Depression can occur at any point in your life, causing you to feel hopeless, lethargic and not interested in your favorite activities. The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) website notes that because of the hormonal changes throughout a woman's life, women are more likely to suffer from depression than men. Helping your husband to understand your condition will give you a support system and help you in your recovery.

Talk to Him

Opening the lines of communication between you and your husband is a great way to help him understand what you are experiencing. Set aside a time when you can speak privately in your home or another private place where you both can feel comfortable. Begin by acknowledging that your condition has been affecting each of you. Even if you do not know exactly what to say, admitting that you understand how your condition is affecting your relationship as a couple shows that your concerns go beyond your own treatment. Let him speak about how your depression is making him feel. Ask him to be constructive. Both of you should seek to remain calm. Giving your husband a chance to vent his frustrations and concerns can help you understand your condition and how it is affecting those around you. If you find you are unable to talk to your husband alone, invite him to go with you to a relationship counselor, therapist or to visit the clergyman of your church who can help guide and mediate your conversation.

Discuss Treatment Options

Depression can be treated in many different ways. The most common forms of depression treatment are psychotherapy and anti-depressant medications. If you are already seeing a therapist, let your husband know about your therapy sessions. While you do not need to go into detail about what you discuss with your therapist, letting him know you are being proactive about your treatment can put his mind at ease. If you and your therapist agree on a joint meeting, you may invite your husband to attend a therapy session with you. You can also let him know about any anti-depression medications you may be taking and the side effects you may be experiencing. If you are not currently seeking treatment for your depression, you should visit your primary care provider as soon as possible to discuss your symptoms and treatment options. The NIMH notes that even the most severe cases of depression are highly treatable.

Divide the Housework

Suffering from depression can make everyday tasks seem daunting. Explain to your husband that you want to be productive and make healthy choices to better yourself, but that you are feeling overwhelmed by the amount of work needing to be done around the house. Take on large household projects together, or alternate nights of cooking and cleaning. This can help you to feel productive without being overwhelmed.

Source:

National Institute of Mental Health: How do women experience depression?

PsychCentral.com: Depression: The Spouse's Side of the Story

National Institute of Mental Health: How is Depression Detected and Treated?

More Information:

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention: Mental Health Organizations by State

Psychology Information Online: Listing of Psychologist by state in U.S.A.