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by tinkerbell_90 on February 2nd, 2010

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How can I deal with this?

I have a boyfriend who is 28 and im 19. For starters we have a great relationship but i sometime calculate like when hes 30 im going to be im going to be 21. I recently started back talking to my ex who is 19 but just on a friend basis and like two nights ago he started spilling his guts like he has never done before. He always been closed from me. I still have feelings for my ex. Me and my boyfriend are doing good together but sometimes we get into arguments because I want to go out to a party with my friends and have a good time and he doesnt want to go with me. My ex is a good guy whom I've known since elementary school so he and i have history. Worst things about each guy: My boyfriend expects me to just stop being 19 and get on his level not forgetting that he chose to be with me. He hasa bff, who is a woman, who he talks with all the time. If I happen to say something about he wrong he tried to correct me. He now lives 3 hours away.(long distance) My ex cant get over the past times that happened to us and sometimes talk to me like I'm some chick he just met at a bar. Good things about the guys: My boyfriend is a fun all around man who believes in taking care of his woman. He is trying to move to where I am. My ex is a great guy who also believe in taking care of his woman and can make me laugh at the simplest things. He lives near me. I know in this scenerio you would say follow your heart but my heart isnt telling me anything.

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  • by Hemmersfield on February 12th, 2010

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    which ever guy lets you be you. If you go for your ex then dont just jump in, give it time, be single for a little while, otherwise your ex just gets what he wants, you wana be sure he's not just after you because he cant have you, he might have unhealthy hang ups. Also your current bf wont think much of you if you just affirm his fears, that you wana be with someone your own age. Dont let either guy drive you towards the other, you'll be back and forth in your mind all the time and dealing with any issue will always have the option to favor one or the other. If your bf cant get on with your lifestyle then make it clear who you are and be that person, if it doesn't work then move on. If your ex is giving you all this attention ask him to be patient as he cant ask anything of you while you're with someone else, he's thinking more of himself than you right now. Don't pressure yourself into any situation. It's gota be whatever makes you happy. Just be hones with the guys when you know. Good luck.

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  • by MNfirefighter on February 8th, 2010

    MNfirefighter

    I Agree, Your BF needs to understand that you are 19 and that he did all of his partying already and even though he is done with it at 28 you are still 19 and you will not be a very happy girl later in life if you stay with him because he made you skip all those experiences.

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  • by cjs7dust on February 3rd, 2010

    cjs7dust

    get rid of your b/f, he isnt doing anything wrong by expecting you not to party, he is just past that phase. and you have alot of good times ahead only being 19. he may be a nice guy, but 3 hours away? Can you blame him for wanting to spend time with you when he sees you rather than having you going out to party? i would be he doesnt see you often and when he does, i would bet he would rather just be with you. spend the time you dont see him going out to party, other wise break up.

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  • by .Its.Just.Alana. on February 3rd, 2010

    .Its.Just.Alana.

    wow thts a hard 1
    ryt why dont you see all the gud points in each guy and weigh the options??
    i was going wit a guy and i always looked at the bad points so my advice is try to ignore the bad points..
    plus why u nat goin wit ur ex in the 1st place whateva happend there you might nat want tht to happen again
    good luck
    xx

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