I asked my ex why she broke it off with me and she wont give me an answer all she says is idk... I said how can you not know you dont date someone for six months and just one day decide hey i wanna break up! There must be a reason, why wont she tell me?

Many people are afraid to answer or don't feel the responsility to even reply. In my female opinion, girls KNOW why they leave a guy, maybe she is worried about hurting your feelings. I would say if possible let her go, someday you will find out why, and you deserve better than her.

you may not want to know. I used to always tell guys why i didn't want to date them and I regret it. Sometimes it's just because, "when i look at you you make me sick and i can't believe i even touched you, you're an idiot" so.....it may not be anything other than she's over you.

Hey man, I just went through the exact same thing you did and am still trying to come to terms with what happened. You just have to realize that the only reason why a girl would break up with you is because they're just not interested anymore. It won't be over anything more specific than that. The hardest part about all this was trying to convince myself that she wasn't that into it and that there was nothing I could have said or done to change that.

She's a teenager. There is not true teenage "love", just passing feelings of intensity that young minds and hearts don't handle too well. Sometimes teenage girls just get bored. She may not even know the reason herself. Just move on, and save the serious relationship stuff until you are old enough to understand the complex feelings and what they mean.

She probably broke it off because it was never meant to be. Most people end up with the "wrong" person 5-10 times or more before they finally find the right person. She will never get around to finding the right person if she hangs on to the wrong person, which in this case, was you! It may not be anything wrong with you, it's just that the "chemistry" is not there. She probably can't tell you why because there is no real reason, or if there is, she doesn't have the guts to come right out and tell you - maybe she would rather avoid this discussion if possible. Just accept the fact that it didn't work out and wait for your next big romance, which will also probably not work out, along with the next eight after that! But it still might be a good idea to check yourself and see if you think there might be anything wrong with you that chased her away. Did you come on too strong or act possesive? Did you want to be with her ALL the time? Did you give her space? Did you treat her with kindness and respect, or was she an object of your jokes? How did you act about her when you were with your friends? Are you well groomed (neat hair, clean, no odors)? Do you act intelligent and confident or are you always goofing off? If you have known any other girls for a long time, ask one of them why this girl might have been turned off by you. Tell your friend "Tell me the truth - I can take it, and I really want to know." Maybe there is nothing wrong with you, maybe she just wasn't the right girl for you!

Mr. Learned Too Late, (40 years old)

She broke it off with you because - whatever attracted you to her - you stopped doing for whatever reason, she observed it, make silent conclusions, then plotted to get rid of you, either nicely or by avoiding you until you go away on your own.

Solution: Re-engineer EXACTLY who or what you were the moment that you met. If she's NOT a bitch, she'll reconsider. If she IS a bitch, she'll reconsider, then date your brother if she can. Any questions?? Didn't think so.

Older Man's Solution: - This is like the upper division shit you don't get from inexperienced and defeated losers with chicks who don't get the big picture until later or maybe never: Be the sweetest guy you can be to try and get her back, don't kiss her ass, be very cool, then GO OUT and NAIL everything you can get your hands on to gather a new herd of bitches that are into you and make your world complete, cool, and RIGHT!

If or when she never comes back, -by the time you or her make that decision to let it go or not, either way, YOUR s&%$it is covered because YOU TOOK CARE OF "YOURS!" Why? Because SHE is taking care of HERS! That's why your inexperienced young ass got dumped in the first place! Chicks are TRAINED from about 8 years old to HANDLE their business.

Guys really don't master the techniques until we are almost in our 20's and 30's. So, by the time you figure out how the real world works, you've been screwed by almost EVERY CHICK because she has YEARS of experience on you and will psychologically KICK YOUR ASS ALL OVER THE PLACE because she is MORE EXPERIENCED in the art of love than YOU! She's not playing with you, Junior! She knows exactly who she is dealing with. Girls are TRAINED to read you, see what you have to offer, understand your weaknesses, and eventually through trial and error - know your tolerances and EXACTLY how to blow through your game, leaving crying, upset, and begging for mercy!

Never forget this! I'm giving you pearls, junior. Don't you have a dad to TELL you all of this???

BOTTOM LINE: ALWAYS COVER YOUR ASS WITH CHICKS! THEY DON'T TAKE PRISONERS! FORGET THIS AND YOUR ASS AND HEART WILL BELONG TO THEM, TO KICK AND BREAK AS THEY SEE FIT!

GOOD LUCK!

Mr. Learned Too Late, (40 years old)

She broke it off with you because - whatever attracted her to you - YOU stopped doing IT for whatever reason, she observed it, made silent conclusions, then plotted to get rid of you, either nicely or by avoiding you until you went away on your own. Sometimes chicks even make it look like it was YOUR idea to walk away.

Solution: Re-engineer EXACTLY who or what you were the moment that you met. If she's NOT a bitch, she'll reconsider. If she IS a bitch, she'll reconsider, THEN date your brother or that guy you saw her looking at a couple of months ago if she can. Any questions?? Didn't think so.

Older Man's Solution: - This is like the upper division shit you don't get from inexperienced and defeated losers with chicks who don't get the big picture until later or maybe never. Here is the A-Game that older men apply, since they got screwed several times before they reflected and figured out what they will and will not put up with. We learn that chicks hate ANYTHING about a man that relects ANYTHING that shows he ISN'T COMPLETELY ANAL about himself. Chicks want muscular body tone, a body that looks and smells good, a person that never is selfish, angry, arrogant, irritated, or unhappy about anything that happens to him. His wallet must be full always, his car must be new if at all possible, and he must want to spend lots of money and time showing just how much he cares about his chick. You must always appear humble, yet open minded, confident, kind, and flexible to ideas, and yet be firm and resolute in your thought process when making good rational decisions that SHE has decided to make for you and you will be obligated to go along with, all the time. - The problem is, that if you were all these things, you would be perfect, so "DO plan on being constantly evaluated, judged, and found to be lacking in any or all of these areas to some degree. This is why chicks nag you all the time."


Now, here are the moves on trying to get her back if you still want her, because you probably do, thus the discussion forum:


Be the sweetest guy you can be to try and get her back, don't kiss her ass, be very cool, then GO OUT and NAIL everything you can get your hands on to gather a new herd of bitches that are into you and make your world complete, cool, and RIGHT!

If or when she never comes back, -by the time you or her make that decision to let it go or not, either way, YOUR s&%$it is covered because YOU TOOK CARE OF "YOURS!" Why? Because SHE is taking care of HERS! That's why your inexperienced young ass got dumped in the first place! Chicks are TRAINED from about 8 years old to HANDLE their business.

Guys really don't master the techniques until we are almost in our 20's and 30's. So, by the time you figure out how the real world works, you've been screwed by almost EVERY CHICK because she has YEARS of experience on you and will psychologically KICK YOUR ASS ALL OVER THE PLACE because she is MORE EXPERIENCED in the art of love than YOU! She's not playing with you, Junior! She knows exactly who she is dealing with. Girls are TRAINED to read you, see what you have to offer, understand your weaknesses, and eventually through trial and error - know your tolerances and determine EXACTLY how to blow through your A-Game, leaving you crying, upset, and begging her for mercy and to come back to you!

NEVER FORGET: IT'S BUSINESS, JUST THE "BUSINESS" OF RELATIONSHIPS, "TREAT IT AS SUCH OR FACE DEFEAT UNTIL YOU GROW UP AND IT FINALLY CLICKS IN YOUR MIND, JUNIOR !"

Never forget this! I'm giving you pearls, junior. Don't you have a dad to TELL you all of this???

BOTTOM LINE: ALWAYS COVER YOUR ASS WITH CHICKS! THEY DON'T TAKE PRISONERS! FORGET THIS AND YOUR ASS AND HEART WILL BELONG TO THEM, TO KICK AND BREAK AS THEY SEE FIT!

GOOD LUCK!

She knows you ain't gonna like the answer yo...

Doesn't matter what excuse she gives, the bottom line is she is breaking it off because she wants to move on and do something different.

People give all kinds of excuses that SOUND good, that seem logical, that you can swallow, that don't hurt your feelings, blah blah blah.

But no matter what they say, at the end of the day when you reduce those reasons down to the bottom line, there is just one answer: I don't want to do this anymore.

So accept it dude and let it go.

They rarely say why. The important thing to understand here is that it does not even matter what her reason was. It is time to get over it and continue your life without her, to leave her completely out of it and start getting yourself for a new relationship.

Because she's afraid of being in touch with her feelings. WHich means she'd have to confront them. Which means she'd have to feel guilty and she doesn't wanna feel like crap. My sister is the same way. Anything that forces herself to take a good hard look at herself, she runs away.

Maybe your too curious? dont pressure her, just reassure her youll be okay with her answer and leave it at that, dont pressure tha answer out of her it never works

My ex asked me y I broke up with him, but I did so only b/c I hated the way that he laughed! I know that this sounds terrible, but his laugh was soooooooooo annoying I couldn't stand it! When he asked me y I broke it off I always say; "idk, it just didn't feel right" b/c I don't wanna hurt his feelings.

She doesn't have to tell you. You don't own her. You also sound pretty controlling. Would you rather her lie to you about why she broke up with you or would you rather her say nothing? Think about it, please.

she probably thinks that its a stupid reason why she did and shes to scared to tell you because she doesn't want to get in a fight with you.

it prob means she has a reason but she's not ready to tell you just be patiant and give her some space.A freind of mine ended a 18 month relationship just because she called him to much,some times people dont have good reasons that fact that she has'nt given you a reason could mean it's a trivial reason and that in time you could end up getting back together .

G'day that one kid,

Thank you for your question.

There is probably a reason. Either she has a new guy that she doesn't want to make public knowledge yet or she is so confused that she doesn't know what's going on. I would suggest that you move on and find someone new.

Regards