My friend with benefits gave me an $150 gift.

Sounds like another benefit.

Chances are your friend with benefits wants to show you that he thinks you're special. You're more meaningful to him than the $150 he had in his pocket. He's not expecting you to give him a $150 gift, so just appreciate that he thinks you're special. Also it sounds like he's trying to ratchet up your relationship, raise the stakes, start to get serious. Time for you to decide whether or not that's where you want to go. If not, it's time to make that clear to him and yes, that might end your relationship. On the other hand, if you're starting to get the idea he might be Mister Right, you're off to a good start, let's hope it's in his nature to continue to be kind, generous and appreciative.

I'm not sure I understand what you're asking here.

Motives are personal...and since I don't know either of you, I can't properly assess your motivations.

However, "friends with benefits" are sexual relationships with no strings attached...ESPECIALLY emotional ones. If you feel that emotional ties are starting to happen, the it's probably moving beyond the definition of "friends with benefits". Only you can answer this.

However, a gift may not be any more than just that...a gift. I remember giving gifts to lady friends in the past...and NO sexual relations were involved or expected.

If all you have and all you want from this guy is a "friends with benefits" relationship, then YOU have to KEEP it that way. If it moves beyond that, then return the gift WITH an HONEST explanation and move on.

I'm really sorry to say this, but that seems more like prostitution than friendship with benefits. I'd very quickly give him a gift worth $140 to balance it out, and tell him to avoid such expensive gifts in the future. I just wouldn't want it on my conscience.

This is his payment for all the sex youve been giving him.

What is your question?

It's a gift. Gift giving does not necessarily mean there is more to the relationship. In fact, I gave one of mine possessions from the heart yesterday because he is important to me. It doesn't mean I want him to be my boyfriend. It was just a nice gesture and I knew he'd appreciate it, especially because of the thought and the practicalness of it. Turns out he did and does. What I learned from it? Guys REALLY appreciate practical gifts they will actually use! He is my friend and a close one at that - closer than the others, even if we're not "dating". I don't think it's wrong to show him that he's important to me for more than just sexual benefits and favours. Thankfully, we also know each other very well since we communicate, so it was understood. Of course a joke was made out of it, but that just shows how comfortable we are with each other.