Just FYI in case you don't already know this - incest is illegal (as in, if you do it, you go to prison). You can't date, marry or have sex with any of your relatives, cousins included. So my advice to you is: Don't. Don't tell him, don't hint, maybe even go and see a psychiatrist, and get help getting over your abnormal interest in your blood relative.

well in the uk its still legal i think its okay my advice is go with the flow and if the flow dont go dont go with. in othere do what you feel should do and when you wont to do it. i like my cousin and where sort of seeing each other but i dont give a shit. because its my life and i choose how to live it. and it has been proved my having kids with cousin only has 4% chance of birth deffects.

Firstly there's nothing wrong with loving your cousin despite what most people say. However if you don't know whether she loves you or not then maybe she doesn't. You face complications if you two do decide to become a couple. Remember too that you can still love somebody dearly without having sex with them or getting married. Maybe this kind of love is actually the most true and the purest of all. So perhaps love her and try to find another girl...

That depends, do you live closer to Lexington, or Louisville?

I think in the case of a cousin it is probably best kept inside and eventaully when you find someone else to involve yourself in romantically that kind of connection with your cousin will turn into a diferent kind of love platonic. I'm sure she loves you but it depends what kind and if you do let her know make sure you know what kind of way you love her.

When you love someone, cousin or not, and you are too shy to say so, you need to try to develop relationship that can bring you closer together. When two people love each other, shyness disappears. That will be your first clue.

As some have pointed out, relationships such as you seem to be contemplating are legal in many places. However, they are not advisable. Marrying too close within family lines leads to genetic problems for the children. This is something you should really consider before you start a romance with someone as genetically close to you as a cousin. What are you going to pass on to your children if you do this?

Wel when me and my cousin started feeling for each other I just went out and asked him: "How do you feel about me?" I suggest you do the same. Then there isn't any serious akwardness afterward cause this is a very open question.

Marrying within the family like that is considered Incest, but the further the bloodline is diluted the least problems you will have with a situation like this. Aside from legal implications, if this is a close relative, meaning like a first or second cousin, that is close enough to the main bloodline to cause you serious grief with your family. The worst kind of grief. If this is a third or forth cousin... (it breaks down like this First cousin = The child of an aunt of uncle of yours Second cousin= The child of a first cousin Third and so on are children of each level of cousin The further down that list you go, the better. Many families don't even consider thirds and beyond as "true" family because things can get pretty distant at that point. Almost half the country allows inbred relationships, but are usually very tight on exactly who this involves. The main worry for you is YOUR family and how they will take it... you'll most likely not be allowed any peace or happiness. In my opinion, its best to keep your feelings to yourself and love your cousin as a cousin and find a significant other elsewhere.

My only suggestion is to unlove your cousin and move on.

I have the same dilemma. I am married with two children and I have a single first cousin. I have seen her bitting her lips when she was about fifteen years old. She got engaged once and broke that engagement. After so many years, I have seen her a few time flirting with me. So, I got further into and began to show some interest. After then she stopped talking to me on the phone and replying emails. Though, she would like to talk with me in the presence of her family,that is my Uncle and Aunt. She has close some personal spaces without touching me, So I touched her and she did not mind it. I asked her out a few times and she turned down all the times. She will point her knees and legs at me when I see her with Uncle and Aunt. We talk together in person well but never alone. How Should I try further or leave wher it is now and be a good friend. Please advise me. Thanks, N.

It's pretty brave of you to say this. I'm proud of you for that! Dude, just talk to her. I had kinda the same issue. I didn't know all of my birth family until I was 24 years old, so I never grew up with them, or had the large family (I was an adopted child with no siblings or extended family in my adopted parents family.) When I finally met my birth family, my cousins (5 girl first cousins,) were (still are) absolutely beautiful. My oldest one (whom I'm a few years older than) I hung out with a LOT, and we were good friends, but all my life, I hung out with girls and fell in love with them, and this was no different. I fell in love with her, and I thought she might feel the same for me because of some of the soulful looks she would give me, like we just connected. I was really attracted to her body, but more so, her mind/soul. I talked to her about this and she never really admitted that she felt the same about me, but she's a more analytical person and I'm pretty sure even though she had similar feelings for me, she knew it wasn't a good idea. We are like brother and sister today, and I love her deeply (in that manner) now, as I've gotten use to the whole "family" thing. Just talk to her dude. You'll never know until you try. I'm not one to say don't try for love, so go for it, but do it in a totally respectful way that doesn't come off as too strong or whatever. Just pull her aside, and say, "hey cuz, I've been meaning to talk to you about something....... I don't know really how else to say this but, I'm pretty sure I'm in love with you. I cherish you, and I'm sorry for putting you in this situation but I just had to tell you because it's killing me inside not being able to at least profess this too you." Good luck.

Before you telll her that you love her, you should find out first if she is in love or a relationship with someone other than you. If she is not then you may convey your feelings to her by asking a date. The girls and women of all ages they get an hint when someone asks them a date. You may also ask her to go out for shopping or a movie or any other public places and make sure you do not take advantages by talking to her badly or touching her inappropriately. If she is in love with someone and if you do things like these or even an honest talk will take you to the other extreme of the relationship spectrum, because you both are already on one extreme closeness where you can not move any closer than you both are. If such an event happens then back up saying something like this "I am a flower in the garden of our family with a bad roots. The dew never falls on me or a butterfly never sits on me unless somebody puts a dead one on me." I wish a good luck and if you come up with better successful idea then let me know. Sattar Sarvaiya

Well, I've got the same problem, kinda, except first of all, her parents are not blood-related to me in any way at all, (my mom was adopted so her and my uncle aren't blood-related) on top of that, the cousin was adopted as well from a completely different country so we are about as far apart from being related as any average person walking on the street, and shes told me she loves me and I love her. So what do you do in a situation like this, how do you tell your parents without being an outcast from the family? See, people just hear you say you like your cousin and then it all snowballs from there without really understanding the situation? Whats best for me?

I have a similar problem. I’m 38yrs. old and recently met my first cousin (male) at his father’s (my uncle) funeral. I can only remember a little about my cousin as a child. My cousin mother moved out of state when he was 5yrs. old. My cousin is now 34yrs. and he never had an opportunity to meet his father before he passed away. So at the funeral dinner my cousin and I could not keep our eyes off each other. The connection was so strong I had to remind myself and my cousin that we are cousins. But this did not stop us from starting a secret relationship which went on for four months. I have never met anyone has caring, loving honest, giving, protective, responsible, and strong as this man. We decided to stop seeing each due to the many problems that come along with this kind of relationship. But I just want to tell you to carefully think about it because, you can’t turn back time. If had it to do again I would not change anything. I know he is my soul mate and I will go to my grave knowing that.

Well..this would be considered incest.

i think that dating a cousin isnt wrong, or is it? Iam dating a cousin and we met when we were thirteen and now im eighteen. I love him and we have been going out for a year. So my answer is tell her how you feeland im sure it will all be good.

what kind of love are we talking about here?

I know how you feel, I'm in the same situation. I love my cousin but I can't tell her, because our family is real close. I have taken her out, to the movies, and even walked with her when ever we can, and even talk about everything and anything. I just don't know if she has the same feelings towards me, like I do to her. (If we like(love) our cousin so much then maybe we should call them to the side and tell them how we feel, but we have to be careful.) Hope this helps.

i really cannot believe my eyes!!! it boggles my mind to find that so many people think its ok to have a romantic relationship with blood relatives. are we still living in the 6th century??? IT IS OK TO LOVE YOUR RELATIVES, the way you love your mother, brother, sister, father. IT IS NOT OK TO BE ROMANTICALLY INVOLVED WITH A COUSIN. this is insanity, shocking, and utterly repulsive. didnt i see a question a few mins ago saying "what the hell is wrong with people?" this question should be posted under that comment as well, along with the child raping father.

It is not a good idea to get romantically involved with your cousin. The bloodline is too close. It is a known fact that there are often deformities in children born of first cousins. It would be better to regard your cousin just as a friend and not to encourage any romantic thoughts of her.

Is it a common thing to marry your cousin in your country? Is that something that is done in your family?

dude your cousin ?? thats just lazy

This question has become too old to answer. However, I'd like to state a few facts here... 1. Many people think its illegal to marry first cousins. However, its illegal only in a few places in the world and legal in a lot of countries. Search the net and you'll find the data. 2. Many may think those countries are insane, but its actually based on scientific facts (yes! whether u believe me or not). However, its also true that its a law made by people. 3. The generally known scientific fact is that marrying first cousins and having children with her/him may result into physical disability of the new born child. However, if u talk to the experts or even search the internet for the real answer, u'll find that the disability rate of new born babies born from parents w/o blood relation is +- 4.5% whereas its only 7-7.5% when they are first cousins (based on researches). So there's not much of a difference, is there? 4. Some may not like this point, but "you do not love someone intentionally or conditionally, love always happens and true love is unconditional. That's why it is said that you 'fall' in love. 5. Its not incest!!! One of my cousins is born from first cousin parents and he's like my best friend now. He's doing well as well as his sister and his parents. I don't see the point of looking at this matter in such a stereotypical point of view.

as long as you love them you shouldn't care what anyone else says so just tell them cause if you don't its going to be bugging you forever and that goes for everyone regret is something that is hard to live with so live without regret