Why is it that people date whites when they have done horrible things to the world?

Really. They have? All of them?

1) Has anyone other than whites done anything bad? Are all non whites lily pure and good?

2) Are all whites assholes... every last one?

3) Is my wife an asshole? She is white. I am with her because she is a good woman and I love her. Is she pretending to love me while, in reality, harboring hatred against me? There. I answered your question.

I am not white but, even if I was not in love with a white woman, I do not like illogic and racism. I do not like it when people call me a thief because all of my people are thieves. I highly doubt that you like it when people call you [enter stereotype here] because all blacks are like that.

If you do not like to be stereotyped, do you think whites like it any more? If the stereotypes of blacks are not true, why are the stereotypes of whites true?

I looked at your questions and noticed that you have a huge issue with whites. I ask you this: are all whites rotten... all of them?

You might have had a lot of negative experience with whites. I have had a lot of negative experience with Gadje (non Gypsies). However, I am not going to paint all Gadje with the same brush because MOST of them are not assholes.

The one who is losing out in this situation is you. You are being consumed by your hate and losing out on the potential to make friends.

For the record if you had asked this question about any ethnicity, I would have given you the same answer. Well, other than the bit about my wife.

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My wife thinks I'm an *sshole, sometimes.

But then, she claims I've earned the title through personal performance, not because I'm white. Can't rightly say I disagree with her on some aspects, either. But then, my crown of glorious *ssholeness isn't because I'm a racist b*stard or some such. Usually it's because I exhibit a "suck the heat out of my *ss" attitude with respect to others who have no honor or respect.

"Black people will die off cause we don't love eachother and we aren't dating eachother anymore."
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1894637

"Im in an interracial relationship and I hate it. I want to be with a black man and thats it. I think black people don't love themselves."
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1894634

"Only black people that hate eachother date outside their race."
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1894635

These postings are all, pardon me, a crock of sh*t. Black people have a proud heritage, as proud as any other race.

Are you black or not?

Your first question I cited above "Black people will die off cause we don't love eachother and we aren't dating eachother anymore" says you're BLACK.

Yet the second question you say: "Im in an interracial relationship and I hate it. I want to be with a black man and thats it. I think black people don't love themselves." This is confusing, because you say you're in an interracial relationship in the first part, which you hate. Which, when you look at your previous question above says you're WHITE.

Which makes me think you're posting drivel just to stir the pot.

Well, bugger off. If you're black, then pull yourself up by your boot straps and find some d*mn pride in your heritage. And if you're white, then pack sand because I don't want to hear it from you.
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by The Chief on January 25th, 2010
Keysha sometimes thinks I am, err, a bit pig headed and, of course, she is completely wrong... I am just a saint in human flesh as we all know. Oh now I know she thinks this because I am not white... really.

I think I match you in the "suck my heat out of my *ss" attitude towards rude and dishonorable people. Oh noes I am like a white guy? *eyeroll* As far as being similar to you, that is nothing but a compliment, and it has absolutely nothing to do with race.

I had noticed this asker's questions and she definitely has a problem with white folks. I think the asker is black but she is using answerbag to vent her hate.

From what I am gathering from this: ""Im in an interracial relationship and I hate it. I want to be with a black man and thats it. I think black people don't love themselves." is that she has a negative view of black men in general. I do not feel like going through her stuff to find it but it is there.

That shows prejudice against black people too. We both could list off some great black male ABers like Saboteur, Buttman, DarkMusclePrince, and so many more. She obviously is not hanging out with the right people. And no, to the asker, the black guys I just mentioned are not trying to act white. They are just good guys.
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by Arisztid on January 25th, 2010
There was another black woman who was deeply prejudiced against black men, thinking they were all scum, and admitted to being a user of white guys: 2grwon6thishish/BeautyIzSkinDeep/etc.

I am glad that THAT one was nuked enough times to give up.
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by Arisztid on January 25th, 2010
Sounds to me like a change in company is in order, if the company she's keeping isn't very good.

Just like anybody who complains how "there aren't any good men/women to date". CHANGE something...like where you are meeting these people or something like that.

Sheesh! Does it make sense to hang around with scum and then complaing that there is nothing but scum to choose from?
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by The Chief on January 25th, 2010
i didn't say black men were scum. I didn't say I didn't like them. I said that I would rather be in a relationship with a black man because I feel that black people are killing off their race by marrying and having half white children with white men or women.

I also think that these children will grow up and hate their black side and marry someone white, therefore killing off any black that they have in them.

So I don't like the idea. I would honestly break up with my boyfriend, who is white that loves me a lot, if a black man came my way and was interested in me.

but thats rare because black men hate black women think they are ugly and want a white woman.
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by YoungOpinion on January 26th, 2010
1) Has anyone other than whites done anything bad? Are all non whites lily pure and good?

2) Are all whites assholes... every last one?

3) Is my wife an asshole? She is white. I am with her because she is a good woman and I love her. Is she pretending to love me while, in reality, harboring hatred against me? There. I answered your question.
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by Arisztid on January 26th, 2010
Oh I feel sorry for your boyfriend. You should dump him now before he becomes more attached to you.

It is sad that you only see his race.
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by Arisztid on January 26th, 2010
Please keep in mind the context in which I am speaking...the reference to "scum" was a generic one having to do with any similar situation one may find oneself with in the situation I mentioned. Hence the "Just like anybody who complains how..."

I think your view is lobsided and unrealistic when viewed in a larger scale. By and large, our children grow up to be what WE teach them to be. Thus parents who take an active role in raising their children impress THEIR values on their children and those who do not take as active a role relinquish much of that to others.

ARE YOU PROUD TO BE BLACK? If the answer to that question is YES, then your children should also be proud as well because that's how you raise them.

In the grand scheme of things, regardless of what other people think, we are ALL just that...PEOPLE.

Think about this for a moment. If it's not color, it's race. If it's not race, its ethnicity. If it's not ethnicity, it's religious beliefs. If it's not religious beliefs, it's wealth. If it's not wealth, it's what family you're from. If it's not what family your from, it's the color of your eyes or hair.

People have this incredible ability to b*tch, moan, and complain about ANYTHING. As a species, we're incredibly adept at finding SOMETHING about ANYBODY that we can put down.

Think it's bad, for example, that some people put down Mexicans? Guess what...within the Mexican people there are dark skinned Mexicans and light skinned Mexicans. And surprise, surprise, suprise...there is conflict between them as well!

White people are no different. What the h*ll is the difference between, say, German, Austrian, French, Spanish, Italian, English, Scottish, or Irish peoples? All white, correct? Yet there are CENTURIES of horrible war between just because (drum roll...) THEY WERE DIFFERENT COUNTRIES!

Oh, horror of horrors! Catholic Irishmen and Protestant Irishmen KILLING each other over their differing Christian faiths!

My point is that there isn't a d*mn thing different with the situation you are talking about.

You want to know what's important? I'll tell you what's important:

The CHARACTER of the person you chose to be with.

If my wife had been black when we first met, and was otherwise still the honest and honorable person I found her to be...guess what? I would STILL have gone out with her. And maybe...possibly...we would have still ended up married to each other.

I don't care WHO you date with respect to color, or any other such trait. You know what I REALLY want for you? That you find somebody who loves you. That you find somebody worthy of being loved in return. That the person you end up with is honorable, honest, and committed.

THAT is what I wish for you.

If he ends up being black...WOOHOO! More power to you! But if he ends up white, Chinese, Mexican, Slavic, or whatever else...if he loves you and treats you like you're the best thing that ever happened to him, what difference does that make?

And the children of such a union? Guess what...you are their Mommy and he is their Daddy. And in the eyes of a child, ain't NOBODY better than their Mommy and Daddy. You raise them understanding that, and that is what they will carry with them the rest of their lives.

You want people to grow up respecting their heritage? To embrace it? THAT is where it starts...with how they are raised. NOT the color of their skin.
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by The Chief on January 26th, 2010
I only want to point out that these dark skinned mexicans are most likely black. But no one points out the middle passage. There are black Hispanics, slaves were brought there as well from africa.
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by YoungOpinion on January 26th, 2010
Yes, there ARE Mexicans with black heritages as well. But one must remember that even the Spaniard/Aztec mixes were varied in skin color, as well. It makes no difference. My point is that people pick on the COLOR as an excuse to put down others in that example. And if it weren't shades of skin tone, it would be something else.
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by The Chief on January 26th, 2010
Not everyone who is dark has black ancestry. My people are, overall, quite dark skinned and we have no black ancestry.

The thing is skin color should not matter. If you love your boyfriend why dump him because he is white? The amount of melanin in your skin does not matter.

I see that you are ignoring me when I challenge your statement that non whites should not date whites because they are ALL bad.

Actually, you are ignoring me completely. I wonder why... could it be that you are ignoring me because I am a non white guy married to a white Lady?
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by Arisztid on January 26th, 2010
im not ignoring you, i was talking to you about what you said earlier. But you seem to think that im ignoring you, whatever.

I also do need a genetics test either, when i saw it should be obvious someone is black like african black in the hispanic countries, i mean hair texture and facial features as well.

and if we want to get all techniquly, the human race was born in africa.

anyways....i've dated outside of my race all my life, and I honestly think its wrong now because of what im seeing happen to the black community.

black women marrying lighter skinned men or non black men because they want their kids to have "good hair" and lighter skin.

black men dating white women because black girls are ugly and this and that. And whatever else society is putting into their heads and putting white women on a higher standard when it comes to beauty and sex.

black saying horrible things about eachother and using it as an excuse to date outside their race cause they have problems.

I had this converstation with my boyfriend, he was upset cause he loves me, but I'm not sure if I want half breed children running around and marrying a white man.

i believe its killing off black people.
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by YoungOpinion on January 27th, 2010
I feel sorry for your boyfriend.
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by Arisztid on January 27th, 2010
don't feel sorry for him. he's fine

i don't understand why i feel this way, i hate it that im in love with him sometimes.

but i see you had no argument to what i said in the rest of post.
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by YoungOpinion on January 27th, 2010
I choose, based on the course of this conversation, to call it "debate" or "discussion". This has certainly NOT hit the level of "argument", except in the purest sense of debating one's perspective.

You DO have some valid points, in my opinion. Namely, the desire to preserve your racial heritage and to confront the degrading reasons some put forth as reasons to date/marry outside one's race.

These reasons are, actually, no better than any other racist view in my opinion. Dating/marrying outside one's race in support of a society driven, preconceived notion that one's own race is somehow NOT worthy is WRONG. It's a deliberate subversion of one culture in favor of another for superficial reasons that are just as racist as other commonly recognized racist beliefs.

However, one should be careful about this because personal motivations are EVERYTHING. For example, being attracted to the opposite sex because they are exotic (meaning different from the norm) is NOT the same as being attracted to the opposite sex because they fit some notion that one's own race is inferior.

Ultimately, long term, meaningful relationships are rarely EVER successful when based solely on appearances or on what someone else THINKS is suitable based on ephemeral concepts. One only has to look at what the changing market sells to understand this. Full figured women were considered the most attractive and desirable not too many decades ago. Slowly, the market evolved to slimmer, and finally waifish women as the model to strive for in order to be "beautiful". Now the market is slowly moving back in the other direction.

Character, by far, is the determining factor for successful, long term relationships.

I applaud you for your desire to resist those who degrade and devalue your own racial heritage for the reasons you cite. But I propose to you that YOUR motivations are what is important when you decide who is and who is not suitable as a potential spouse.

If you love your white boyfriend for who he is, for the character traits which you find important, and this is NOT motivated by some desire within yourself to date outside your own race because you think black people are somehow bad or inferior...then your motivations are just and honorable and in no way degrade who you are or your heritage.

And ANYBODY who thinks badly of you for your decision in such a case can, in my opinion, bugger off.
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by The Chief on January 27th, 2010
Errr...

Well I feel badly of her decision because she is going to raise racist children. She is going to pass her hatred of whites down to them and put them behind the 8 ball.

I also feel badly for what she is doing to her boyfriend.
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by Arisztid on January 27th, 2010
Miss, you should have been up front with this guy and turned him down flat.

I think that anyone who marries in order to produce an offspring of a desired appearance or to meld in with whites is just plain wrong.

As a "person of color" I also object to the prejudice placed on me and, well, all prejudice. However, I am not going to contribute to hate. I combat racism when it rises in me because I was raised that way and because it is the right thing to do.

I do not know what blacks say to each other but if it is anything like the hell my people catch for dating and marrying outside our race, it is a very bad thing.

Yes, I do not want the races to become a homogeneous mess... any of them. However, I am a contradiction of terms because I also believe in marrying for love.

Before you say that I am bringing halfbreed children into this world, I am 3/4 blooded, the other 1/4 being white. I was snipped decades ago and, if I was not snipped, I would love my child, teach my child well, no matter the color of their skin. I would teach them about my heritage and hope that my Lady teaches the child about her heritage. Neither of us would be with the other if we had a problem with either's "race."
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by Arisztid on January 27th, 2010
Oh we catch hell for dating Gadje... any Gadje. The more Gadje blood we have, the less "pure" we are.

So there is a difference, however, the concept is the same.
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by Arisztid on January 27th, 2010
I have to say a few things. As Aris's Lady, I can tell you that, were we to have children, which we are not, they would not be 'raised white' or 'raised Romani'. They would be raised as human beings. They would learn both cultures, both histories, and appreciate who and what they were. There is no such thing as losing the 'black' in you by marrying white. You are still, genetically, of whatever race your ancestors were, back more generations than you know. That's how genetics work.

If you feel marrying a white man would cause your children to 'lose the black' in them, then you need both education and a smack with a reality stick. The only way a child of yours would 'lose the black' in them, is if YOU neglect to teach them their history. Black is not a color of skin. Show me one person that is truly black. As in, write on them with a black marker and it does not show. I would bet you can't. The African, Australian Aboriginal, and other dark-skinned people have shades. Some of those shades are lighter than others. It's how things work. Learn that. And learn that you are more than the color of your skin. Once you know that, and accept it, you will realize, you can only lose your heritage, if you refuse to learn about your history. Even if you are not taught it, you can learn on your own.
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by Keysha on January 27th, 2010
@ Young Opinion, y
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by Seeya says Dont Ever Give Up on January 27th, 2010
@ Young Opinion, y
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by Seeya says Dont Ever Give Up on January 27th, 2010
Obama, no matter how much I dislike him, is an example of someone who has not lost his identity of being a black guy nor dislikes blacks because he is mixed race himself. Obviously his parents raised him in both cultures. I suspect that his parents raised him to understand and respect all sides of his heritage.

He also married a black woman. That shows that not all mixed race people go on to marry white people. I also highly doubt that he is raising his children to hate black people.
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by Arisztid on January 27th, 2010
@ Young Opinion, you need to go live alone and sort out who and what you want. the guy you are with deserves better and so do you. so move on find yourself, and let this guy find someone to make a life with. I wish you the same. A happy and joyous life with someone you can truely love.
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by Seeya says Dont Ever Give Up on January 27th, 2010
um, im not racist at all. I have like 2 black friends that i actually talk to. So no im not racist if the majority of my friends are white.

why do people claim to dislike obama? jesus thats not the point of the conversation.

anyways, josh wants me to do whatever i am with and i'm happy with him. I don't know why i feel this way, i get nervous whenever i am approached by a black guy cause i don't know how to be with one.

and every time i would try and show interest in a black boy he had some lily white girl on his arm at some point.
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by YoungOpinion on January 27th, 2010
Ok, then as long as you have no hatred for white people to pass down to your children, the only problem I have is that you are going to hurt Josh. If he is ok with it then, while I do not agree with your reason for leaving him, then I have no issue with you on that.

The reason I think that you have a problem with white people is "whites when they have done horrible things to the world." The thing is not all whites do horrid things... the minority of whites, in my experience, are asses. Also, if you go back in history, just about everyone has done horrid things.

IF I am not understanding you and you do not hate white people just for being white, then I retract my statement.

You are right about me bringing up my opinion of Obama... that had no part in the conversation. He just did something recently enough that I am quite annoyed.

I know enough good black guys, and black women, to know that you shall find a good one if you keep your eyes open. There are lots out there who are not taken.
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by Arisztid on January 27th, 2010
Oh I get on anyone's case who says that "all whites are [enter negative thing here]", "all blacks are [enter negative thing here]", "all minorities are [enter negative thing here]", and so forth because "all of" any ethnicity is not [enter negative thing here]. I take this issue up when I see any such statement.
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by Arisztid on January 27th, 2010

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