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by Robogirl_roboguy_robodog_robocat_in_2030 on January 17th, 2010
Find another boyfriend. I never look at porn, in fact im against porn.
by Once here now gone... now back? on February 19th, 2010
If it kills you inside, then it kills you inside. You can't make yourself ok with it, nor should you. Some girls are fine with it some aren't. That doesn't make you right or wrong, that is just how you are. If your boyfriend won't stop looking at porn then since it bothers you this much you need a boyfriend who doesn't like porn or will focus on you instead.
by bagicide stayed 10 months too long on February 5th, 2010
There is absolutely no reason not to be upset. He is in no way being loving to you when he does that.
by julie_johnson on February 17th, 2010
I think it depends on the circumstances. It is a fact that men are more visually stimulated than women so they are more likely to enjoy looking at porn. If he is looking at porn occasionally then this is probably normal. There may be some aspects of porn you might enjoy yourself in moderation and if so then why not do it together? If you really think it is wrong and disgusting then it is understandable why you feel the way you do. If he is looking at porn instead of being with you then there is a problem and he needs to change or things won't work out in your relationship. If he is keen to involve you in it and it is just an occasional fantasy then I wouldn't let it affect you too much. Why not ask him what he really enjoys about porn and see if you can't do something with him that is raunchy occasionally so he is not feeling the need to look at porn. If it really bothers you that much though just tell him how you feel. If he won't respect you and refuses to stop looking at porn then you might have to consider how you feel about that and if you think your relationship has a future.
by laaayla on February 12th, 2010
Truth is, it does bother you. That's not going to change. Neither, is the fact that your boyfriend looks at porn. My suggestion would be to break it off with this guy. Watching porn...is obviously more important to him than you are. That's what it boils down to, after all. Never settled for behavior from a guy that kills you inside. Ever. As a woman you are worth more than that. If you start settling you will be doing that for the rest of your life. Be your own person. I would tell him rather than lying to me about what your watching, I would just rather move on. There is someone for everyone. He's just not your someone. Good luck.
by Aries RSA on January 26th, 2010
I am sure some would give you hundreds of reason why you should NOT be bothered by it, but the fact remains you are and will be as it is not only degrading to you as a woman, but brings about feelings of insecurity that should not be there in the first place. Either ask him to consider you and stop or find yourself someone that respects you and your feelings. Good luck. And don't force yourself to accept something that goes against your grain for another. It is not worth it in the long run.
by spoodle23 on January 21st, 2010
its personal , if it does bother you thats totally valid. Just because our society/media push to make it normal and accepted (just like strippers on a bucks night etc) doesn't mean we have to accept it and should just take it lightly. I'm not into it, I don't want my partner getting into that habit so I can relate. You have to let your feelings be known.
by iliketoargue on January 21st, 2010
yeah, that's not cool, you should be everything he needs. obviously he wants something else you aren't giving him...
by hallagan on January 17th, 2010
As long as he's still giving it up for you and your still having regular sex it doesn't mean he doesn't desire you.Some women are not in the mood for sex.I asked women how often they like to have sex and they told me once a month guys like it just about everyday so we need something to fill in the gap.I think you feel cheated on or like your no longer desirable and thats not how we see it or we wouldn't have been with you.Maybe you can watch it with him.
by SNorman99 on March 2nd, 2010
99% of men will look at porn. If you think you're going to find a guy who doesn't look at porn, you might as well try to find a guy that doesn't urinate as well.
If it's affecting your relationship (in ways OTHER than you just having a problem with it) then that needs to be addressed. If everything is OK otherwise than maybe you have some insecurities that you could address.
by iscotz on April 27th, 2010
Would it be ok if he imagined a man and a woman having sex? Would it be ok if he read an erotic book and imagined having sex? Would it be ok if YOU read Twilight or watch Dear John or whatever and imagined them inappropriately? The fantasies on the computer are about as real as you having sex with a vampire or whatever...
Do you know why guys Masterbate?Women have a period every month to provide a better chance of getting pregnant. Guys have to renew their fluids, but have no monthly period. So we masterbate to get rid of old sperm and replace with new ones. And how do guys masterbate? By getting aroused! So it seeing guys are more visually aroused its not that difficult to understand why men look a porn to jack off to.
by Libertarian_Fella on January 31st, 2010
If he didn't delete the browser history, then he's an idiot.
If he watches it in front of you, then he's an idiot.
If he talks about it with you, then he's an idiot.
I hope your next boyfriend will be ALOT more discrete.
by ladyshakespeare on January 18th, 2010
there is no reason why it shouldnt bother you. You said you have researched it. Then you already know that large amounts of porn cause damage to the section of the brain that regulates sexual desire and drive. My husband is in counseling now for porn addiction. Porn causes addiction, the addiction causes inabilty to become aroused by real women, and it causes lack of arousal to real sex. The porn addict will eventually reach a point where he can only be aroused by sexually abusing a woman, or having sex with underage girls (because of the risk)
by Aries RSA on January 26th, 2010
I am sure some would give you hundreds of reason why you should NOT be bothered by it, but the fact remains you are and will be as it is not only degrading to you as a woman, but brings about feelings of insecurity that should not be there in the first place. Either ask him to consider you and stop or find yourself someone that respects you and your feelings. Good luck. And don't force yourself to accept something that goes against your grain for another. It is not worth it in the long run.
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you seem to be a bit of a saint....
by unknown_user on January 17th, 2010
As long as he's still giving it up for you and your still having regular sex it doesn't mean he doesn't desire you.Some women are not in the mood for sex.I asked women how often they like to have sex and they told me once a month guys like it just about everyday so we need something to fill in the gap.I think you feel cheated on or like your no longer desirable and thats not how we see it or we wouldn't have been with you.Maybe you can watch it with him
by 4GetIT on January 19th, 2010
As long as he's still giving it up for you and your still having regular sex it doesn't mean he doesn't desire you.Some women are not in the mood for sex.I asked women how often they like to have sex and they told me once a month guys like it just about everyday so we need something to fill in the gap.I think you feel cheated on or like your no longer desirable and thats not how we see it or we wouldn't have been with you.Maybe you can watch it with him
by 4GetIT on January 19th, 2010
sorry big mistake on last two comments...
I am a woman that can have sex regularly as long as my man desires me... however, It bothers me when I know that another woman can turn my husband on through naked pictures online of random woman. If you have the real thing at home why bother with that stuff. He had built this habit since college and now I'm considering counseling for it.
by 4GetIT on January 19th, 2010
His porn habit happened years before he married. He needs to see counseling to kick his disgusting habit before the marriage is ruined.
by Robogirl_roboguy_robodog_robocat_in_2030 on January 19th, 2010
His porn habit happened years before he married. He needs to see counseling to kick his disgusting habit before the marriage is ruined.
by Robogirl_roboguy_robodog_robocat_in_2030 on January 19th, 2010
Yes, find another boyfriend like SiDDD, then you can guarantee you'll never have sex, and you can sit around and talk about which is more gross, his penis or your vagina.
4GetIT: Once a month? I have never, ever had a girlfriend (or wife during 10 years of marriage) who was OK with less than 3 or 4 times a week. Usually we both wanted it every day.
Hint for guys: If your woman only wants it once a month, she's not that into you, or you suck in bed.
by SNorman99 on March 2nd, 2010
4GetIT: If you find a nice man like me, you wouldn't feel the need for monthly sex. I would never nag you for sex, period! No woman should be with a man who nags her everyday for sex, she deserves better!
by Robogirl_roboguy_robodog_robocat_in_2030 on March 2nd, 2010