is he cheating? my fiance joined a site called sexsearch on the 4th of jan & said he was single he even use a pic i took for his profile?

Um, really? Do you even have a question about this? Are you insane? Let's see here.

1) You're engaged. Why is he on a sex site?
2) You're engaged. Why is he saying he's single?
3) He cheated on his ex. Clear red flag. Yet you chose to believe his b.s. excuse.
4) Why doesn't he answer your text messages?
5) Why does he shut his phone off?
6) Are 4 and 5 signs of respect? Especially to his fiance whom is carrying his baby?
7) WHY ARE YOU PAYING HIS PHONE BILL? Is he not a grown man who can shoot the sperm and have a baby of his own?

Please. Please, I pray, WALK AWAY FROM THIS MAN. Both you and the baby are so much better off without him and all that anxiety and mental energy!!!!!!!

plse do yourself a favour get your self a investergator from cheaterbusters.com ive been through the cheating from my husband u will move on

Your fiance is cheating on you. And once a cheater always a cheater. Get out now. I'd be afraid that you might have some kind of disease being pregnant. It could affect your child. And your first action should be to get to a doctor and have yourself checked out. I wouldn't tell him about the doctor visit until you get your results back. I'd call off the engagement publicly and tell all my friends why. I'd tell his family and friends too. In fact, I'd probably have a nice little party planned at a restaurant and let them all know there. You could tell them that he got some kind of promotion. That should be fun for him. And if you contracted some kind of disease I'd let everyone know that too. If you don't have the nerve to do that, have one of your more nervy friends do it for you. Have your friend tell everyone that your fiance signed up for sexsearch.com on January 4th of this year. Make sure you get child support from this creep. And have his earnings checked every six months or so. I'd make his life miserable. He deserves it!

Wow. I'm not engaged but my boyfriend insists he wants to marry me soon and have a child together. He's ALREADY cheated, and most people would insist I am stupid for staying with him. He said it was so he could get over me and she was only a rebound because things were getting rough between us. He begged and cried for me back. Said that right after it he told her he needed to use the restroom and sat there crying and throwing up. I'm still not too sure if there have been more girls or if he still has. He went to Ohio with his best friend and I found pics of both of them with girls. Nothing but just standing with them but it looks to me like his arm is around them.
It makes me sick that I feel so lied to.


I'm sorry, but to answer your question I do think this is a sign of cheating, my best friend is in the same situation yet they are no longer together. However he tells her to tell every guy that attempts to talk to her that they are together. He is on a dating site yet she's not ALLOWED to talk to any guy what so ever. He controls her and tells her to call him and kill herself so that he can hear her do it. He cheated on her with 2 different girls at the start of the relationship and when she found out she did it back to cope with the pain, only she told him less then two weeks later. He kept it from her for nearly a year. He blaims her for there pain now, and says that him doing it wasn't wrong. He'd do it with HER FRIENDS in the NEXT ROOM while she was asleep. I mean if you two aren't even married yet you SHOULD GET OUT!

I should take that advice but it's a lot easier said then done.

Yeah, I can definitely understand your reason to be worried. A lot of these reasons are good enough for you to take a hint, and shouldn't be avoided. Some dating websites out there are even deliberate enough to have people asking for "discrete relationships", or maybe even to have an affair. You could always ask him about it, but chances are he will want to save his own ass and deny it, something of a natural reaction a man would take in an uncomfortable situation. Do a bit of your own research first, before and if you do want to confront him about it. And be sure about this before making any accusations that could tip the balance of trust in your relationship.
If you think that your relationship can be saved, then you both will have to take a painful yet honest conversation with one another about what is going on, and why. I know that I personally appreciate honesty a whole lot, and that it can take some time to take in information as well.

He clearly does not respect your relationship at all especially when he is telling all of these other women that he is single. He might have an addiction to sex which can if it isn't already become a really big issue if it is not addressed right away. He according to what yo usaid about him cheating feels that oh just because you did now I am able to as well which is a coward way to look at cheating if you ask me. Also be prepared if you confrton him about it he may get very defensive or he could realize its not right but either way that is not healthy for you or your children. Also the fact that he is not answering your phone calls or texts would raise questions in my mind as well if yo utruly love him and want to make this work you need to address it because if you don't the situation could become more complicated and you will only get hurt more. Also just because you are expecting a child does not mean that you need to marry him if he can't respect being in a relationship now how can you expect him to respect your marriage. Good Luck

You know what? I almost have the same problem... I just had my baby a month ago. and this morning I found an email log in yahoo with a different account, at first I wasn't sure who's it was.... until I saw a whole bunch of sent emails to women saying his description (which was my boyfriends) and to meet him at Starbucks, and so forth. I confronted him right away. of course he amited to the emails, and chatting, but he denied ever meeting with anyone , and claims they never respond to his email. I really really wish I can get in the email to check it then I might find out more info. what an asshole,. I'm sorry but if he's doing something like that, he probably is cheating. I don't believe my boyfriend at all. he said he's sorry and promised not to ever go chatting or any thing, but ya right? and now he's talking about getting married! I don't know what to do. I told my sister right away and she said to get out now, because it will only get worse. things may get better for a while, but once back into routine.... it will happen again.

I would say he's probably cheating. Sorry.