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Me and my ex were going out for about a year (we were both around eighteen years of age) and during that time I had done a lot of horrible things to her. I thought of her friends, I told another girl I wanted to have sex with her and I basically treated her like shit. She was the nearly the perfect girl friend, a fact that I realise now. So we broke up obviously and we went through a period of not talking. Then we got back together for a little while and school started and she was still bothered by the things i did before.
So she began to see another guy and things between them didn't work out, she told me that when it comes to guys the only person she can think about is me. So we went out again for a month or so and then suddenly she began to withdraw and told me that she wanted to feel like being in a relationship rather then being forced to, I guess i smothered her a little bit.
I had told her that I didn't want to make things work between us anymore because of the way we were going back and forth. And then she gives me signals of interest like taking the same french class as me hand we chill sometimes and have sex once in a while. She gets to know other guys although she doesn't have sex with them. I am extremely busy with school so i have not met anyone of interest lately. After getting to know a guy she told me that she kept thinking about me all the time again, but this time I did not take the bite and I remained cool about it. She asked me if i loved her and I said I don't know. We talk sometimes now and chill and she is in the same french course as i am. She seems to show more interest when I ignore her for a while or go out to a club or interacting with other girls.
But I really miss her and want her back in my life, I realized all the mistakes I made before and I have become a much better person. When we got back those 2 times, we never took the time to work things out and talk about the past; we sort of just jumped back into things again. I am
by jacknye on January 30th, 2010
i can only think of 2 options
1.) get back with her and treat her the way you know you should.
2.) if you want to be friends then just chill out together and try not to have sex.
try to think of what she means to you. try to realise if on the occasions that you were intimate. where you having sex or making love? i recomend thinking hard about what is best for you and her. what ever you choose to do try paying attention to how she feels and dont think with your second head
but i assume you really care about her you might not manna let her slip away no one can put up with a bad relationship forever and from your decription you know she should be treated well
by gardengirl10 on January 31st, 2010
You have to listen to your heart. If you have doubts, they are there for a reason, don't ignore them. If you can't get over her, try to make things work. Otherwise, quit playing games with her. If she plays games with you, remember, you can't change another person, only yourself.
by Elliye on January 30th, 2010
same thing with me and my boyfriend. I hate to tell you, but the only reason I got back together with him was because I hated seeing him with other girls and I wanted sex. We were together for a year when we broke up but now we stayed together and we just passed the 2 year marker. She's going to show more interest because she feels like you don't want her anymore and she still wants the control of knowing that if she wants you, she can have you. That is exactly what I did and it's wrong of me but thats how girls minds work. Talk things out, apologize and give it time. When we were going through our rough spot God gave me Psalm 27:14; read it and do what it says and everything will work out. Best of luck.
by Elliye on January 30th, 2010
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