Would you consider having an affair with a friend? What is the good and bad thing about it, no strings attached?

Here's the thing...it might start off as just a booty call or "friends with benefits" but you cannot guarantee that it will stay that way and unless both are on the same exact page someone is going to get hurt and boom! There goes the friendship. Conversely, I think starting off as friends and having that friendship develop into something more over time is the best way to experience a great relationship. Once you attach the string of "no strings attached" you're asking for trouble in my opinion. Happy Sunday Catherine! :)

Look before you leap ... especially before you leap into bed.
Sexual tension will be relieved, and mental tension will replace it. Especially if you've never cheated before.

There are always strings no matter what is said at the beginning. Having an affair with anyone is stupid. If either of you is married there can and will be problems. If neither of you is married one will want more than just sex and will end up hurt.

there are always strings attached!

Somebody is gonna get hurt (his wife, your husband)
You have to live with what you have done (can you?)
all the drama when his wife finds out


Catherine, you are well above this. I know you are frutsrated and your hubby isnt exactly concerned with your needs, but this isnt the way.

Your question implies that one or both people are married ("affair").

The answer to that would be "no".

There is no justification I can think of that would induce me to sacrifice my honor this way.

If neither of us were married, however, that would be a different story. Then there are no bonds to worry about violating.

It never works out. Someone's bound to get hurt....and probably more than one person.

I have had two experiences in this area. Most recently, during this past New Year's Eve party, a married friend sat on my lap, started rubbing my cock through my jeans, and whispered in my ear that she wanted me to fuck her. She was quite drunk, she has done this to me before, and I called her bluff. I told her to meet me in the bathromm, and I'd fuck her there. Of course, I didn't, but when she came out of the bathroom, I think she had come to her senses, and just smiled at me.
I used to fuck my first wife's best friend, she knew about it, loved to hear about it, wanted to smell her on me, and it turned her on. Of course, quite predictably, that ended poorly. (Not the fucking, the marriage)

yes i would consider it but that is because of my mind set.. I don't get attached. But the risky thing about it is most people (sadly females) get attached once sex gets involved..and it also depends on how on much you see this friend while you are with your signifigant other because the awkwardness is just waiting to happen. Some people can do it some people can't..I did it for a long time to be honest..I also have no shame :)

Of course "having an affair with a friend" ( ESPECIALLY if you've been together before ! ) always seems to have a lot of appeal to most people - including myself. Keeping it with "no strings attached" sounds good - but it's usually difficult to KEEP either one from becoming "attached" ! In my experience somehow it always seems to become KNOWN by your significant other - sooner or later - it just doesn't seem to be WORTH it to me ! I tend to favor an "open" relationship that allows at least for some CONVERSATION if either one develops an interest in an encounter with someone else ( hence it's not really an "affair" ! ) and if an agreement ( or compromise ) can be reached it eliminates the chance of getting "caught" ! Obvioucly if you're NOT able to reach an agreement ( or compromise ) you simply abanndon the idea. That's in a "perfect world" - unfortunately the world isn't always very "perfect" ...

Sure why not the sheer pleasure and enjoyment makes it worthwile

An affair is always a bad idea, although it can seem like a great idea in the beginning. For a woman there is no such thing as a NSA relationship. And the reason is this: a woman's body releases chemicals that cause her to be attached to the person she's sleeping with. There are studies that have been done on this. I know this personally because I had that kind of relationship. A woman will always become attached to the guy. You think you can handle it but in all reality you can't. Better to just resist the temptation.

You've got your question in Cheating and Adulterous Spouse, which implies that you and/or the friend are married. That means that your question is based on a false premise to begin with. If you are married, you have something much stronger than strings attached, you have sworn word ie: vows, attached. So to start off with, when you get caught (and you will) you will be breaking up one or more marriages.

YES,as long as both parties can except that it is casual sex,it is a great experience;however,it is rare that two humans can continue to have sex, without one of them growing an emotional attachment.

Someone always gets hurt in an affair.

I considered it with a really nice cute guy at work. We knew each other for years, running into each other at sales meetings. We would always flirt, well, I probably flirted more than he did. Anyway, we both ended up working in our corporate HQ in the same department. Our interaction became daily, and we bacame very good friends. We never slept together, but there were several instances where my flirting got a little crazy. When a girlfriend asked if I was sleeping with him, I realized it had crossed a boundary. I have never cheated on my husband, but this was the one person that was an almost.....

If this happens, beleive me, strings will be attached. As some people have already said, usually women.
You will be dealing with this for a while and will have tremendous difficulty with getting the relationship back to where it was before it all happened. Feelings will develop towards each other.
I speak from my own experience...You can listen to what we say but you are the only one who knows what to do. Good luck!