My hubby emails a friend(female) when I'm not around. I've expressed my concerns and yet he still continues. Am I right to feel hurt?

hmmmm

if he is making sure to do it while you are not around, then I would say he is hiding something. He wouldnt hide if he werent involved in something inappropriate.

My husband has female friends and I dont worry about UNTIL he gets secretive about it. When he gets secretive, i get suspicious, and so far, I have caught him up to no good everytime.

Sure, you're right to feel hurt. But what are you going to do now?

All the talking in the world won't change his behavior. So you'll need to take action. Get away from this guy.

Yes you are right to feel hurt. There should be trust in every relationship...because he doesn't share it with you what they always discuss, there may be a cause for concern.

Yes you have right to feel hurt, why would you think otherwise?
when you say you expressed your concerns how did you express it?

Did you tell him how hurt you feel that he talks to her. how would he like it if you did that.

The best way I can think of is to talk openly about this and see where it goes. does he feel unable to talk to you, does he find it hard to communicate his feelings to you.
Some times people feel able to talk online easier than face to face and this can lead to seeking out people to have an online relationship with, this fills the need to communicate at a deep level but also removes the anxiety of talking face to face with another person.

I can't say what the problem is but only offer a few thoughts that may help you find a new direction.

Yes, You should be concerned. The question is why when you are not around? and does he know it hurts you? Sorry, I'm not one to keep in touch with Ex's. Really don't see any reason for it unless there are kids involved. Otherwise it would only make me question the relationship and feel insecure of why this man feels that need to hold on. His focus should be on you. I'm sure he has his male friends and family he can talk to about things. An ex has no business in your guys relationship and he shouldn't allow it. Time to have a sit down talk and if he gets offended, mad etc I would seriously reconsider this relationship. He may not be in this relationship whole hearted. This is just my opinion.

Is it a real friend or someone he is interested in thats the question here...if its just a friend who cares.....but the other one i would be concerned with....