be there when the moment is right. Your confidence will be below zero if you have a bad experience.

i think you should be proud to still be a virgin to many people give in to pressure from friends and media and lose their virginity too soon. normally by a cool person who nevers shows any interest in them again! being a virgin should actually give you more confidence. you have an inner strenght that too many people lack and alot of people regret losing their virginity the way that they did and with who they did. so be proud of your cherry!

I would pay money to be a virgin again!! Don't see it as a bad thing. It is something special you have to offer. Dont throw it away.

OK.... So your a virgin.... Be thankful your not preggy, or screwed over with STDs, AIDS & so on....

I'm almost 23, and still a virgin. I'm waiting for the right person. I am confident and I have lots of fun in my life. Maybe you should find a hobby or meet new fun people to take the virginity thing off your mind. There are more important things in life.

If your confidence is shot, then you have other issues. I was a virgin until about then myself and it never affected my self-esteem. There are more important things in life than getting laid. All it takes to lose your virginity is a little money spent in the right place. Besides, women dig self-confidence... at least according to my wife. Stop worrying about getting some action and your self-esteem will rebound enough to increase your chances ;)

Stop associating Sex with Confidence. Watch" 42 year old virgin"...you could be 42.

you must feel proud my dear .why u think like this. the person who will marry with must too proud of having o gigl of23 years old and still virgin

So, my wife was 24. She told me the reaaons why she didn't what to have sex before marriage: 1. "Against my beliefs" 2. "Did not want to increase risk of an STD." 3. "Sex is a form of deep affection that is to be shared w/ someone you are bonded with." 4. "Sex isn't everything, I can wait until I'm 50." 5.) "It's over-rated." None the less, I admired her reasons and logic of sex and marriage. Please, dude/dudette....KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY!! And I'll give you a dollar.:)

don't look at it as a problem- I didn't sleep with someone until I was 21 and this didn't stop me from flirting, teasing and chatting up guys beforehand. Just because the right opportunity hasn't come along doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you. Just be confident in yourself! Don't just sleep with someone out of curiosity and end up stuck in a bad relationship because they developed feelings for you and cried! (yes- I'm a girl:) Look at it this way- as long as you put effort into enjoying yourself you're not missing out on anything- sex is just another recreational type of fun like soccer.

Being a virgin is a good thing! You don't have to deal with pregnancy scares, STDs, sexual trauma, being called nasty things, birth control...Any of it! It's not a problem, it really isn't.

You should be proud of yourself! Mr. Right may come someday and will appreciate when he finds out the kind of decent person you have been.

I'm married.You believe me,sexual intercourse is not that much that people say.

I'm married.You believe me,sexual intercourse is not that much fun that people say.

Whoa there! Okay. Find your man, take him to a motel and just try it.

There is nothing wrong with being a 23 year-old virgin, and this should not make you feel bad. If you're a woman, you're just discerning. If you're a guy, you're still just discerning. You have the rest of your life to have sex. I was a 20 year-old virgin and, while now I definitely enjoy sex, I actually wish I had waited longer.

I disagree with everyone, not having sex and being 23 isn’t dreadful, but it’s a sad thing, sex is great and a good way to express yourself. If you keep telling yourself you’re going to remain a virgin until marriage then you will end up much more depressed when in 5 years you look back and see a sexless life. These are your best years, don’t imprison yourself! Sex is only overrates for those who are not good at it and who fear it because they were told to. Try sex, you will enjoy it, and if you really get into it you will be less stressed out and comfortable with yourself. I’m not saying go be a whore, but don’t be sexless. Don’t become one of the growing amount of Americans to hit the age of 30, and not have had sex.

Lift weights and join the physical world, when you look great, you feel great and your confidence levels go through the roof. Life changing- trust , me working out is a cure all to end all.

I'd be proud of myself if I were you! I wished I would have waited!

Watch "the 40 year old virgin" before it's too late.

you are not an older virgin first of all.. a friend of mine didnt loose her's untill she was 24 i think. and she was very happy about that, because she could save it for someone really special. i wish sometimes that i waited abit, but im still with the boy i lost mine too.. and i like him so much. [hehe i make it seem like we've been together for ages... only like 10 months...which is long for me hehe] but if you are really desperate... you could hook up with some stupid guy at a bar.. but i wouldnt suggest it... kinda stupid to be honest. you can get std, pregnant, etc. and that is not a good thing.. not to me anyhow....

You should be proud of yourself. You are one of the genuine trustworthy person in this immoral world. Not only your parents and when i read i was happy. But God would be pleased with you. The person who is going to marry you would be very proud of you - THE GREATEST GIFT A WOMAN CAN GIVE HER HUSBAND IS A PURE BOBY NOT TOUCHED OR LUSTED BY ANYONE - AND YOU ARE THE GEM OUT THERE! So be happy ! You are Great! God Bless You and Give you all the good things in life!

Well to make you feel better I am like you and I am 24 male but i know it is driving you insane but just hold out"keep your course stright"

it is ok to be a virgin at any age. you should never feel bad. you will do it when you are ready, and please, wait til you are.....its so much better.:)

I understand how you feel. It shouldn't be that way, but still - in today's society, "everyone" is supposed to have sex, and it seems like "everyone" is doing it. The thing is, it's not true. I lost my virginity at 26, and prior to that, I thought I'd never find the right guy, and I seriously considered losing it to some random guy just to get it "over with". It was a pretty big deal for me, I felt inadequate, and I thought everyone would think I was some kind of pathetic loser. I tried "getting it over with" a couple of times, too, but luckily both were really decent guys who didn't go through with it. Then, all of a sudden, I found the right guy. I invited myself to sleep over a this place on the third date - still I had this feeling that I had to "get it over with", because I was really stressed that he didn't know I was still a virgin, and I had to let him know, and it's not exactly the kind of thing you spring on someone over dinner. No one expects anyone to be a virgin at 26, right? So when I finally 'fessed up, I was astonished to learn that he was actually a virgin, too. At 28. Obviously neither of us had any idea what we were doing in the beginning, and it took us a while to "get it right", but we learned everything together, and there was so much love and respect and humour involved, there never was any pressure on any one of us. We are still together, hopefully forever, and thinking back at it now, we have so many good memories of something that was really important to both of us. I was insecure at the time, but now, I'm really glad I waited, because he was the right one. I know he feels the same way, too. So yeah, it's not easy. But you have nothing to be ashamed of, and it's much more common than you think. Having sex is very personal, you don't have to go about telling everyone you're a virgin unless you feel like doing it. One day, you'll find the right person, the right place and the right time, and then you'll know it was right to wait.

When you find the one you love it will be wonderful. Much better then when you were young and inexperienced with your body. Get to know your body so when it does happen you will ravage the person and have them always coming back for more......(i secretly hope you marry first)

I am female, 23 pushing 24 and a virgin as well. I have friends that are virgins whose ages range from 18 through 26. I don't choose to tell people about my choices regarding sexuality because it is a tough thing to explain. It's really tough to have a relationship, but I do believe that God will send the man in my life that is worth all I have to offer. I believe virginity is sacred and worth keeping, but I also know first hand the major sacrifice it takes to remain in that state. I am a virgin because the bible forbids fornication, not because I just can't get laid. When you think of sexuality as a choice and not a circumstance, then negativity can't be attached to the name. There are tons of benifits which have already been named, but the best is knowing that you are pleasing God. It takes a lot of strength to be different but think of the example you are setting for other people. It's not very common nowadays, so I appreciate you sharing. Your story has helped me.

It dosent matter weather you are a Virgin or if you have had sex 1,000 times just know there is someone out there for you and that is what you need to look for

I'm 24 and still a virgin. I don't really have an answer to the question becuase i'm pretty much on the same boat. Somethings are just meant to be, you know, in life, relationships, and love. By waiting, you hold the cards, there is a slight sense of power that comes with being a virgin because you and only you can make the decision as to when it's right to sleep with someone. But don't let the fact that you are a virgin be a bad thing and ruin your confidence.

Im a guy and im 20 and a virgin like i wish i wasnt too but at sometimes im glad i am and my girlfriend respects that but she isnt a virgin but i dont care she only had sex once but im already ready to make love to her though we have been together for 5 mouths but she isnt ready anyone can help me lol

Believe me losing your viginity will NOT boost your confidence.Please be proud of the fact that you're a virgin.Surround youeself with people who care about you and will help you to see the value that you have.

Go to Las Vegas! Get some money together and hit a brothel. A little experience never hurt.

dont feel bad. I am also 23 and still a virgin. i sometimes lie to my friends about having sex just to be cool because i didnt want them to think that i was the only one out there still one. But i have came close to doing it a few times but i was scared because my mom told me the first time hurts like hell lol.

can i have your msn or yahoo id?

You should be proud that you are still a virgin not embarassed at least you have held off longer than other people and that is an accomplishment.I am 22 years old and I wish that I was still a virgin and I so wish that I would have waited for that right guy. I wanted to wait until I was married to lose my virginity, but a friend of my mother's told me that eventually you would have to give it up in order to keep a guy. Another thing she said was that if they are not getting it from you then they will end up getting it from someone else. Through all my prior dating experiences, no guy stuck around because they couldn't get it, so I decided to stoop to that level. What I didn't realize is that there are good men out there willing to wait for you, it just might take some time.

I'm a guy of 27 and still a virgin. I get depressed sometimes and feel this pressure from society to screw some woman or visit a prostitute. But most girls are not worth giving your body to. They want you to feel uncomfortable and self concious so they make fun of guys they think are inexperienced. I'm kinda romantic and feel that I have a lotta love to give to the right girl not some tart who gets laid with 6 guys a week. There has got to be chemistry if sex is to be good and feel right. I went through university without having sex and felt aweful about this. Both my twin brother and me are still virgins, although my bro says he's not, I suspect he is.

I'm in the same boat hun. 23 and still a virgin. Not for lack of confidence, looks, or opporunity- It is because of a descision I stuck to. Believing in yourself enough to know that it's ok to wait for the moment when you are emotionally ready and with someone you respect who respects you- worth holding out for. It's one of those things that are over embelished by the media and hype. In the end, it's your body- you should feel comfortable in it- use it as you feel fit and in a way that will make you smile with warm memories someday :) Plus side as others have mentioned- think about the wonders of a new self discovery without the hurtles of regret to sore the development of your sense of sexuality. Take it easy- it will come. You're gonna wanna be in the moment for the right reasons.

Just to lend my support, I am a 21 year old who is in the exact same boat. Just never had sex. Never happened, regardless of what I wanted. I just never cared, and still don't. Sex isn't half as important as love and many other things in life. As far as gaining confidence, just go out and talk to as many people as you can. Anyone who catches your fancy, just try to strike up a conversation. If they shoot you down, too bad, you didn't wanna be with them anyway if they don't like you, right? Eventually you will be more confidant and familiar with flirting and striking up conversation.

Look Women give that same crap answer to every one. The truth is some people only have one thing to offer to the opposite sex. . .Money. Get as much of it as you can get some booze and go to vegas. Don't listen to the female support group, they find male suffering humerous. get you some hot high priced sluts and spend a weekend in vegas.. dont gamble youll loose your slut money. Bitches are made of plastic.

Speaking from someone in a similar situation, I find that there's no reason for you to either be underconfident (in your case) or be proud of it (which would be the opposite case). It quite frankly doesn't matter either way. You have or you haven't had sex....woo hoo. Is it unsual (in terms of what people believe)? Yeah, it is. But, seriously, whatever... That is to say....whatever you do decide to do, DON'T just jump in the sack to please other people. Do it for yourself (excusing the vulgar terminology) or wait until you want it...You decide.... P.S. Feeling underconfident about it anyway will inevitably ruin your satisfaction and performance. Wait until you feel confident.

bby its not a problem you just seem to have not found the right person and im sure there is nothing wrong with you i know plenty of ppl who are still virgins, and they are perfectly happy. yre confidence shouldnt b low and you never know whos round the corner try online sites and usingfacebook always helps i meet my long term bf on here and were happy so youy never know try it.

bby its not a problem you just seem to have not found the right person and im sure there is nothing wrong with you i know plenty of ppl who are still virgins, and they are perfectly happy. yre confidence shouldnt b low and you never know whos round the corner try online sites and usingfacebook always helps i meet my long term bf on here and were happy so youy never know try it.

Yes please call me right away to help you get away from that virginity. catrin7@gmail.com

dont feel bad bout being a virgin i mean to be honest i would love to be in ur postion rite now. there is nothing wrong with waiting. and your confidence shouldnt be a 0,u should proud.

Don't worry about being 23 and still a virgin, I'm 34 and still a virgin. I was offered sex on a plate a few weeks back. I was genuinely surprised by how forward this person was. This person was very attractive and yes, they turned me on. They however made it very clear it would be a one-time only thing and that's just not for me. I'll wait. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. Will I look back with regret? No because I did what felt right for me. Don't be bullied into it and don't let it knock your confidence as I bet there are more of us out there than let on.

Thats good you still virgin, i think the people give his virgin to someone don't have responsibilty and just idiot people, because they just hurt him self, and the another who take the virgin just care about him self.

There's nothing wrong with that. The idea that other people get CRITICIZED for still being a virgin comes from their own worldly standards. I plan to give my chastity only to the person whom I'm sure of that I'll be spending my whole life with, after marriage of course. I'm a Christian by the way.

I'm almost 20 (female) and have been feeling almost the same way. It has gotten so bad that I stopped hanging out with friends because of the intense pressure to lose it, i get made fun of for being the only virgin. I REFUSE to have sex just for the hell of it. I am not waiting for "the one" but I am waiting until I am sure that I won't regret it afterwards. When I have sex I want to be confident that what I am doing feels right and that I won't be ashamed after. I also want to know that I can handle the responsibility, both physically and emotionally. What made me google this topic was that I just found out that my 14 year old sister has been having sex. This knowledge made me feel even more....I guess I felt inferior. I was looking for reassurance that I am not the only virgin left. I really liked a response from a previous post "You are not a virgin because nobody wants you, you are a virgin because you have not found anyone who deserves you." After reading these postings I feel much better about my choice and I want all the virigns to know your are NOT alone and that its okay to still be a virgin. Virgintiy is a stage in life, its our right to be comfortable being at this stage,, not matter how long it takes to be really ready to move on. We are different yes, but that difference also makes us pretty damn special.

girl you should not be bad. u should be walking with ur heads up high. i am one and i am 26 and i am so proud to be one. i encourage girs to keep their virginity until they are married .

i got sthg for you : i dont know if it will make u feel happy but u wouldn't feel alone then ;) in 3 months i will be 24 and i am still virgin as well ... :) i moved to london 3 months ago and girls have been trying since i came ... but they dont stand a chance... ama wait till i find a real one i wanna spend the rest of my life with ... keep it up girl ;)

Shiit i'll fuck ya For free too haha!

I am 23 too still avirgin though ihave experienced an orgasm before ,but no man has ever been inside of me physically so my question is, does that make me lesser of avirgin or does it take away something that im supposed to offer to my first time lover? My second question is iam still single very beautiful but i cant find adescent man to date ,am holding on to my virginity because it will be atrade ill make with him to be committed to me ,am i wasting my time?

hey I am a 21 year old virgin and sometimes I feel the same way. My real concern being why haven't I met someone yet. All of these answers have helped me as well and know there are others like you and you being a 23 year old virgin has boosted my confidence because I know I am not alone and I thank you for that. I look up to you.

If this helps you i'm 47 going on 48 and a virgin also. there are pro and cons to it,but I still believe that when the right person comes along it will be worth the wait. Also the world record is 113 and still counting..Don't sell yourself short,this is to important to just throw away on a fly.. Fox700

I am reading those replies, and all I can say is that I am honestly disgusted by the hypocrisy of the people in this world. All these people telling you to be "proud of yourself" and all kind of unrealistic things. Do NOT listen to what these people tell you. Most of them have had sex when they were 15, the women in their 30s that replied to you have had sex with more than 30 men, and yet they still you that it's perfectly OK to be a virgin. HYPOCRISY. That's all I can say. If you are a man, visit a prostitute. It will help you very much. If you are a woman, try wearing something sexy and go to a club and try to hook up with someone. My 2 cents.

The value of virginity : How many guys like their wife to COMPARE him with all her ex-sex-mates and then does a full evaluation of him behind his back ? To those who claims virginity is unimportant (very likely those who have lost it, and are still looking for a husband), would you still prefer using nth-hand shoes or underwears, arguing they are more comfortable because it has been used nth times, when you can afford to buy new ones ? I am not a religionist but my common senses tells me that the intelligence which designs life (if you are an evolutionist, that's fine, just use "evolve"), and living beings (from alligators to zebras) aren't inefficient or stupid when "it" put the "useless" hymen onto ladies. Isn't it an honor to your husband when you tell him, "You are the ONLY person I ever has sex with. There can be NO comparisons between you and any other guys in the world." Any worthwhile man would treasure a wife like that. For those who argue that "Intelligence, good character, compassion, life experiences, education, .....etc." are MORE important than virginity, a virgin can acquire all that and when she offers her virginity to the man of her choice, her husband is going to be one proud man. Don't fall prey to those who wants your virginity as a trophy. These guys are dehumanizing you into some commodity. Run when anyone like approaches you.

I am 21 and still a virgin as well. i think that most of you had amazing answers and i can safely say that im happy of who i am. and like Galeanda said, i have respect for my body and i think that i have a special gift. I have also lied about sex because of a social barrier between my friends. but i have talked to a couple people about it and actually they were ok about it. the more i admit it, the more people think that im a good person. i know i am a good person, but i think that i am just waiting for some to share it with and not have them judge me because of it. Stay strong everyone and know you are great.

If you feel bad about it you need to change your situation. Try to read about what it take to seduce a woman and also to flirt with as many women as you can. Don't give up! That is the best advice a man can give another man, never give up and keep flirting!

I am 23 and Male I used to feel ashame of my virignity because alot time people used to critize me and had girls refuse to date me because of that. But I have accepted and whoever is my first will get a great gift and I think its great to save yourself for either when you are marry or someone special. Dont feel bad about it enjoy it and for those who wont fool with you because of it consider a blessing for al the heart aces you will be avoiding.

Please Don't feel bad. I am a Man. and also a 34 year old virgin. I am from what I'm imaginig a Young lady wrote this for the sake of my response. Please Don't feel bad. I am a Man. and also a 34 year old virgin. I am from what alot of people say a very good looking man(actually got a "Wow" on the street the other day "Thank you very much") 6'1" 190 lbs. long black curly hair Dark eyes, Fit . I can Fix anything from cars to computers to Homes. I play just about every instrument(some of them very well) I actually got to this age as a virgin by accident. I was waiting for my fair princess(who was a bit younger than me) to return from school. where she "had no use for a man till she was done with as it would only be a distraction. The day after I was expecting her home I got an Email. "I'm flattered your still interested but I graduated sat.got married on sunday. Please dont contact me again .. As sad as that story may sound. and was for the first week or 2. I realize I'm back on the market. Looking for someopne with the same passion and conviction in Love. Imagine Starinng into eachothers eyes. Knowing God and our wonderful will has put us together. and no fear of lack or compromise is in our midst.weve waited for eachother. No one else to compare I know my Dream is out there. And here I am looking for her.. Is there a Virgin Dating site? Dont loose faith, Have a definate vision of what you want. Act when compelled,.. But never out of fear And please find someone to remind me this next time if ever I am scared or weak,.. Thank You

First of all you are a person and believe that. Not an instrument to be used before certain time. Virginity is a good thing than bad. There are several cultures in this world believe this as a best sign. I have noticed in our country, USA sex is overrated and it is given lots of unwanted importance. As result lots of misconceptions about virginity. Love and sex should be one and it should be with the right person. Sex should not be with someone to just loose virginity. What if you can find the right person for your life and have the first sex with him and remain so?

hey man dont worry..even i lost my virginity wen i was 23 though i had physical relations for the past 5 yrs...you still have lot of time to go...

I don't think that your confidence should be down to zero. The reason why I say this is because sex is something that is very addictive. Once you start having sex its something that you can't stop doing. Once you have sex for the first time it is also something that will be the main thing that you think about. So my suggestion to you be to concentrate on other hobbies because I promise you that once you start it will be something you can't stop doing. Trust me you are not missing out on much.

I am 22 and still a virgin and def not ashamed, im def not waiting for marriage just haven't had a boyfriend long enough. it does kinda suck not having a guy, but im not gonna settle just to lose it, def not worth it in the long run.

This will make you feel better: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BvWWxk_uhpE

It's obvious you wish your situation was different and that you're not satisfied. Buck up guy. Look in the mirror and do a ball check. Are they still there? Good. You can't sit around moping thinking that Ms.Right is gonna come along one day. Never think in the future. If you want it bad enough you're gonna have to make it happen. First you have to chuck that woe is me attitude. Your true self (not your ego or what you think everyone thinks about you)is limitless and powerful. You need to reflect that on the outside as well. If you love yourself, women pick up on that. It's magnetic. I'm not talking about macho bullshit either. People gravitate to happy confident people. When you start to get that vibe out there you'll be amazed at what happens. Always stay positive. And know, not think, hope or pray, know that you can have whatever you want. The world is your oyster guy. No one lives your life but you.

I am also 23 - guy. I think she's a female. I feel pressured to have it, but have also not yet. Although I also lie to my friends and say I have before... I think though I would be more comfortable doing it with a virgin,since I anm one too...

Hold on to what you got and never be ashamed. I wish I knew then what I know now and that is this: "NOTHING is more expensive then regret!" I wish I could take so much back; even though I am a guy I would have waited for one person. I was not thinking that way when I did it but later I hated myself so much. I admire that your are waiting and I honestly do hope your wait is rewarded with a memory of a lifetime and if you choose to, stay with him forever. Good luck and stay pure.

Dude, one reason people make fun of virgins now days is because the stereo typical view virgins get through the media. Hence the movie "The Forty Year Old Virgin." The movie stereo types virign men as being really doofy, dorky,gullable,and non exsistent nobodies. Don't fit that stereotype. Be cool and relaxed about it and know that getting with a chick is not like winning a mega millions jackpot. Maybe one reason one guy thinks you're lame is because losing his viginity was an extremely tough task for him. Don't let him fool you into thinking he's a big time player because he probably gave himself away to either an extremely overweight pig or an extremely think ugly crack whore.

also don't go out to lose it just to be cool. You'll realize in the end that you didn't care about the person you gave it to, neither did they care about you. You may realize you're a whore in the end for doing so.