I don't know if this is cheating...

I think you cheated when you discussed your problems with his freind. Not the smartest. Dont you have your own freinds for that?? but good luck. you'll be fine, just do the time for the crime.

You took all the steps a person that was looking for affection from someone other than their S/O takes, when they don't want to be the one responsible for the "indiscretion".

In this case, you and your bf place high emotional strings to everything sexual. So in tying emotional strings to his (ex)friend by confiding in him, and getting attention from him and all that. You emotionally cheated on him.

Physically, his friend was responsible and I don't consider the kiss as YOU cheating.

Your affair was an emotional one. That is the hardest to forgive.

You didn't cheat. But confiding things that are going on within your relationship with a person who is the opposite sex is probably not the best idea. That's how most affairs get started. Actually, your boyfriend is partly to blame.

hi i think that instead of u helping your relationship with boy friend grow u sought something easier u got hooked on how this other guy made u feel about your self i think u need to work on your self its about u isnt it ? co-dependant relationships how exausting and drama filled forget about the boys untill u can face your self and your own minds way of thinking i thik u know that u where flirting and loving this mans attention because u lacked that in your boyfriend be strong your a women i assume?

You know, more than a discussion of whether or not you were cheating, I think you need to think about both relationships. Were you pulling away from your boyfriend because of the other man, and that's what made him treat you that way? Or did you rely more on the other man because you knew in your heart your boyfriend was not right for you? If even now that the friend is out of your lives things are not going well with your boyfriend, regardless of whether it was cheating or not and who was to "blame," you need to consider whether the relationship is worth it. If he cannot forgive you, resentment is a terrible thing to live with and it only gets worse. You didn't say how you feel about him ... do you REALLY love him? What I did see was how both guys made you feel. The best relationships are based upon friendship, and that is certainly something to consider. But you need to learn to love yourself because that is a need no one else can ever fill. No one can ever make you happy, only you can. And you will attract into your life what you are. You need to seriously think about the relationship you are in because there is nothing lonelier than being with the wrong person ... especially when the right one comes along. Listen to your heart and don't ignore doubts. They are there for a reason.